my close friends dont like talking to me about this because they think that everythings fine but I overthink everythingYour friends are right.
@archizzy
yes that was me
Yeah the more I looked I was pretty sure it was your screen name. Dude, stop overthinking this.
the weird thing is we only slept with each other 2x duign our entire time( first time i got her off 3x )
Not sharing this kind of thing would be very helpful to your relationships and your friendships. That stuff is private.
I don't even know what your point is. She should be more grateful?
That was the point I stopped reading.
Your friends are right.
honestly what are your thoughts?
if she doesn't respond back to my text what do you make of that?
I feel the text doesn't need a reply back with how I worded it
i edited it out just to give contextI think that one of two things are happening: she is feeling ill and isn't up to responding as much as you want; or she is hesitant about the relationship.
I am thinking if the lack of that is a factor as to why she is no longer interested in me
My thoughts are you are neurotic and making shit up to worry about when there is nothing wrong. Seriously, go engage in an activity and go about your life. And if you honestly don't change your thought patterns or behaviors I think you will end up causing issues in your relationship that wouldn't be there in the first place if you weren't so insecure and in your head.
You will be your own worst enemy and then a breakup will happen and you will then justify your neurotic worrying thinking you were right when you were the cause of it in the first place by being in your head and being weird about it.
Those are my honest thoughts.
@archizzy
one of my best friends said he isn't talking to me about this anymore unless I go sea therapist or do ketamine in a safe medical space.
I just want to know honest thoughts, can you at least answer me is it bad if he doesn't respond to my last text? what would you make of that?
i do hear what you are saying, its been echoed to me a lot lately. I think its something that I will think about actually
Dude she's sick. Just leave her alone.ill text her back Sunday to see how shes feeling
@ai123I have no way of knowing her feelings. She could very well be too ill or tired to think up a response.
I agree with you, even for two months she would respond back after her work at night usually, as I do the same( i used to take 6-10 hours to respond sadly)
Do you think if she doesn't respond back to my last message its really bad or is there not much to reply back to with what I wrote?
I have no way of knowing her feelings. She could very well be too ill or tired to think up a response.what about waiting a few days to give her space?
If she doesn't answer, then wait until tomorrow and just send her a 'how are you?' text.
what about waiting a few days to give her space?Just keep the texts short and friendly. Nothing wrong with just 'how's it going?', or 'anything you need?'.
i feel im so fucking cringe in my texts with her I hate how im so fucking nervous and shit when I text her half the damn time. in person its better but good god its so pathetic how I approach texting her
Just keep the texts short and friendly. Nothing wrong with just 'how's it going?', or 'anything you need?'.thast what my brother said at this point he said it was okay to keep tings ike how was your day and short stuff like that, he said long paragraphs are exhausting
thast what my brother said at this point he said it was okay to keep tings ike how was your day and short stuff like that, he said long paragraphs are exhaustingStop asking these questions. You already know what we are going to say. Just chill.
you dont think my last text was bad right? I feel if she doesn't respond its not the end or a big red flg sign that its over , i can just text fri or sat and ask how shes doing like you said
Your friends are right.
Stop asking these questions. You already know what we are going to say. Just chill.
I want honest answers form you guys you guys will be more blunt and cuthroat tbh. but they have been as wellMaybe a wait a day or two and then just ask how she is feeling. Don't pressure her into meeting again yet. If she is interested, she will tell you when ready.
also I saw your las msg I thought i quoted I hear you, what do you make of me taking a few dys off from texting her after my last text?
i don't want to scare her off im not sure what she wants but again, this is my being stunted by not having meaningful connections in the past. you are right that this should have been brought upThat's fine, it's just something I noticed. I'm not trying to freak you out or anything.
Maybe a wait a day or two and then just ask how she is feeling. Don't pressure her into meeting again yet. If she is interested, she will tell you when ready.Basically this. You've already made it clear that you're up for hanging again when she's ready, so you can just focus on having fun talking to her, until she's feeling well enough to go out again. Talk about common interests, hobbies, etc. Hell you can even share memes if she's into that.
think about it this way. you're driving a car and your holding onto the wheel so tight, and you're shaking so badly because you're nervous, that the car is swerving left and right chaotically. you're basically dooming yourself into a collision. the car would even move in a safer and straighter line if you didn't have your hands on the wheel at all.this is a good point and I agree I understand.
so how do you remedy that? well, learn to either stop shaking so much, or let the car drive and only correct it when it needs to, or whatever you need to do. because if not, you're just going to crash.
basically, calm down. chill. stop trying to understand and control it all. and stop analyzing everything.
Shes sick
and youre a neurotic nut.