I moved out to Arizona to meet my long distance girlfriend and she barely wants

He asked if she wanted to continue. That's it. It only takes one to decide to end it. That's not "power"

I don't know if he would or not, but I won't respond for him.

The point is that he wanted it to continue and she didn't. I wouldn't describe it as "power". I felt terrible when I broke up with my gf of 2 years back in 2020. She tried to get me to stay with her, and I wouldn't. But to describe that as having the "power" just seems heartless to me.

I'm speaking to personal empowerment, which seems particularly relevant and needed here. The man is hurting and he can take steps to fix that.

Damn, I'm super late to this topic. Sorry to hear about all of this TC. As an introvert myself, I think the problem was 100% her and her lack of relationship experience. As an introvert, I love having time to myself to just do nothing. And being in relationships, I had to get used to having someone else be a part of that alone time. It's definitely an adjustment.

So she just got her first taste of that reality and, instead of communicating her issues, she shut down on you. I don't think it makes her a bad person, but she definitely has a lot of growing to do as a person. I agree with the others that say that you shouldn't internalize what she said. Because I suspect that she's learning now, that she has limits on her mental capacity for socializing. And if she never spent lots of time with anyone besides her family, she's probably only learning all of this now. And that's not a you problem, despite some of the people that were piling onto you in this topic.

And as far as the breakup goes, I know it hurts, but don't beat yourself up about it. Just focus on yourself and getting yourself situated and it will get easier as time passes. If I were in Arizona, I'd join you and KiwiTerraRizing too

Escape Arizona.

Shut the fuck up. Do you feel better about your life by being an ass?

Hahaha Hahaha Hahaha Hahaha Hahaha...... Hahaha.
Oh no's you called me an ass. Like I haven't known that I've been 1 for over the last 30 years.

Don't be mad at me for his screw up moving there. He did that on his own.
And clearly if you read a few more posts down, I was right on the money.

got a tough guy here

I flew to Texas to stay with my brother for thanksgiving and him and his woman have been crying and nagging and yelling at each other for 2 hours now

Wtf <_<

Fun times. Reminds me of what life was like with my two main exes.

Maybe you and your brother can both be single for Thanksgiving!

Oh god

Nah, I hope they chill and you can have a good Thanksgiving. You need that.

I'm taking my daughters over to my new in-laws for a big Thanksgiving

I flew to Texas to stay with my brother for thanksgiving and him and his woman have been crying and nagging and yelling at each other for 2 hours now

Wtf <_<

Have you considered that you might have been cursed? Were you rude to any gypsies?

Well my ex was a gypsy for halloween

You need to find that costume and burn it.

I texted her telling her that I would get over her sooner if I blocked her, I did it. Topics over

lmao tf you telling her for. just do it. whats with all this closure shit.

and don't unblock in a week either

Let us know when you unblock her.

Unblock her, smash, then block her again.

The way TC was explaining everything it sounded like they were having trouble in the sack.

I didnt have any problem getting her off, but once when we were doing it I couldnt keep it up

1. I don't think you deserve the shit people are giving you ITT about uprooting and moving. Sure to an outside observer it's not a good decision. Hell, I'll even go so far as to say I'd agree with that notion. However, it's important to note that even if it was a decision made with, well, the opposite of logic, you made a decision for your heart and I think that took courage. Love is absolutely not congruent with logic. Plus, if we're talking pure opportunity cost, yeah you took a big chance but you also thought she was the one. This mistake can be rectified in a few weeks or months, but you thought you'd be signing up for an entire lifetime. A couple months of discomfort to live close to the person you think is the one is hardly relevant when you consider the chance you may get your entire rest of y'all's lives together. It probably wasn't the best decision, but you said you learned a lesson, so obviously it's not completely equivalent but you didn't come out it with nothing.
2. I agree with your slash and burn technique. I'm a firm believer that most people know what they want, but they just need a little fire to make that choice. You were clearly in a horrible place and you needed an answer when you did. I'd have done the same thing. Hell, I have done the same thing. If someone is wishy washy about wanting to be with you, it's best to cut your losses. You want someone that wants to be with you and it not be a total chore. Relationships are both hard and easy. She clearly wasn't as ready as she thought, but that shouldn't be a sleight against you. You gave her agency when you asked her that question, which I think is perfectly valid. Blocking her completely is also the best way to go. I blocked my ex of 4 years and it was insanely difficult, but after I broke up with her we both recovered (relatively) quickly, we knew it was over but one of us had to suck it up and do it. She's now married and I'm with the love of my life. It will get better.
3. This may sound trite but don't give up on your ability to love. You had partners before this (presumably) and you'll have partners after. This is a shitty situation but you can still take the time to work on you. Yeah you have to eat shit for a few weeks but you'll come out of the other end wiser for your plight.
4. Lastly, and I think this should be said considering the temperature of the topic, but Long Distance Relationships are hard. Not impossible. Probably exercise a little more caution meeting someone online, but from personal experience they have just as much of a shot of working out if both people honestly want it. She thought she did, but clearly didn't. I met my now gf on Hinge and we talked on the phone every single day for three months while we both did our own thing, me here in TX and her in Nebraska (she was there for work). We met up for the first time for an escape room as friends when she came back and it was awkward as fuck. Took about a week or two but we found our footing and started dating proper a month later. This was 15 months ago and we couldn't be happier.

It's been intentional to drag the topic out and get more posts.

Nice, to 500!

It's been intentional to drag the topic out and get more posts.

You moved to a new state with no job lined up because of a few months long online relationship . You don't deserve a vote of confidence.

If the topic is truly over, then close it and never speak of this embarrassing phase of your life again.

I really appreciate it bro and I hope your newest relationship will be the one