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They're a decade late but good for them I guess

Heartomaton posted...

For every person that sees you as "low-value" because you don't have much and/or haven't done much, there's another person who doesn't. You just have to keep plugging away at your chosen method of talking to [insert what type of person you're into] until you find that person, be it online or off.

I've never had the privilege of having a "type" and even now I don't know what my type would be. I'm terrified to find out because in my mind, I'm viewing it as a matter of "what the fuck is wrong with this person to where they find me attractive and want to be around me?". I don't like drinking and find most social events exhausting and uncomfortable so it's not like I'm gonna find someone at a bar or concert or whatever it is normal people do for fun.

Personally I'd suggest looking and seeing if where you live has a mental health resources center. Here, it's called MHMR, but I'm not sure if it's called that everywhere. I have no money to pay for therapy, but through them, I'm at least getting some small amount of help for free.

I've tried many times in the past. In my area the quality of sliding-scale therapy is really, really bad. When I could afford therapy, the consensus between them all was that I'm difficult to treat because I have an unorthodox degree of self awareness regarding my issues, which I can't use to my advantage to try to get better. I've tried countless medications and I've bought a few books related to my issues but nothing has helped. I feel like I'm being held back by this irrational fear that I'm constantly being judged, looked down on and made fun of. It's all I know. It sounds like hyperbole but I've legitimately never had any kind of relationship with nice, understanding people.

I really feel as if I could do anything if my mind wasn't plagued with constant anxiety and fear. But then I think about what I would be like if I wasn't so anxious and scared all the time. I'd probably be just as miserable. For some reason I've just never come across anybody that was kind or understanding. My ex was extremely progressive and an outspoken supporter of men being open about their emotional struggles yet I'd literally be told "shut the fuck up and just be a man" constantly.

My mother's been teaching for 20 years in a well-funded district and it's getting to the point where teachers are either quitting or just completely giving up and phoning everything in. The stories she tells me sometimes are absolutely dumbfounding.

Ron DeSantis should not be in any position of authority, period.

I have extreme driving anxiety and couldn't afford to keep my last car after the lease went up. I don't think I'll be able to afford to drive for the foreseeable future.

The international spin-offs have been consistently mopping the floor with the flagship American series

Heartomaton posted...

You gotta drop the notion of high and low-value people. That's the same kind of bullshit peddled by red-pilled douchebags with superiority complexes, and it's nonsense.

I certainly wouldn't want to be associated with red-pilled morons but I can't really articulate it any other way. It's nothing I harbor any resentment over but it's becoming clear that my financial situation and having my emotional issues gives me less value in the world of dating and relationships. Because of sexual trauma I can't even enjoy sex or intimacy, so it's not like I'd be of any benefit on a pure physical level.

There's been a handful of situations where I've gotten along with people and there was some mutual interest, but I knew that a relationship wouldn't work out because of my laundry list of issues and it made no sense to even flirt. Sooner or later they're going to find out I'm broke. Sooner or later they're going find out I'm anxious and have panic attacks. Sooner or later they're going to find out I have an aversion to sex. It's just not worth it. Nobody's capable of being understanding, kind and patient; not that it's their obligation.

BeantownHero posted...

Stop trying to find love on Tinder and Bumble. Apps like Feeld and Hinge tend to demand more in depth profiles and as such, garner more diverse crowds

This might have something to do with me living near a major city but the only accessible dating apps for people with low value are things like Tinder. Bumble and Hinge from my experience are full of people with expectations I'll never meet.

It's a proof of concept for the next game in the series.

Just a reminder that the only good song he made had a completely different person singing

Smallville posted...

oh, you're kinda short?

A little. I just think large hands and feet are gross.

She's very pretty but I'm not a fan of gigantic hands/feet on women

NoxObscuras posted...

Yeah I kind of glossed through the topic before posting. The thing holding you back is anxiety right? Are you able to afford therapy? Or maybe even just getting help on managing triggers? There has to be ways to mitigate it.

It's more complicated than just anxiety. I've lived a less than ideal life. Terrible family life, bullying in school, bullying in the workplace, being in abusive relationships. I want to become a "normal" person who has a social life and is seen as "normal" but it's impossible as I've only had terrible experiences with human interaction. My past two relationships have completely destroyed my confidence and have destroyed the idea of intimacy/sex to the point where I get very uncomfortable with things like sexual flirting. I can't even enjoy the idea of sex at this point, let alone a fulfilling relationship. I've never been in a situation where I felt like my presence, conversation and kindness were ever wanted.

Living this awful life conditioned me to be a bit of a people-pleaser and the only silver lining is that because I'm such a pathetic worm, I've learned how to be social, charming, funny, etc. and at the risk of sounding egotistical I don't have any issues in that regard. When I used Tinder I would get some horrible comments from all directions. When I was last on it, I was called worthless because I "still" worked retail. I'm also getting very old, very quick (I'm turning 30 soon) and it's a given that I'm expected to have my shit together. I know my strengths and I can work with them, but because I'm for all intents and purposes "crazy" and broke, I'm worthless as far as dating goes.

I can't afford therapy though I've tried it multiple times in the past. It didn't help. I've been put on every class of medication and nothing has helped. I have a ton of health concerns that I can't have treated because I don't have insurance, I don't qualify for state aid despite being broke as hell, and if I were to somehow get something like SSDI for my issues, it'll make me even less desirable and people will perceive me as even less.

I'm aware that I'm not allowed to be choosy at this point but it's very discouraging knowing that the dating pool gets worse as time goes on.

NoxObscuras posted...

put effort into your profile pictures (don't have only selfies)

Kind of hard to do when you don't have any friends to take pictures of you

The key is to use multiple apps (Bumble, Hinge, OkCupid, Facebook Dating, etc) and to only swipe on women that you're actually interested in. It will take a while to get matches and yes, some of those matches won't respond, but if you don't let yourself get discouraged, you will get some dates.

The only platform I had any remote success on was Tinder but even then my matches were either extremely unattractive and/or had terrible attitudes. I can't imagine having any success on something like Bumble considering how picky people on it are. It's pointless to only swipe on people who interest you when you're essentially not allowed or expected to have standards, especially in a position like mine.

Glob posted...

Yes.

I really hate alcohol so bars aren't the place for me. Not that I really want to find a relationship at this point but I wouldn't even know where to look.

DoctorPiranha3 posted...

It's also time consuming. It's easier/will yield more results just going and talking to a woman IRL. None of that swiping and sending a million messages.

You're not wrong but then you run the risk of looking like an even bigger idiot if you get rejected. I'm sure this is just me being weird. How do people even do this? Do they just talk to people at bars and shit?

If you're gonna get a tattoo why not go all out and get something that looks cool as hell?

None of the people I've been in relationships with showed any remote interest in any of my hobbies or interests

Jupiter posted...

I recently joined a FB group for my city that's based on nerdy things like gaming and anime. The people in that group are very friendly and they even arrange meetups for gaming events or just social events and whatnot as well as general chatter about anime and gaming. That could be one way to make new friends.

This is more of a 'me' problem but I've had nothing but horrible experiences associating with people who share my geeky/nerdy hobbies. I've never not been embarrassed to be associated with geeks. Also doing so would lower my social/dating value to most people.

Jupiter posted...

* Things that would help a ton is having a nice profile pic. A bathroom mirror selfie is a no go in most cases. You want pics of you outside and doing interesting things. Or a pic of you with your dog since girls love dogs. Also a pic of you with friends helps since it makes you look sociable.

What if you don't have friends? It's a double edged sword because in the attempt to make friends and start relationships, people want nothing to do with you if you don't have friends.

On the Switch they do.

Glob posted...

Im sorry to hear that you suffer with those issues. Surely thats a barrier at the point of entry regardless of how you go about trying to start a relationship though?

It always is. I've been in situations where someone else was clearly interested and we had chemistry, but I figured it'd be pointless because the novelty of my strengths/good qualities would wear off and me being broke and constantly afraid would be the big issue. I've had some horrible things said to me after I told matches (back when I last used dating apps) I worked in retail.

I've never, ever come across a single human being that's been kind and understanding regarding my issues. To me it's a matter of thinking it's all useless and pointless if I'm just going to be defined by being anxious and broke.

My experiences on dating apps have been terrible. I have many strengths and good qualities but me having panic/non-social anxiety problems are basically a huge barrier I cant do anything about. At this point Im horrified to think about what kind of person would have such low self esteem that theyd be willing to put up with these issues.

For all intents and purposes Im just some mentally ill loser whos less than others.

She's actually pretty funny outside the context of her awful talk show where she flung Koosh balls everywhere and pretended to have a crush on Tom Cruise. In retrospect it feels like she was awkwardly playing some type of proto-Ellen persona.

Her work in Curb Your Enthusiam is pretty good.

This didn't happen. Every Switch firmware release gets datamined out the ass and something like this would have been discovered and known for a while.

Gaming/pop culture journalists are so insecure about how they're paid peanuts to overanalyze children's media lmao

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kfezkEUjhUo

I really don't like the idea of an MCU-ified Blade movie.

I can only speak for my (very large) area but from my experience...

• Retail/food service and many warehouse employers aren't offering full-time positions because then they have to offer benefits
• The most basic, entry-level office jobs require a bachelor's degree and/or several years' worth of experience in the same job
• Trades are becoming difficult to get into as apprenticeship programs and other associated things have massive waiting lists
• Virtually no WFH/remote job listings whatsoever

This makes sense considering AEW's current momentum and how they're doing the huge stadium PPV in London

bigtiggie23 posted...

Is that before or after AEW Fight Forever comes out?

IIRC Fight Forever is being reworked so it can get a T rating instead of M.

TCL's mid range TVs are amazing for the price. I bought a 55-inch 4K/LED smart TV for just $300 a few years ago and it's worked great since.

DKBananaSlamma posted...

Apparently to impress some youtuber.

Fucking captial-G Gamers.

This is more of a Zoomer problem than a gamer problem tbh

I'm about to turn 30 soon and by all accounts I've become old. I couldn't even imagine how bad online dating would be.

The game looks pretty good but I'm worried most of the map won't be conducive to the sandbox/creation mechanics and that the novelty would get old fast.

They did it because outrage generates attention. Regardless of their opinion, people are talking about the brand.

lww99 posted...

they just need to cut their losses imo

If they're delaying it to remove the service/F2P mechanics and include some previously planned DLC to pad it out, it might turn out well.

I have depression, anxiety and panic disorder. Unfortunately no medication has helped and the only affordable therapy is of such low quality that it's pointless.

https://twitter.com/suicidesquadRS/status/1646593761022038017

Organized religion is a hell of a thing in all the worst ways.

Bloc Party has a really distinct sound

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https://www.easternherald.com/2023/04/13/the-united-states-has-offered-to-invite-australia-israel-and-japan-to-nato/

The accession of Australia, Israel and Japan to NATO will considerably increase the budget of the alliance and will make it a world organization. John Bolton, former national security adviser to the President of the United States, thinks so. The politician shared his thoughts on NATO expansion in a Wall Street Journal article.

Bolton recalled that even former Spanish Prime Minister Jose Maria Aznar had offered to invite Japan, Australia, Israel and other countries committed to NATO defense spending targets to the NATO membership.

We should implement Jose Maria Aznars proposal, Bolton told RT.
Bolton considers it reasonable to increase US military spending and reach the indicators of the Ronald Reagan era, for this, as the politician believes, it will be necessary to reduce budget spending in other areas.

Previously, Finlands membership in NATO had been reported: the members of the alliance ratified its candidacy on March 31. The decision to join Sweden in NATO is still blocked by Hungary and Turkey.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3L5D8by1AtI

Watch as they'll either completely forget about this story or somehow find a way to defend the other tech executive

Imagine having more money than most human beings in recorded history and wasting it for stupid shit like this.

Rich people are a different type.

I'm now imagining the inevitable "MAN DESTROYS NYPD ROBOT" headlines and Pat Lynch's sorry ass eulogizing it with a bunch of Blue Lives Matter talking points

There's always good in the world. Bad people and bad things tend to get more attention. The world's a terrible place but never forget that there are always good people out there.

I absolutely loathe warm weather. If it were up to me it'd be October weather year round.

Polygon's entire gimmick is contrarian outrage clickbait from writers who are insecure that they're being paid peanuts to churn out opinion pieces about children's entertainment.