TMOG posted...
Hell, every year when I make an Ace Pride Topic in June, people on this very board decide to come in and say asexuals are just "in denial". One absolute trophy of a person even said I was just "trying to justify being an incel".
Sounds similar to the crap bis/pans get. "Oh you're just totally gay and in denial." Those kind of things get to me a bit. Typical bigots are one thing, but when it comes from within the community, it sucks.
philsov posted...
You're a closeted dude who's confused about their own gender expression. You
absolutely
have a meaningful, personal, and relevant experience that has commonality with tons of other LGBT+ people. If you don't wanna share it because you feel it's not your place, that's bullshit. If you don't wanna share it because you're worried about outing yourself, that's frustratingly normal. Pick your battles :p.
Thanks for that.
If the legbutt things you're referring are things like gossiping about gay culture, like the latest episode of Ru Pauls Drag Race, know that culture is not some monolithic thing. I don't watch the NFL (any football, really), but that doesn't mean I don't participate in "straight culture", lmao. If you don't like female pop stars or drag, that's... perfectly fine.
Not necessarily those parts of the culture, but just a feeling of belonging in general.
If the legbutt things you're referring are things like conversations with idiots who think trans people both aren't real but also are a physical threat to children, it's possible to come across as an "ally" (aka, a straight person with empathy) and positively contribute to the conversation.
I don't have much issue going after idiotic bigots. It's just conversing within LGBT+ groups in general.