Technically, non-binary peeps are trans, but I digress as it's not important for this topic, and you don't seem to place much importance on it yourself. You are experiencing classic imposter syndrome and that is okay. It's MUCH more common than you think, especially in the younger queers (not sure if younger or not, but still). I used to feel that way too, for a time.
Of course, I don't know what you can do if you live in a red state other than move. Not suggesting you do that, for the record. But maybe you can try to scope out the local queer community and try for support there. Failing that, you can try to find enby, trans, and bi/pan spaces online, too.
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