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No_U_L7 posted...

what tv show is a comedy film noir...i would love that tbh

Kind of sounds like an oxymoron right? But watch, "I'm Dying Up Here." It's so funny but also very sad.There's an underlying theme that involves existential crisis, infidelity, and a whole lot of backstabbing behavior. I felt like I was laughing but also crying because of how it's so relatable to my pathetic life. The show just polarizes on those dark themes. Highly recommend.

MICHALECOLE posted...

Ms maisel is so good

Is it comedy or comedy film noir? "I'm dying up here" is also a very good comedy series. It's really dark though.

I get along great with every member except for one person, whom I believe is partly racist. Her attitude and tone towards to me is very condescending, and she happens to be 180 degrees different when it comes to others. I've always been polite to her and I don't think I did anything to cross the line; my behavior has always been neutral. The only difference is that I'm Asian and every member of my group is from the south. Maybe she has an implicit bias towards me that she isn't conscious of? I want to give it the benefit of doubt, but every time I'm in the group, my stomach feels nauseous. I want to address this with other members but the fear of making the situation awkward and being seen as dramatic, prevents me from doing so.

What should I do? Should I just ditch the group and find other friends? I can say with 99% certainty that this women does not like me. I think confronting her would only intensify the situation into her gaslighting me as somebody unnecessarily dramatic.

Psychiatrist: What seems to be the problem?
Patient: I think I'm a chicken.
Psychiatrist: How long has this been going on?
Patient: Ever since I came out of my shell.

Trumble posted...

Because you touch yourself at night.

is the chicken crossing the road to get away from me?

Can you use math to find out the reason? Or is this a philosophical question?

codey posted...

Yeah, I'm a journalist and I get days like that often enough, where I can type for an hour and get maybe a paragraph. Usually it just means I need to get more rest, but sometimes it means I need to lay off the weed for a few weeks and reset my system.

This is interesting. I always presumed that any type of job that's writing intensive would have writers that can jam out a couple pages per hour. I see some guys on here that can respond to a comment within minutes and come up with a whole paragraph of explanations. Are they just an exception?

I'm currently taking a law class and the language used is sometimes very awkward and unnecessarily complex. It's a type of writing that I had to get used to by reading the case briefs over and over until it became muscle memory. On the downside I noticed, it seems to affect my writing when it comes to expressing my thoughts with clarity. It makes my writing seem like I'm trying to over intellectualize a sentence, partly due to my muscle memory from law class taking over.

I need help. Has anybody else experienced this? I feel like the jargon and confusing syntax used in law class, is compromising my ability to express my thoughts with clarity. I really want to go back into writing and posting on reddit everyday, but I'm now self conscious that my writing has atrophied greatly. Any advice? Personal experience and tips are greatly appreciated.

TheWizardOfOrz posted...

*Leads me to believe

Sharp. I just noticed the irony.

i noticed the person trying to review my paper, doesnt know how to write themselves. Their paper is full of awkward sentence structures and incorrect conjunctions that give the impression that English may be their second or third language. Now, when theyre reviewing my paper, I noticed that there are incorrect corrections made to areas where grammar and syntax are fine. This leaves me to think that my peer reviewer is correcting my paper based on what they falsely presume is grammatically correct; which is far from accurate. So, as Im reading the corrections made on my paper, I see marks that shouldnt be there. It makes me completely discredit their opinion because they dont know anything themselves. I really dont understand the point of getting advice from a bad writer; wont they just set you up for failure?

Irony posted...

Yes everyday because I use voice to text and sometimes it's kind of shit

I think your ability to write vs using voice to text are mutually exclusive.

It seems like I cant bring myself to remember simple grammatical rules on the days Im feeling low energy. I misplace my commas easily and I cant seem to properly articulate my thoughts with proper flow/syntax. My sentences sound choppy giving off the impression that English may be my second language, even if its not.

Do any of you ever experience this? Im concerned if this is just temporary or Im suffering from mental atrophy

DKBananaSlamma posted...

Saying "you look like you have a nuanced opinion on the age of consent" is unbeatable. How do you even respond to that?

Yes. I believe they should be at least 30. *mic drop*

Tyranthraxus posted...

IDK who you've been talking to but it ain't narcissists

Check your privilege! lol sorry I had to try.

I've noticed from my experience that it gets them to feel a bit of cognitive dissonance. Instead of thinking that they're always right, it puts them on the spotlight, and makes them think, if what they're saying will warrant the same validation they're used to receiving. In a sense it makes them feel insecure and becomes an effective method for shutting them up.

So guys. Check your privilege! Before yo wreck yo self.

SomeLikeItHoth posted...

Go to a laundry mat. They have bigger washers there.

The laundry mat nearby is really sketchy. Plus I dont have a car so Im at the mercy of just walking.

Im going to honest here and reveal the fact that as a man nearing his 40s, I have never washed my comforters; only because they were always too big to fit in the washer. When it starts to smell peculiar, from all the single night time activities, I just end up throwing it away and purchase a new one. Ive been doing this for several years now and I am now realizing how disgusting this behavior is. Please help me become an adult.

As a millennial, I find pronouns to be extremely cumbersome. What are the rules exactly? Can Cindy suddenly decide she wants to be a HE/HIM then switch back to SHE/HER? I feel like this opens a whole can of complexity. For example, can someone in prison claim to be "she/her," in order to get switched to different group, even when that person clearly looks like a poster child for male masculinity? It seems highly exploitable.

So does that mean, if I put, "I identify as an ambulance, and my pronouns are wee/woo," would people have to refer to me as wee or woo? Wee decided to take a wee-wee *no pun intended*

Anteaterking posted...

It's hard to imagine this hypothetical world as just being "Everything else is the same but now houses are really cheap".

??? I think you're misinterpreting something or I'm just missing something. *Houses* are far more short term in Japan than America, but I don't think that impacts *property* ownership.

I think there's a lot of causal link to social capital and the happiness index scale when it comes to the housing market. Simply, unaffordable housing = miserable people. Miserable people = low happiness.

Yes, I was trying to point out that because the housing market is short term in Japan. You basically buy a house to live in for 20-30 years and it gets broken down as the land is used to build other homes (you don't get to own the land in most cases). This impacts the price of the housing market as it makes it deflationary. Who is going to buy a house when there's no investment value? That drives down the price of homes and makes it affordable to rent or purchase. People can use the money they would have spent on rent/mortgage and spend it on something else.

Questionmarktarius posted...

I'd rather have to look for places I can actually afford, than being told which grey apartment block by the mercury smelter I'm going to live in (or else).

DKBananaSlamma posted...

same

but what if the houses were much cheaper? If you were given the luxury to choose, it becomes a bidding war between everyone that wants the same location. Wouldn't that be a repeat of the same issues we're currently having?

CanuckCowboy posted...

Either this or anyone willing should be filly allowed to go into the bush onto crown land (or whatever its called outside of canada) and build what they want and live off the land as long as that person doesn't expect any power or sewage or whatever beyond what they can do for themselves. Also it would have to be the sole residence and inhabited by no one other than the person building it... cause if not rich people would destroy every natural place left.

or maybe a huge government intervention where the housing market is strictly controlled. So you're given maybe 2 acres of land but you have to return it after death.

CADE_FOSTER posted...

Housing should be a right and not for profit tbh

EXACTLY.
Imagine if every millennial and gen z bought houses, what would happen to the price of homes for the younger generation? With the job market becoming even more scarce, it'll become increasingly difficult to afford housing in order maintain their livelihood.

This is where capitalism will fail.

If housing in the US was deflationary and instead of thinking it as an investment, you only get to live there until you're dead--sort of similar to how Japan is running their economy--would the welfare of our country increase?

There would be less foreclosures, and presumably people would be able to afford services and goods relative to their income, instead of spending a great deal of money on rent/mortgages as the equity for their house goes up or down according to demand. With scarcity in mind, having ownership of land seems ridiculous, especially when you consider the fact that people are buying multiple houses expecting a stream of income, when in reality you only need one home to live in. With the way the housing market is running in the US, it makes me think that the numbers have become politicized and that it exist only to show that our GDP is exponentially increasing. When in reality, the sentiment and welfare of people could vastly differ.

I always feel like they flex their knowledge and throw jargon, making everybody in the room feel stupid. I can't help but think they look down on every other major because it doesn't involve the same math intensity or critical thinking as them. This isn't too common with CS and other stem majors; I just see a huge commonality in just physics. What gives? I always feel like the dumbest guy in the room whenever someone starts talking about theoretical physics.

Anony1125 posted...

man it sure would suck to be rich and beautiful and have people care about you

Maybe as a guy but for a women? I'd imagine the hyper-sexualization would be insane. Imagine having a PhD in physics, only to be hired because of your looks from a creepy boss who has nothing but the worst intentions.

AzNDarkSamurai posted...

thats why everyone says its lonely at the top. you have no idea if friends or relationships you have are truly genuine if you are pretty or if you are rich.

Really? But I see a completely different reaction from guys that are on the top. They seem perfectly content and happy.

I can't help but feel like it would be terrible. You would constantly deal with cognitive dissonance, especially if you grew up entitled with everybody calling you "pretty" all your life. Your expectations and what society expects would be completely incongruent, making you more frustrated because nothing is working your way. I'd imagine having genuine friendships would be complicated because you're always trying to maintain a certain status quo. Being a pretty girl sounds terrible. I'm glad I'm disgusting.

Can someone show me an actual funny meme that requires some thought process?

Supersex420 posted...

How seriously will you take me if I respond to you directly?

If you're being serious then pretty seriously.

I see a random image with a cat and it says, "meow because I'm a cat" and some people find it to be hilarious. I just don't get it. It's nothing compared to the witty comic images I used to see in newspapers; there's no deep thought process behind.

Like this image for example: https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/5/9/6/AAfYCkAAETDE.jpg

why is it funny? Is it because the cat is frowning? Am I just really stupid?

WTF? That means people can work at senior communities to "network" and find someone potentially single with no next of kin, and plan to stay there for a few months before anybody notices. Squatters shouldn't have these rights.

Euripides posted...

Who, the subjective pronoun, is the doer of an action. For example, That's the girl who scored the goal. It is the subject of scored because the girl was doing the scoring. Then, whom, as the objective pronoun, receives the action. For instance, Whom do you like best? It is the object of like.

so is it correct to say, "my sibling whom I haven't spoken to?"

Joey who I thought was my friend
Whom should I give this to? who should I give this to?
I give up.

ChocoboMogALT posted...

Assume implies without evidence, presume implies some thought process.

So in that case if I use presume for everything, will it make me sound like I'm thinking instead of speaking out of my arse?

I presume that this method would cause point B to change point A's direction
I assumed that this method would cause point B to change point A's direction

I presumed that toilets were different in Europe
I assumed that toilets were different in Europe

It all sounds the same!!!!

bluezero posted...

Yes

There should be a market for simps just wanting to get their hair washed.

As I get my hair washed at a salon by some chick I find attractive, I'm noticing her hands washing my oily scalp as she runs through my curls with her fingers. Suddenly there's water running down my hair and she massages my scalp once more making the experience even more relaxing. Now I'm laying back and all I can see are the underneath cup marks of my stylist's breasts. Suddenly I'm conscious that she's a hot attractive women and my breathing gets heavier which shouldn't happen, since the washing experience should be reflexive and automated. Am I wrong to find the washing experience sexual? Are the stylists aware that people are getting turned on? I wouldn't want the chick washing my hair to expect that I'm feeling the same way and secretly condemn me.

I feel like this is a question people are too afraid to ask.

TaylorHeinicke posted...

pretty much after college when i set foot into the real world.

your apartment neighbors will always be assholes who bang on the walls, play loud ass music, and continue to give zero fucks that they share walls. that hasnt changed in the seven years ive lived in apartments/townhomes. thank god that comes to an end this month when i close on my house.

people will always bring their screaming ass kids onto airplanes and into restaurants and give zero fucks that they are subjecting other people to the same misery that they deal with 24/7 as a result of their mistakes.

drivers who value arriving one minute earlier over being a dangerous fucking moron on the road

more will come

Good list so far

Aridi posted...

But why did Joe call Cindy the B word?

Alcohol I presume...

What did you guys do about it? Did your life get better afterwards?

Crossing the threshold into my mid thirties, I'm starting to realize that my tolerance for people's behavior has significantly lowered. I won't hesitate to cut off ties and move on, if I believe the newly formed relationship (acquaintance) is a hindrance to my mental health. Which is surprising to me, because a few years ago, I would have been that guy trying to please everybody in anyway I can.

For example, there's a social group in my class I've recently been accepted in. Thinking that I made new friends, I was excited to share my interests, values and goals, only to be disappointed that the only common interest they share is the penchant to gossip. Mind you, I'm nothing like that and I've put that part of me behind several years ago. So on a whim, I cut all contact with that group. I stopped responding to messages and my interactions in class have been extremely surface level.

Were my actions justified? As I get older, I'm realizing my time is extremely valuable and wasting energy on people that I deem no value is only going to give me diminishing returns. This type of mentality has made me alone, but as a result, I have been more productive lately. I'm able to expend my concentration on new projects without spending 10% of my thought process worrying why Joe decided to call Cindy the B word? It's ridiculous thinking about it.

The_X_Dawg posted...

The ~$2000 includes utilities, internet, gas, food/drink, going out, entertainment, buying stuff I like, etc. Literally the cost of living my life.

With inflation and all, I hear lap dances are expensive these days.

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Maybe...but why do I get the feeling that you're on the higher end of the pecking scale?
rexcrk posted...

As someone who isnt very attractive and isnt very interesting that hierarchy has been a part of my whole life tbh.

Right? Thank goodness for VR porn. It temporarily puts a bandaid on that aching soul for sure.

I hear stories of a more simple time, where person A meets random person B at some outing at the big apple. Not considering anything other than the company of each otherno real concern in looks, status, or moneythey fall in love and get married happily ever after.

Forward the time to today:
IE. Person A has to be 6 feet and they need a higher paying job to date me (because look at me I'm so pretty with my billion followers). Person B has leverage, as the ratio of A group to B group is significantly higher in the dating scene. If person B wanted to, they could be picky and reject advances until they find someone worthy, resulting in excess supply of group As. Where does that leave the people in that group? They're fending off for the left over Bs in a battle of onlyfans subscription, act of simping by buying things on their amazon list, and even courting methods that cross the line into sugar babying.

So overweight, uneducated people like me, have no option but to believe the left over Bs are only with them because they couldn't find an A category male that fit their criteria. That's not a relationship based on real intimacy. Where is the genuineness of love that our older generations experienced? Does it even exist now?

How about, can you stop swearing at me?

It just bothers me that every time I see someone sneezing, there's multiple people that are compelled to say bless you. What is even the point? Who are you to bless someone? You're not a priest or a pope and certainly not someone I know. What if the person is a satanist or from a completely different religion/culture? Then saying bless you would be the equivalent of telling someone trying to lose weight, that they should eat more cake.

Not only is it presumptuous behavior, but you have to pause what you're doing and thank them back. I've always found this process to be incredibly encumbering. So I'm thinking to myself, what can I do to make this behavior tolerable for me? The short answer: I'll say Satan curses you to die.

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In that sense, am I rude for not responding in the same fashion? I've always wondered about this.

I think my communications skills have atrophied so much where I've noticed me replying to "how's it going" with a simple "heeey."
But when I hear other people greeting, it usually goes like this:
"How's it going Bob?,
"I'm good, Joel you?"
"I'm good thanks."

Is it really necessary to reply back with the same answer? It kind of seems insincere and a waste of couple seconds if there's nothing said that will extend the conversation. Wouldn't a simple hello or hey, suffice instead?

While the likelihood of someone with a porn fetish becoming a porn star is close to none. There should be psychological evaluations done on doctor's fetish and sexual preferences, so that in the future if there are any cases regarding tort/criminal law, there's evidence to prove intentionality.

hexa posted...

This guy is called an "alpha male"

As Kim_Seong-a said, instead of confronting the alpha male directly, go to the professor's office hours. tell the professor that you feel that the alpha male is being too pushy, and to keep an eye on the guy's pushing away the other students

Can I just go on his facebook and message his wife that he's flirting with girls half his age? I should probably use a VPN. But then again, would I feel guilty afterwards? I don't know.