Current Events > Why is being a virgin a turnoff for girls but not for guys?

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Like a guy doesn't turn down sex because a girl is a virgin.

Double standards.

Virgin guy: bad at sex
Virgin gal: won't know I'm bad at sex

Cultural norms and stereotypes

Men court & approach women and are 'chasing' so a sexually unaccomplished man can be inferred to be low quality in some way or effeminate for failing to fulfill the male's role of convincing a mate

Sexually accomplished women get inferred as having low standards or being unvirtuous for failing to fulfill the woman's role of being selective about her mate

^Not my opinions on how dating should be but I think these both exist in our culture passed down from history

Everything is viewed through the perspective of being a straight guy.

new pole shows women prefer virgin men. "Why buy used when you can buy new" One stated.

Dakimakura posted...

new pole

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mDqsgbtpDLk

Toxic femininity

Dakimakura posted...

new pole shows women prefer virgin men. "Why buy used when you can buy new" One stated.

got some sauce for that pole?

Solution_45 posted...

got some sauce for that pole?

Your mom

Men want someone who can't compare them to anyone else and can be more easily coerced into things.

Women want someone who might actually go down on them or just knows roughly what they should be doing.

ellis123 posted...

Everything is viewed through the perspective of being a straight guy.

Tbf, that can be blamed on defaulting to the majority. Which we all do in different areas. Any general conversation is gonna fall to the largest base to generalize until you dig deeper yourself.

Im a very skinny guy. 130 at 5'10". Any weight struggle conversation is gonna default to the overweight talking points, because that's more common. I have to guide the conversation to skinny people for it to be talked about.

Unless we are in a room specifically for gay people or skinny people, we're not gonna be the go to. It can be as simple as numbers.

It's not that we're less important, it's that we're less common.

Gender stereotypes.

Ya know.
I don't even think that being a virgin is actually a turnoff for girls.

Should be pretty obvious why.

Lost_All_Senses posted...

Tbf, that can be blamed on defaulting to the majority. Which we all do in different areas. Any general conversation is gonna fall to the largest base to generalize until you dig deeper yourself.

Then it would default to straight women and not men.

It has everything to men historically having all the power, thus the fetishes will be tailored exclusively through that lens.

virgins are a turn off for me. to be crude, i need somebody that knows what to do with a dick.

72 virgins in heaven sounds awful lol.

Instincts. Men and women have different predispositions of what makes a high value mate. Women want a mate who has been 'pre-selected' by many other women.

Pretty sure a good chunk of guys would wonder why a woman who is like 27 or something is a virgin

Blue_Inigo posted...

Pretty sure a good chunk of guys would wonder why a woman who is like 27 or something is a virgin

If a guy would say he's unattracted to that woman it'd be because she's 27 not that she's a virgin

Straight guys have a habit of being very, very immature

Blue_Inigo posted...

Pretty sure a good chunk of guys would wonder why a woman who is like 27 or something is a virgin

asexual? trauma? just not finding anyone they'd get to that point with or want to do it with? abstinence until marriage?

lots of people have different and valid reasons, and they shouldn't be immediately judged just because they didn't slap the ham. Not everyone's priority is sex and not everyone does one night stands or has sex with someone they haven't been dating for long

Doe posted...

If a guy would say he's unattracted to that woman it'd be because she's 27 not that she's a virgin

That's not even old, sad

A dick entering you is far more invasive than entering a vagina.

Kakapo posted...

Straight guys have a habit of being very, very immature

Well that's a ridiculous generalization.

Doe posted...

If a guy would say he's unattracted to that woman it'd be because she's 27 not that she's a virgin

If your smart youd jump for joy and realize you got a unicorn on your hands

Guys tend to want sex, so if a guy is still a virgin past a certain age it makes it look like he's undesirable.

I would not waste my time with a virgin woman.

I think that most women would not give a shit that youre a virgin if they actually like you.

Doe posted...

If a guy would say he's unattracted to that woman it'd be because she's 27 not that she's a virgin

My girlfriend was a virgin at 24. Not uncommon here. Different cultures and all that.

ellis123 posted...

Then it would default to straight women and not men.

It has everything to men historically having all the power, thus the fetishes will be tailored exclusively through that lens.

There's like 10-20 straight women here and like 300 straight men >_>. No one is gonna have an isdue with the women debating in this topic. It's just that due to numbers, it's highly likely it'll be mostly straight men. I just feel like there's no answer to satisfy you. Cause if it defaulted to gay men, then it would be "why are straight guys so obsessed with what gay men are doing?" Lol.

Isn't being basic framed as a bad thing as well? If you're defaulted to, you're the basic.

Also ...what fetish are we talking about? Did I miss something? You hadn't quoted anyone and this topic isn't about fetishes.

Glob posted...

I think that most women would not give a shit that youre a virgin if they actually like you.

FACTS

Because experienced girls are more likely to put out than virgin girls and they know what they are doing.

This isnt even a thing women care about, its guys that care about virginity

Glob posted...

I think that most women would not give a shit that youre a virgin if they actually like you.

This. Many of them will actually become excited about taking your virginity and would want to make your first time special and memorable.

Irony posted...

Toxic femininity

Nope, patriarchy .

pauIie posted...

virgins are a turn off for me. to be crude, i need somebody that knows what to do with a dick.

72 virgins in heaven sounds awful lol.

My friend used to joke about how if it were him he'd ask for just three bad bitches instead lol

Questionmarktarius posted...

Virgin guy: bad at sex
Virgin gal: won't know I'm bad at sex

Basically this, and a lot of dudes like the idea of popping cherries.

Scarecrow17 posted...

This. Many of them will actually become excited about taking your virginity and would want to make your first time special and memorable.

it takes confidence to pull it off a lot of guys lack that.

A man who is a virgin is seen as someone who no other woman wants, he has no game, and he cant get women or has zero chances with women due to something about him. Men have to work and put forth effort to get sex and experience with women.

Women who are virgins are seen as women who are not sleeping around except that goes out the window when you factor in oral sex and anal sex.

I saw a reddit post about this topic recently. The woman was 30 and 50 some sexual sexual parteners. She complained that he didn't know how to sex and was awkward with that stuff. It was likely he had no experience or little. It was really turning her off.

Heavy_D_Forever posted...

Well that's a ridiculous generalization.

Sorry, autocorrect.

that was supposed to be insecure

Girls want a guy that can take them to Poundtown..

Turbam posted...

Ya know.
I don't even think that being a virgin is actually a turnoff for girls.

According to a reddit AMA with some girls from the bunny ranch they recommend you tell them if you're a virgin because some of them really like that.

If you're looking for a quick hook up they care. If she want's to date you I doubt it matters. And frankly being a virgin is the least of your problems for hooking up.