Lurker > jedisamurai

gamepimp12 posted...

not at all, people just tried to infer a lot of things that werent the case, as evident as you did.

even still I wouldnt call it a FWB considering the amount we do for each other and the conversations we have regarding our relationship and where we stand.

if we wanted a relationship (again our personal situations make that unfeasable) Im pretty confident wed both pick each other.

Okay, real simple question then, so nobody has to infer anything. Have you had sex with this woman? And just so that you don't try to Bill Clinton us, by sex, I want to be clear that I mean "has she willingly let you put your penis inside of her vagina, mouth, or anus and caused you to ejaculate?

If she has, then cool bro, it's not weird to pay for her coffee. If she hasn't, then yeah it's weird to buy her two months of coffee. Cause again, if you wouldn't do the same exact thing for your guy friends who you also don't have sex with, then it's weird.

gamepimp12 posted...

orrrr I dont feel the need to prove anything to strangers, who already have their own perceptions

yall never asked why I dont want a relationship just assumed Im lying Lmaoo

The creation of this topic kinda says otherwise.

As it relates to women, one lesson needs to be learned above all others. Whipping out your wallet or your dick unsolicited is never a good idea. Ever.

And I'm gonna call straight up bullshit on your claim of friends. If you're just friends as you say....would you buy your guy friend's coffee for the rest of the year? I highly doubt it. You might pick up his coffee or a beer sometime if you're out maybe, but you wouldn't do what you're proposing.

SRR Capdown posted...

Because he definitely wants one, but she has either already rejected him or he doesn't have the guts to ask her out. And the fact he's being so coy about it all definitely screams that they're just friends.

This. Do both her and you a favor. If you've been rejected, never initiate contact again. If you don't have the guts, then now's the time to cowboy up, ask her out making it clear that the friend zone is not an option, and accept her response. No matter what, you're past the point of a true "just friendship" being possible and it does her a disservice to pretend otherwise.

There's lots of good advice so far certainly, but if you really want to get better, the key is self-accountability, and I have one foolproof suggestion....

If you hang a piece, you resign. Immediately. No excuses, no trying to save the game, no trying to "time out" your opponent if it's a blitz game. If you're rated much higher, and you know you can come back....it doesn't matter. And most importantly, if your opponent misses the hanged piece you still resign.

Eventually, after making the same mistakes, you'll get annoyed enough to stop doing it and see a big jump in your game.

Good chess players just don't hang pieces, period. And when you play someone who's good, if you hang one, you don't recover anyway, they make you pay for it.

To be clear, getting the worst of an exchange is not what I'm talking about (eventually we all face opponents who are just better and just keep winning exchanges until they finish it). I'm just talking about just losing a piece with no compensation

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