GeraldDarko posted... Do you mind if I ask why she doesn't want to see anyone?
I sadly don't know. For the first couple months she was in the nursing home, she was paranoid and terrified and didn't want to be left alone. I would visit her for about 4 hours every day because of this. She would spend the entire time I was with her just talking about how scared she was, everything she thought was wrong, and dismissing anything I had to say that would try putting any positive light on things. Then one day when I went for a visit, she just told me to go home. I tried talking to her and asking what was wrong or why she didn't want me there and she just refused to talk about it.
And for the record, I do not think at all she was being abused by staff. My mother has dementia and possibly alzheimer's. She wasn't doing well physically or mentally before getting put into the nursing home. I think her mind just broke. She was reading books the first couple months there but eventually stopped reading. I asked her if she wanted me to bring in a TV or anything for entertainment but she just said no to everything. All she did was lay in bed. Never got up to do any of the activities they have at the nursing home or talk to any of the other residents.
Last time I saw her was September 2022 when my sister and I worked on getting her hospice, which didn't last very long since she wasn't actively dying, but when I went into her room with the hospice worker, my mother just looked at me like I was a stranger and didn't talk. I don't even know if she knows who I am at this point if I were to try seeing her again, or if she would even have anything to say.