Current Events > Is a ring really supposed to be 6 weeks salary?

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Or 6 months or some shit

6 years

Dakimakura posted...

6 years

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/6/1/4/AAWjk4AAEguW.jpg

You have 3 choices

1. Pay what you think something that is going to be instantly valueless the second you buy it (hint: it had no value before you bought it too)

2. Pay what daddy jeweler says you should pay for a ring (hint: it isn't in your favor)

3. Don't fall for this scam

I worked a part time job for 3 months to pay for mine.

NES4EVER posted...

I worked a part time job for 3 months to pay for mine.

How did you keep that a secret

Any woman who wants to dictate how much of your salary you should spend on a ring for her is not worth giving a ring to.

Glob posted...

Any woman who wants to dictate how much of your salary you should spend on a ring for her is not worth giving a ring to.

I mean the social convention

Do not keep it a secret. It generates needless stress for everybody. The actual proposal moment can still be a surprise, but the idea that you are going to do it should not be. Go ring shopping together with a rough budget in mind. For all you know, they prefer a single gem to the encrusted pav look. Or a certain shape? Maybe they value clarity over carets? Maybe a larger gem looks weird on a small hand? Maybe they have feelings about how money should be spent? Or maybe you luck out and they want to use their grandmother's ring instead.
...and definitely don't forget to insure it immediately (look into "valuable property insurance").

No, that was a marketing campaign that worked a little too well.

Three months? I thought it was 6, people want to rush everything

DuuuDe14 posted...

No, that was a marketing campaign that worked a little too well.

Like Firehouse Subs

Get a cubic zirconia they won't know the difference

Glob posted...

Any woman who wants to dictate how much of your salary you should spend on a ring for her is not worth giving a ring to.

This. On top of that, it's literally a scam companies sold.

I'm not getting married I just saw some ads for wedding rings that looked pretty cheap.

I heard a rumor that rings have been around since forever, and that it's specifically diamond rings that became the marketed thing from some diamond shop place.

But a circular band of metal placed upon the finger was apparently always done.

The ring I got my wife was like 250 and that also included an engagement ring as well. My ring was about 150.

There is a lot of data that suggests with the more money you spend on your wedding, the chances of getting divorced increase.

Spend what you want to spend on a ring. Don't go based on what others tell you that you need to spend. If you're happy together that's all that matters. Two of my friends got married and they didn't do rings at all, they went and got their fingers tattooed instead for under $100 combined.

I feel like a lot of our society does things just because rich people lobbied and marketed to hell and back to make those things not only socially acceptable but demanded as in "You'll have no friends, no social life or be a virgin forever if you don't buy this product" kind of way even Marriage in general has an entire industry designed to squeeze those people dry

Join us millennials in killing the diamond industry.
Spend nothing. Buy a fucking carved etsy wooden ring or tungsten carbide or something. $20 max.

MedeaLysistrata posted...

I mean the social convention

Just ignore it.

MedeaLysistrata posted...

Like Firehouse Subs

coincidentally, that's what I called my ex boyfriend with IBS

averagejoel posted...

coincidentally, that's what I called my ex boyfriend with IBS

you date 2 ppl i date zero

tankboy posted...

Do not keep it a secret. It generates needless stress for everybody. The actual proposal moment can still be a surprise, but the idea that you are going to do it should not be. Go ring shopping together with a rough budget in mind. For all you know, they prefer a single gem to the encrusted pav look. Or a certain shape? Maybe they value clarity over carets? Maybe a larger gem looks weird on a small hand? Maybe they have feelings about how money should be spent? Or maybe you luck out and they want to use their grandmother's ring instead.
...and definitely don't forget to insure it immediately (look into "valuable property insurance").

Depends on the woman. My wife didn't want to be involved in the process at all because she thought it'd be stressful making that type of decision or putting in the effort to learn what she wanted in the first place.

I took a woman friend with me to help educate me on some things and point out stuff. She was phenomenal help.

Its whatever you want

Jiek_Fafn posted...

Depends on the woman. My wife didn't want to be involved in the process at all because she thought it'd be stressful making that type of decision or putting in the effort to learn what she wanted in the first place.

I took a woman friend with me to help educate me on some things and point out stuff. She was phenomenal help.

???? What is even the purpose of getting a ring at this point

My wife wanted a ruby instead of diamond. Turns out diamonds arent they only gouged gemstone.

How the fuck did the jewelry industry dupe people into this nonsense?

hockeybub89 posted...

How the fuck did the jewelry industry dupe people into this nonsense?

lol just woke

The social convention of spending x months of your salary on a ring is sort of dead. One, salaries are not increasing much and people are struggling to keep up in all aspects of the economy, and, two, people have really been educated on the ills of the diamond industry and are increasingly turning toward lab grown diamonds that are essentially the exact same thing for half the cost.

Personally I'd much prefer a diamond that's a reminder of the achievements of science than one that reminds me of slave labor.

Fuck no. I spent like $2500 on mine and I felt like even that was a lot.

CyricZ posted...

Personally I'd much prefer a diamond that's a reminder of the achievements of science than one that reminds me of slave labor.

the ones in the ad are lab grown! at least some of them anyway

I made our rings. We both don't like wearing them, so I figured making a pair of silver rings we could wear for special occasions would be smarter and more romantic than either buying or just not bothering with them.

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/6/7/7/AAWLQcAAEgvV.jpg

If I really like a woman, like, she loves me for who I am I would absolutely go through hell to give her the best ring she wants. If not
https://m.youtube.com/shorts/EUawJYBttjk

AldousIsDead posted...

I made our rings. We both don't like wearing them, so I figured making a pair of silver rings we could wear for special occasions would be smarter and more romantic than either buying or just not bothering with them.

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/6/7/7/AAWLQcAAEgvV.jpg

I like that a lot

While the proposal came as a surprise, I involved my wife in all matters pertaining to the selection of her engagement ring and wedding band. She picked out the diamond and setting for the engagement ring. She also designed her own wedding band with contours. This was a great sigh of relief for me because if for some reason she didn't like the rings, then it was her own damn fault.

My band is brushed yellow gold in the center with beveled edges (and the entire underside) in a glossy white gold. All rings were custom made.

https://modgents.com/collections/affordable-engagement-rings

Just go here. I got my wife's engagement ring here, and I also got our bands here. Love them all.

Sounds like some bullshit made up by people who want to sell you a ring.

SHRlKE posted...

The ring I got my wife was like 250 and that also included an engagement ring as well. My ring was about 150.

There is a lot of data that suggests with the more money you spend on your wedding, the chances of getting divorced increase.

Same. Its such a stupid expense. Hell we have already lost our rings.

Engagement rings are such a fucking waste of money.

Heineken14 posted...

Sounds like some bullshit made up by people who want to sell you a ring.

Yeah this.

Though, if rings (all jewelry) were priced more according to their precious metal weight + wholesale gem value, with thinner margins for the "artist" or brand, then it would make more sense.
The point of expensive jewelry for plebs is that they can always hock it in an emergency. They (jewelers) shouldn't be absolutely eating your lunch on it in that scenario. Spending 6 weeks of work on it wouldn't be such a problem if you could get 4 weeks worth back.

what about a 20 dollar drink

Marriage is a scam

It's an old, outdated, problematic patriarchal myth from the boomer era. Pay it no mind.

No, that's quite literally made up and only benefits the companies selling that shit

i always heard 10%

Jennywentnorth8 posted...

???? What is even the purpose of getting a ring at this point

There is an overwhelming amount of choices if all you want is something "nice". Plus she'd need to weigh that against the urge to cheap out on something she liked but costs more.

I eliminated all of that and just bought her something she really likes, was what I wanted to spend and she didn't need to think about. Same concept as having to decide what you want for dinner yourself or you spouse just magically showing up with a pizza.