distance... Well kinda - let me explain. I live in Atlanta and she lives in Charlotte (roughly 4 hours away by car). I met her on bumble back in February. I'm a consultant and have been traveling to Charlotte every week (Monday-Thursday) since January. Anyway things have been going over well and we've both hinted at things getting more serious laterly, but she recently freaked out at the thought because I don't actually live in Charlotte.

We had a long convo this week about things and she kept saying that if I lived in Charlotte the decision to date me wouldn't require any thought. While I don't live in Charlotte I have the choice to stay there over the weekend and have done so many times recently to hang out with her. I used this as my argument and she just wants me to move, but also said that's just her being selfish...

Now here's the kicker. I have the choice to actually move to Charlotte while on this project and do corporate housing for a 3 month period. During that time I wouldn't pay rent (lease is ending soon in Atlanta) and food would still be expensed, but after the 3 month period there would be a good chance that i'm placed on another project that probably wouldn't be in Charlotte. She knows this and in her words she mentioned, "What happens if we get serious and you're placed on another project outside of Charlotte?"

Now i'm totally interested in this girl and want a long-term thing with her and regardless of where I live i'm willing to make things work with her. Despite our age differences (i'm 29, she's 24) shes' pretty mature for her age and has an amazing job.

What should I do?
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"When you live for others' opinions, you are dead. I don't want to live thinking about how I'll be remembered"- Carlos Slim Helu

A girl i've been talking to for 2 months is afraid to date me because of long..

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