Pikazard1 posted...
i'm 40, I don't ask for nor do I need anything (yeah, I have a job, and I have subscriptions to comixology, Netflix, and the wwe network), and yet I still get things for birthdays and Christmas's
kinda wish It'd stop though, that money spent on me could've made a difference for the giver
That's more or less why I told everyone I know to stop buying me things years ago (and vice versa).
I stopped caring about Christmas when I was still a teenager, and I'm 40 now. I'd much rather the people I know save their money rather than dealing with the hassle of trying to buy me something I probably won't like anyway, but will then have to pretend to like out of politeness. My gift to you is the time, money, and effort you save not buying me a gift, while your gift to me is not having to fake appreciation and having to reciprocate because "it's expected" (or to have to delay my own gratification because you bought me something for Christmas months ago and then told me you don't want me to buy it for myself until then, which is a phase I went through with my GF years ago, and one I know other people have had to deal with with their spouses now and then).
For people who say "But I just want to show my affection" or some other reason why they consider gift-giving "necessary", if you want to give me a gift, just try not to be a shit for the other 364 days in a given year.
Honestly, if I see something I think a friend would want/need and want to give it as a gift, I'd rather not wait until an arbitrary day to do it. I just pick stuff up for them or do them favors whenever, and they do the same for me. That way, it actually feels like an act of friendship and appreciation, and not a stupid social obligation rooted in a religion I stopped believing in before I went through puberty.
I'd probably feel differently if I had kids, but I don't, so I don't.
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