It doesn't matter how many times you say it. They'll keep going "It's obvious what my pronouns are, so I'm not the one who needs to share" and "I'm not comfortable sharing".
Of all the topics ever made, this is certainly one of them.
Though I much more understand the stance of if everyone does it, then it makes it easier for trans folks to do it without feeling awkward.That's the whole point. If only trans and NB people do it, it's like yelling "Hey look at me! Treat me differently!" Most people don't want that. That's why the idea is that everyone does it in these spaces.
But seeing as this topic is immediately thinking right winger when it comes to this, I feel like maybe yall are talking about a specific demographic.
That's the whole point. If only trans and NB people do it, it's like yelling "Hey look at me! Treat me differently!" Most people don't want that. That's why the idea is that everyone does it in these spaces.
And no one needs to do a poll to know that the average anti-pronoun argument is not coming from non-conforming people genuinely afraid of outing themselves in public. Those people exist and have a legitimate reason. But the right-wing outrage machine is the only reason this "controversy" got blasted into public consciousness. I'm not even sure what the anger from the right is. Are trans people going to harvest their pronouns if they speak them?
So I take it you never use pronouns for anyone? Since you have a big heart and don't want to accidentally out them?
Then most people can write them down no problem. I don't see very many people withholding their first name when prompted. Pronouns are no different.
They are different, though. I don't have any issue with identifying socially/publicly by my legal name. But I don't identify with any particular gender, which means I also don't identify with any particular pronoun.Why are you taking this so personal? I clearly laid out the unique case of people who are non-conforming and uncomfortable. You are not the average person who raises a stink over pronouns. The average person thinks their pronouns are "obvious" yet they won't share them, but they also won't get mad if you assume their pronouns correctly. But you goddamn know that a cis woman who acts like that will be mad if you start calling her "he/him"
If the fact that I don't care what I'm called and have nothing meaningful to put in a "pronoun" field on a name tag makes trans/LGBT people uncomfortable somehow, tough shit. I am not obligated to have a preferred pronoun, and nobody else is entitled to the information even if I did, either. They are going to need to find some other way to derive their "comfort" from that doesn't involve infringing upon my own.
Why are you taking this so personal?
Why can't you just write down the goddamn pronouns you know you are regularly referred to as and stop being weird?
Why are you taking this so personal? I clearly laid out the unique case of people who are non-conforming and uncomfortable. You are not the average person who raises a stink over pronouns. The average person thinks their pronouns are "obvious" yet they won't share them, but they also won't get mad if you assume their pronouns correctly. But you goddamn know that a cis woman who acts like that will be mad if you start calling her "he/him"
Cis people who feel violated by being asked their pronouns should also stop using their names. That is personal info that no one has a right to ask for, so they should protect it. And they need to start being outraged if we use their pronouns without their consent. Otherwise, their strong feelings are clear bullshit, a smoke screen for their real agenda.
Then just write "any".
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