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Topicdon't you just love a huge slice of raw onion in your burger
YUNASBFGIR
04/29/18 5:57:22 PM
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TopicIt's 9:30, how long have you been at work and what have you accomplished so far?
YUNASBFGIR
03/14/18 10:10:51 AM
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I took the day off. However, by now I would have prepared and served snack, gone over the calendar and weather, read a story, and would be starting to work on worksheets and other projects with my students.
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TopicQuestion regarding divorce and ethics.
YUNASBFGIR
03/14/18 10:08:53 AM
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Cocytus posted...
maoriwarrior posted...
Ive left my wife of a year 3 times due to alcoholism, abuse, and lying. (Towards me)

What about your vows? Did you promise to love her and keep her only if she don't have too many big problems? Are you a fair-weather husband? When the going gets tough, you get going? You gonna leave her when she needs you the most? Or when you married her did you promise to love her and be with her no matter what?


This is crap. You know that is not actually healthy or useful advice. She's clearly self destructive and manipulating him. She is not fulfilling her vows too. Also, the idea of death do we part marriage is really kinda toxic. You shouldn't make those kinds of promises because you don't really know what the future brings. You can do your best to support your partner, but at the end of the day there's a limit. Yes, you should try and help your partner through the day by day and generally be there for them. However, addiction is a tricky subject. Yes it is a sickness, but it's not like other sicknesses. It's not like supporting your spouse through cancer or the like. They are destroying their own bodies and minds and need to take it upon themselves to get their lives back on track.

TC: I think you know that it is time to go. You may be able to make it work in a few years, but right now it is not going to do either of you any favors to stay together.
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