Should I be more empathetic?
If you have to ask, you should already know the answer.But like the real question that I want to ask is
But I don't like that we're supposed to treat them the same as people with allergies, celiac, or other diet affecting diseases.
Thankfully she ended up just choosing off the a la carte menu for a separate dish SO AS TO NOT MAKE IT EVERYONE'S PROBLEM. But it ruins the vibes of KBBQ!
There are more intolerances than just celiac.OK and
Coming from a family of bourgondian meat eaters, where no one was ever bothered by family members turning pesco- or even vegetarian, even at the family BBQ. All I can say is you are definitely overreacting and this is purely a you issue.The way you selectively responded to certain sections of my original posts and completely ignored others makes me feel like you are ignoring the context of this
you didnt respond to my question you just took an opportunity to "correct" someone in a very asinine way, which is silly cause I put a catch all at the end of the list because I wasn't going to list every dietary intolerance rofl
This might be a cultural thing, but only the food intolerances caused by diseases, are diseases.OK that's fair enough I guess. I edited to remove ambiguity (hopefully)
Cheese is just gross. I don't like the taste, I don't like the gooey texture, it ruins everything it touches.OK but u understand that not all cheeses are Velveeta queso dip, yes?
OK that's fair enough I guess. I edited to remove ambiguity (hopefully)
Like people who can't eat meat because of the texture. Various other examples. Generally also manifests with one or two comfort items that they almost exclusively eat and an extreme aversion to trying new foods.arv was watching snowflake mountain and this girl that was a vegetarian wouldnt wash dishes that had meat on them. The rest of the group applauded her for her bravery and heroism of being vegetarian
I feel like this portion of the population is extra visible due to online activity, so it's probably not any real significant phenomenon that affects most people. But holy shit when you're 25+ years old and can't eat anything but French fries I automatically assume your mother never forced you to eat new things and let you temper tantrum your way into Mac n cheese again because "that's the only thing he/she eats"
Probably untrue, people deal with stuff I probably don't understand. But I don't like that we're supposed to treat them the same as people with allergies, celiac, or other dietary diseases/intolerances.
I think that's a personal issue and when you make it other people's problems that's really selfish and annoying. Is this a bad thing to feel? Should I be more empathetic?
arv was watching snowflake mountain and this girl that was a vegetarian wouldnt wash dishes that had meat on them. The rest of the group applauded her for her bravery and heroism of being vegetarian
Cheese is just gross. I don't like the taste, I don't like the gooey texture, it ruins everything it touches.Fucking heretic.
That's all I got. I don't give a rat's ass about TC's inability to understand basic food preferences.i don't care about preferences
When I was 6 or so, I went to my babysitters house for a full day. School was out for some reason. She fed her kids blueberry pancakes. I told her I didn't want them. I don't remember if I made any demands for something different. I don't believe I did, but it was a fuck of a long time ago.Same story but with me it was a sandwich with some suspicious looking white stuff on it. She said it was fine, I refused to eat it. Everyone else called me a baby and gave me an attitude, saying I was ruining everything. I had to sit there for 6 hours until I was sent to bed.
She told me I could sit there until I ate my blueberry pancakes.
This was at like 6am...
My mother woke me up at 4:30pm when she came to pick me up. I was sleeping sitting up at the kitchen table, bent over with my face nearly planted on the cold and gooey blueberry pancakes.
I refused to eat.
Probably untrueIt's not. People that are grown and still eat like that absolutely temperature tantrumed their weak parents into eating junk food. Otherwise, they wouldn't be like that. Also, eating only the few foods you're comfortable with instead of whatever is in front of you is a privilege
Remember kids: having an eating disorder as an adult just means your parents didn't adequately beat it out of you.Who said anything about beating? Some people grow up in circumstances where they don't have a choice but to eat what there is. Also, all the picky grown ups that i know don't have eating disorders. They're just man babies that wanna eat nuggies and pizza for every meal lol
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Spoken like someone without a toddler lol. Sure, I'm not letting them starve but if you let a toddler get their way with food all the time they'll just be eating cookies and mac n cheese and shit. I'd argue it's abusive to give a toddler junk food instead of being patient and making sure they actually eat a well balanced meal. When i see parents with 10 year olds eating garbage food i feel bad for the child. Spoiling your child like that is literally abusive. You can actually give them all sorts of dietary issues that may not show up until adolescence or adulthood
I don't have ARFID, but I am a picky eater. I don't want to be, I just am. If certain foods or textures enter my mouth I just start gagging or throwing up.
But holy shit when you're 25+ years old and can't eat anything but French friesJust because people online seem incapable of reading things in a way that doesn't make them want to argue about some dumb shit, this is what my posts have been referencing the entire time, as i made pretty clear in my first response. There are a lot of adults like this that literally refuse to eat anything but junk food garbage... and yes that is generally a result of lazy parents who let their kids eat whatever would get them to shut up the fastest. It's not the result of eating disorders. It's spoiled children who grew up with parents that never allowed them to expand their taste beyond nuggets
There are a lot of adults like this that literally refuse to eat anything but junk food garbage... and yes that is generally a result of lazy parents who let their kids eat whatever would get them to shut up the fastest. It's not the result of eating disorders. It's spoiled children who grew up with parents that never allowed them to expand their taste beyond nuggets
Have your tastes not changed as an adult? Have you not acquired new tastes, or tried something you thought you weren't big on in a context that you did enjoy? Why, then, do you insist that these adults are set in their ways purely because their upbringing never forced them to branch out?Do you think that eating disorders can be created in people? Or are most cases from a genetic predisposition?
Being spoiled as kids explains how they got there. It doesn't explain why they stay there. Being adamantly unwilling to try anything else or unable to enjoy it is absolutely disordered eating. That generally either suggests anxiety around trying new things or some manner of addiction to the things they do eat (which other foods don't satisfy, which is particularly relevant with high-sugar stuff). Maybe their parents are to blame for that. Maybe not. It doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of focusing on results and not self-righteous finger-pointing.
On a much smaller scale but slightly related note, I'm never inviting one friend to KBBQ again because she made the whole ordeal just a bit more difficult because she failed to disclose she's avoiding pork againif youre obsessed with what other people want to eat, you are the weirdo ruining the vibe
Meanwhile almost everything the rest of the group wanted to get was pork
Thankfully she ended up just choosing off the a la carte menu for a separate dish SO AS TO NOT MAKE IT EVERYONE'S PROBLEM. But it ruins the vibes of KBBQ!
Do you think that eating disorders can be created in people? Or are most cases from a genetic predisposition?
Remember kids: having an eating disorder as an adult just means your parents didn't adequately beat it out of you.
Stop judging people. You're not the food police. Yes, you're the jerk in these kind of situations. (Of course, this answer only matters if you're truly curious, and not just looking for confirmation bias on your own opinions.)
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Being a picky eater isn't a disorder.
Do we have to point out how you harassed a rape victim repeatedly? You're literally the last person to ever talk about being kind to people.This from the guy who unapologetically committed a DUI and could have killed someone. You're throwing stones from inside a glass house. Also, you know full well I didn't harass a person for being raped.