That would be because your "honest discussion" consists of "I think I know better than doctors how to treat gender dysphoria and I don't care how many people die because of my opinion and my inflated sense of self-importance."

There's no such thing as "trans ideology." The only "ideology" at play is "we should treat people who are sick with what we currently understand to be the best available treatment." Nobody objects to that. Those who object to trans people do so entirely because they're transphobic dongmoogles. They can hide it behind as many layers of "think of the children!" as they want, but 100% of that boils down to the simple fact that they don't like trans people and are afraid of anything that might result in more of them (especially if their kid ends up being "converted"). That fucking kills people. Trying to hide all mention of gender identity or block gender-affirming care does not stop trans people from existing. It just stops them from coming out of the closet and getting the care they need to treat their gender dysphoria, which has horrific consequences for their mental health and is one of the major reasons suicide rates are so astronomically high among trans people (35-50% attempt rate, depending on where they are, with more transphobic regions having a higher rate).

There is no "honest conversation about trans ideology." There's just a bunch of transphobic doogiemuggins thinking their ignorant prejudice deserves a spot at the table with actual science and medicine and evidence-based analyses of what actually helps people and yields the best health outcomes. It doesn't. You're not helping, and neither are any of those other millions of "normal people with kids" that think transphobia constitutes competent parenting because Fox News told them it does. Fuck off and let science do its goddamn job.

If you have concerns that you feel are legitimate because you genuinely don't understand the issue, frame them as such: Asking for clarification on a subject you don't understand. People don't get modded for asking questions about gender dysphoria and transgenderism in a good faith effort to educate themselves. If you're getting modded, it's because you're expressing your opinion not as a genuine effort to learn about the issue, but rather in a way that seeks to invalidate an entire minority that's currently the GOP's punching bag.