Except I've posted in topics exactly like this dozens and dozens of times over the last two decades and nothing has changed. I've posted on other forums too. If I really deep down don't like my life, then I don't like my life. But I'm still not going to change anything.Nothing has changed cos you haven't motivated yourself to and it seems like gamefaqs way of conversation is less helpful than something like a live discord chat for example since the way text works makes things like 10 times less convincing than online talking with your voice or real life chats just saying
Can't you atleast do some very basic jobs like a bagger at a grocery store? Or do surveys, they pay like shit but that's better than nothing I guess.My last job was a bagger and cashier at a grocery store and I hated it. There is no way in hell I could do that now not only because I'd hate it but being around people is extremely problematic for me. Being around people makes my anxiety go through the roof. I get panic attacks. I haven't been around people in so long I just can't handle it.
I haven't really talked to anyone in person outside of my parents and my little brother in the last 24 years. The last time I talked to anyone else in person, was a psychiatrist/physiologist when I was 18 and he only made things worse for me so I quit seeing him.I had a garbage one and really didn't like her way of thinking but...anyone who reads my posts knows that I have some weird gushing thing over a guy therapist I had I talk to even now as of a few weeks back where I text him out of boredom after it took 2 years for me to start being genuinely comfortable and talk about anything with him like my nana ( I talked with him like a surface level conversation and i didn't feel comfortable being casual and now I tell him my thoughts everything) that helped me so much so that now I'm in college i talked to the teachers ultra casual after 3 weeks like a helpful domino effect. It's a blessed
Try another therapist or a social group if you canTherapist cost and I don't have money. I don't like being around people so social groups are a "no thanks".
Therapist cost and I don't have money. I don't like being around people so social groups are a "no thanks".well as you say man, if something happens and you're up that creek, you better stick to your ways
And again, I'm not trying to change my ways. I like being the way I am.
Therapist cost and I don't have money. I don't like being around people so social groups are a "no thanks".Oh...Well sorry I got it free cos I'm British and had a mental health plan
And again, I'm not trying to change my ways. I like being the way I am.
There is a board on GameFaqs that can help you call the sex board try posting this there to get good faith advice and supportive discussion that wont archive in a few days.
@Umbreon can you provide a link? I cant figure out how to grab one for individual boards on my phone
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Im 38 divorced no kids and homeless
my favorite games are roguelikes and metal gear something
Why? Same here and people often tell me theyd like my life instead of being forced out. My aunt lived with her dad until she was like 45, its the main reason she could retire at 55. If the relationship you have with family is good why feel the need to waste money on moving out? Most of the world doesnt even do that.
Oh trust me I know I am really going to be up the creek without a paddle one day.
Assuming your parents are leaving everything to you, you may end up in an assisted living type situation at some point and the state will get whatever's left. A lot of people do, especially when older.No I'm not on disability. My parents have talked about getting me on it but we all agree that there is no way I could get on it. There's nothing wrong with me other than severe anxiety. Everyone would says I can still work. I can work, I just don't want to.
Do you get a disability check that may at least cover utilities if you have to live there alone?
Its a cultural thing.I mean this is highly anecdotal but I live in The Netherlands which ranks among the top of hypercapitalist western countries and I never got any shit for it, doing pretty well socially too. The date thing is true sure, but there are solutions for that here just as much as in Japan for example. I think a lot of the other issues people think about are narratives pushed by certain markets like real estate companies. It became more accepted here partly due to Asian and Moroccan immigrants bringing that culture along with them and with the USA being the cultural melting pot it is I would have actually expected it to be the one western country that accepted it since it was formed.
For instance in the west still living with your parents as an adult, despite being financially viable, and beyond logicalits considered a social detriment.
Meaning it would be hard for you to form friendships, relationships, and benefits from the things that come from excelling in those two realms.
In laments terms its harder to get a date.
homeless?
That's how I see it. I like being unemployed. I like living with my parents. I like watching anime and gaming all day long. I really don't see how any woman on earth would find me appealing. So why bother worrying about it? Sure I'm missing out on what a relationship could be like. Sure there may be someone out there that would actually motivate me to get a life. I just don't feel like putting forth an effort.If youre satisfied (I was certainly not but peeps can be different) just worry about getting a place you somehow can afford idk how it would work but thats fine then. Haters be damned. I was just under the illusion you were like how I was where I really hated the situation and had intense boredom with such amounts of free time and little interaction with people
I had plenty of chances when I was in school. At least 5 girls showed interested in me and I even asked one to eat lunch with me when I was 18 (this was while I was working at that grocery store job). I was so sure she liked me and so sure she would have said yes if I asked her to be my girlfriend, I still chickened out because of anxiety and fear. She was too shy to ask me out so we just never talked again and that was that. Shit happens.
yeah Ive been homeless for a year I sleep in my car and do whatever
No I'm not on disability. My parents have talked about getting me on it but we all agree that there is no way I could get on it. There's nothing wrong with me other than severe anxiety. Everyone would says I can still work. I can work, I just don't want to.
If youre satisfied (I was certainly not but peeps can be different) just worry about getting a place you somehow can afford idk how it would work but thats fine then. Haters be damned. I was just under the illusion you were like how I was where I really hated the situation and had intense boredom with such amounts of free time and little interaction with peopleNah I really enjoy living this way. I used to get bored and depressed about it at first for the first few years but doing this for 24 years now, I've learned how to keep myself busy and never feel boredom anymore.
Well don't tell them that. I'd at least try so you can have your own spending money and maybe buy your own food. My aunt's on disability for depression and some other mental health stuff.I just don't believe I could get on disability if I applied. And that disability money should go to people that actually need it. I don't need it.
Nah I really enjoy living this way.
My last job was a bagger and cashier at a grocery store and I hated it. There is no way in hell I could do that now not only because I'd hate it but being around people is extremely problematic for me. Being around people makes my anxiety go through the roof. I get panic attacks. I haven't been around people in so long I just can't handle it.Fair point to not want a job like a call center or customer service. But talking in meetings over zoom is just expected nowadays. And every job requires an interview process.
I would try to get some kind of work from home job but I don't want to go through the process of being hired and I don't want a job where I have to talk on the phone with anyone. I hate talking on the phone.
I'm 40 and live at home with my parents too. Rather extreme social anxiety and depression makes it difficult to function. I've never had a girlfriend or date or anything, and that tears me up, as my biggest goal in life was always to become a father and husband.you're a really good person who's been through a lot and a really big help to your mom. The only thing holding you back is yourself. I would say that to most people here. Fear of change. But change leads to growth.
I do have some things going for me though. I do work part time at a hotel. I also had enough money saved to be able rent a place and start a small business. Though, that's not going great at the moment.
I really do feel like just a complete failure and loser.
So you're definitely not alone tc. There are lots of us here.
Do you live with someone who pays for all your needs? Do you have a handicap of some sort?Agreed. I don't think there's anything wrong with living with family regardless of age, as long as you pay your way and aren't sponging, assuming no handicaps and such.
Do you tc?
If you live off someone else's money and there's nothing wrong with you, then...
Fair point to not want a job like a call center or customer service. But talking in meetings over zoom is just expected nowadays. And every job requires an interview process.Yeah, I know I'm holding myself back. I just don't know how to stop.
you're a really good person who's been through a lot and a really big help to your mom. The only thing holding you back is yourself. I would say that to most people here. Fear of change. But change leads to growth.
what kind of small business do you want to start?It's been going for a year already. It's an art studio type deal where we teach art classes, let others come share their arts and crafts and teach how to do stuff, and sell our own stuff. We do all kinds of community projects too, like currently we're running a rock snake competition with all the other businesses in town and the winner gets a prize, plus an article in the newspaper about them.
what kind of small business do you want to start?
TuxedoCyan out here living the fucking dreamNot my dream. I'm 37 with a wife and kid living in my own damn house.
I mean I suppose it's a dream if you have literally no hobbies, no goals, no social aspirations, nothing.I was a neet with mental health money and still hated it those 2 years btw
You don't even have the freedom to buy video games you want. Can't buy whatever food you want, whenever you want it. What "dream" is being lived?
This is the funny thing about people saying they want to be a NEET/are jealous of NEETs. I guess you just want to be able to do literally nothing at all with your life and experience no hobbies.
Why do you think freedom and nothing holding you back from any opportunity makes you a loser ???Did you get dumped
How much do you have saved for retirement TC?I have around 300 grand saved up
I have around 300 grand saved up
I have around 300 grand saved upO__O