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it will probably be worse later

No.

I need some more money. I think if I got a bit more money and have just a bit more financial security, I could brute force the rest.

Does it matter? Im here now so make me a sandwich

Yes. Im very fortunate in my circumstances.

I have a beautiful and kind girlfriend, very good friends, a job I enjoy that pays incredibly well and a generally sweet set up.

Yeah pretty much!

I think I need to talk to a therapist about why I don't just move to Jamaica and live there. I guess it's because once my dad dies I will have no reason to go there ever again.

MedeaLysistrata posted...

it will probably be worse later

True, aging is never a good prospect.

gildedwings posted...

No.

I need some more money. I think if I got a bit more money and have just a bit more financial security, I could brute force the rest.

A little more money wouldn't hurt here either.

R1masher posted...

Does it matter? Im here now so make me a sandwich

What kind?

Glob posted...

Yes. Im very fortunate in my circumstances.

I have a beautiful and kind girlfriend, very good friends, a job I enjoy that pays incredibly well and a generally sweet set up.

Sounds like you're on the right path. I still have no girlfriend and my friends here barely speak with me. I'm happy with my setup though and finances, for the most part.

KookyCouture posted...

Yeah pretty much!

Good!

Supersex420 posted...

I think I need to talk to a therapist about why I don't just move to Jamaica and live there. I guess it's because once my dad dies I will have no reason to go there ever again.

Is Jamaica pretty safe in 2023? Is your dad close to dying?

I need to reschedule with my "nurse practitioner" because I was on vacation and missed an appointment. She basically is responsible for prescribing me Abilify. I did the therapist thing for about a year and it helped, but I felt like I hit a road block toward month 11 and things were good, but not improving any longer.

I think it's bugged.
There was supposed to be a Viewtiful Joe 3 a while ago, then this time period was meant to be a non-canon post-game.
That or I've gotten the bad end.

No. I'm just a pathetic loser. No one really cares about me outside of what I can do for them. I'm basically just a spare tool to be used then tossed aside.

No. I'm a depressed, anxious, socially inept mess with a very grim future.

The world sucks, it's on a straight path to suck more, and on top of that, people themselves all suck more than they used to.

Im happy but it could be better if you were in my life @Kombucha

Yes, my years of hard work and saving have finally paid off and I own a house now. Next logical step would be settling down with somebody to complete the Amercians dream.

But to some like myself that's alot harder for people likw me tbh.

Amazing, the poll results are 21:21

I'm happy with my life but a little dissatisfied because things can always be better. If I had more money and could leave my career to pursue lower paying jobs/hobbies I absolutely would. For the time being I'll stay wearing these golden handcuffs though

_Angel_ posted...

Im happy but it could be better if you were in my life @Kombucha

Aw, likewise! <3

KogaSteelfang posted...

No. I'm just a pathetic loser. No one really cares about me outside of what I can do for them. I'm basically just a spare tool to be used then tossed aside.

CaptainStrong posted...

No. I'm a depressed, anxious, socially inept mess with a very grim future.

Do either of you think you could turn that around with therapy? Or have you tried?

Prismsblade posted...

Yes, my years of hard work and saving have finally paid off and I own a house now. Next logical step would be settling down with somebody to complete the Amercians dream.

But to some like myself that's alot harder for people likw me tbh.

I feel that. I'm very content with my housing situation by my love life is on the rocks.

DeepFriedSquid posted...

Amazing, the poll results are 21:21

I'm happy with my life but a little dissatisfied because things can always be better. If I had more money and could leave my career to pursue lower paying jobs/hobbies I absolutely would. For the time being I'll stay wearing these golden handcuffs though

Whats the end game? To have enough to retire first?

Great girlfriend, great family, decent apartment, fast internet...

Can't really complain.

No. Spending my life in pursuit of a singular dream has ruined both.

Kombucha posted...

Whats the end game? To have enough to retire first?

Yeah basically. I'm at the point now where if I quit or got fired I could pursue a part-time job I'd enjoy and could live comfortably, but when I run the numbers in my spreadsheets it shows that just working in my current job even an extra year or two would mean a shitload more wealth later in life. So that means I either quit and do part-time now and retire at 55 years old, or I work five years at my current job, do the part-time for 5-6 years, then retire at 43 years old.

I only work 40-45 hours a week but I'm still pretty burnt out on week nights. I've been obsessed with saving so much money because I've had coworkers that work 60+ hours a week and live paycheck to paycheck, it's fucking brutal. I do not want to end up in their position where they're reliant on an employer. I have a shitload of respect for those workers though, especially the blue collar workers, I don't know how they do it

Kombucha posted...

Do either of you think you could turn that around with therapy? Or have you tried?

I tried that once. 6 months in and it wasn't helping at all. Actually made things worse. I've been very reluctant to try again since then.

Yes

KogaSteelfang posted...

I tried that once. 6 months in and it wasn't helping at all. Actually made things worse. I've been very reluctant to try again since then.

Why do you feel that the therapy wasn't working for you?

KogaSteelfang posted...

No. I'm just a pathetic loser. No one really cares about me outside of what I can do for them. I'm basically just a spare tool to be used then tossed aside.

Also I'm not trying to come across as an armchair therapist here but having these negative self thoughts and especially writing them out is incredibly detrimental to your self esteem. You may think the bad life causes the negative thoughts, but the negative thoughts can definitely cause the bad life (or make it worse).

For the record I say this as someone that has suffered from cynicism and low self esteem for a long ass time, but I'm trying to make the effort of improving my outlook. Initially I was skeptical of trying to be glass half full, but after putting it in practice I've found it made me enjoy life more

Neh. Not one to complain tho. I need to cut back on life's addictions. Counting this place.

If I can cut out videos games, CE & fix my sleeping schedule this summer, I feel like I could get to a place of much higher self respect. But, this shit is literally all I know. It's just that it slowly shoved everything else out. I feel like im sitting on my potential.

DeepFriedSquid posted...

Why do you feel that the therapy wasn't working for you?

He never really addressed any of my issues, gave advice or useful insights. He'd spend most of our sessions on the phone to other patients. After all that time, the only change he'd suggested be made in my life was to go on a walk every weekend. Which I did,except once it was cold and rainy so I skipped it and when he learned that he told me I wasn't worth his time. Alongside a bunch of other stuff he'd said that hurt. So I quit.

DeepFriedSquid posted...

Also I'm not trying to come across as an armchair therapist here but having these negative self thoughts and especially writing them out is incredibly detrimental to your self esteem. You may think the bad life causes the negative thoughts, but the negative thoughts can definitely cause the bad life (or make it worse).

For the record I say this as someone that has suffered from cynicism and low self esteem for a long ass time, but I'm trying to make the effort of improving my outlook. Initially I was skeptical of trying to be glass half full, but after putting it in practice I've found it made me enjoy life more

I don't know how to stop. I used to be fairly optimistic and positive natured, but that changed in my 30's. I wish I could just go back to that mindset.

KogaSteelfang posted...

He never really addressed any of my issues, gave advice or useful insights. He'd spend most of our sessions on the phone to other patients. After all that time, the only change he'd suggested be made in my life was to go on a walk every weekend. Which I did,except once it was cold and rainy so I skipped it and when he learned that he told me I wasn't worth his time. Alongside a bunch of other stuff he'd said that hurt. So I quit.

Holy shit that guy sounds like a dumbass lol. Don't let one dud turn you off from therapy altogether, that guy was worthless

KogaSteelfang posted...

I don't know how to stop. I used to be fairly optimistic and positive natured, but that changed in my 30's. I wish I could just go back to that mindset.

Well, if you're unfamiliar with it you could try CBT (Cognitive Based Therapy). It's basically the practice of being aware of your thoughts and making a conscious effort to improve them (while also recognizing positive things in your life).

https://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-New-Mood-Therapy-ebook/dp/B009UW5X4C

I read through that book because I was reading a different book about American culture that stated that merely reading the book on CBT was almost as effective in combatting depression as antidepressants.

Studies have consistently shown that cognitive therapy (CBT) is as efficacious as antidepressant medications at treating depression and can have lasting effects long after treatment has stopped.1 However, a recent individual patient data metaanalysis showed that antidepressant medication is slightly more efficacious than CBT in reducing overall depression severity in patients with a Diagnostic and Statistic (DSD)

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6502416/

Some people need antidepressants, so I'm not saying just training your brain with CBT is some sort of magic cure that supplants them, but certain studies show that CBT can be almost as effective. It's possible CBT would help you, or antidepressants, or a combination of the two. If your mood is severely affecting your life I would recommend seeking the advice of a medical professional and finding out more (some therapists specialize in CBT too, so that's something to consider). I will say one thing as an armchair psychologist: the negative voice in your head is an evil bastard that you need to eradicate. That's not your "true self," or the way you really feel deep down inside, it's just a little bitch that you need to toss into the trash.

DeepFriedSquid posted...

Well, if you're unfamiliar with it you could try CBT (Cognitive Based Therapy). It's basically the practice of being aware of your thoughts and making a conscious effort to improve them (while also recognizing positive things in your life).

That was something he said we were going to try, but then it never went further. After I quit, I did buy a cognitive behavior adjustment self help book, but didn't make it very far in before I got distracted. I wonder if I still have it somewhere, I'll have to look for it.

I was also on antidepressants at the time. Neither therapy or medication seemed to make a difference. Outside of giving me side effects.

Not really. Things could have gone a lot better if I grewup feeling loved.

Yea Im pretty happy, just living a nice simple existence with my wife.

TerraSeeker posted...

Not really. Things could have gone a lot better if I grewup feeling loved.

:/. Do you struggle to tell the difference between genuine and manipulative love as an adult? Or is it the ability to self love? I think we all struggle with these things, but privilege or being victimized at a young age would heavily play into the depth of it.

*sigh*

Are these supposed to be "tough financial times" or is anyone doing better than usual?

BaphometFlux posted...

Yea Im pretty happy, just living a nice simple existence with my wife.

Dope. I definitely feel I could be content with that. I just haven't taken the proper steps to make it a reality. I have semi high standards for personality but don't put a lot into aesthetics. So, I feel like I could appreciate a wide range of partners. As long as you want the best for those around you, everything else is secondary. I also become more attracted to someone from that. So, Im not saying Id just put up with someone being ugly to me lol. Im saying, they probably wouldn't be ugly to me even if they're someone the internet might hate on. Because I feel like kindness can make someone physically attractive through the manipulation of love. If that makes sense.

No.

Depression and anxiety make it difficult for me to happy with my life, and I don't really have a social support group to turn to.

On the plus side, I just started seeing a psychiatrist and went on antidepressants. Gonna look into finding a therapist soon as well. Hopefully I'm able to turn my life around soon.

Yeah.

Home owner, good paying job, debt free minus my mortgage, awesome girlfriend, and relatively healthy.

I'd feel better with a 6 month emergency savings as opposed to 3 month but that's a work in progress

Supersex420 posted...

*sigh*

Are these supposed to be "tough financial times" or is anyone doing better than usual?

Financially I'm doing just okay. Not better than usual, but it isn't making me unhappy.

LordOfTheCats posted...

Gonna look into finding a therapist soon as well. Hopefully I'm able to turn my life around soon.

That's dope! I wish you the best of luck. Good on you for not giving up.

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Why isn't your job ideal, if you don't mind expanding on that? I think I miss my friends from the past, but don't really miss friends from elsewhere. I could really improve my life if I made some actual new friends to hang out with outside of the limited number I have. Work kind of provided that function for me in the past, but not so much anymore. But from the sounds of it you have a strong network of people where you're at now, too, so that's great.

Will_VIIII posted...

Yeah.

Home owner, good paying job, debt free minus my mortgage, awesome girlfriend, and relatively healthy.

I'd feel better with a 6 month emergency savings as opposed to 3 month but that's a work in progress

I could probably survive 3 months on emergency as well. I think I'll make it a priority to expand my emergency funds this month. Glad to hear things are going well for you!

no not at all

ever since my divorce my life has just been a nightmare and seemingly pointless struggle

VampireCoyote posted...

no not at all

ever since my divorce my life has just been a nightmare and seemingly pointless struggle

Sorry to hear that, who called it off mostly? Honestly I wonder if the pain of breaking ties is the reason why I haven't pursued a relationship in a long time. Being single seems to produce less pain in the way of breakups/divorces.

Besides not being able to afford to buy a house (yes I have a savings for it and so does my bf) I'm pretty happy with my life. I've got a great bf, 2 adorable dogs, enough entertainment, and a overstocked kitchen. Plus I get whatever I want as long as I budget for it.

I can't really complain. My only real issue is deciding on moving back West to Washington for a government job I got accepted for. Wife wants to stay in Louisiana since we just moved here.

I got options. Life's good I guess

Im in a weird place tbh. Like, with normal day-to-day stuff, I am completely fine. Im perfectly fine with like going to work, taking care of my apartment, going grocery shopping, getting exercise, and such. Basic adulting I guess lol. Im comfortable with who I am and (outside of work), Im happy with how I spend my time.

But when I start thinking of big picture stuff I fall apart and tend to spiral. The problem is, Im a bit of a realist, like too pragmatic for my own good. Im fully aware that in the grand scheme of things I am not doing so hot.

The major issue with my life is work. Im not thrilled with my job and I dont think Im making enough money to justify it. A big part of it is that Ive been working consistently since 2006 when I was 18, but I spent way too much time working a shitty retail job, and then I moved on from the grocery industry to the HVAC industry a couple years ago and its a very.. intense field to work in, even though all Im doing is answering the phone. Maybe its a me problem for being too sensitive or whatever, but spending almost twenty years being demeaned, belittled, gaslit, etc. has taken a toll on my mental health and I think its worse than I even realize.

The money thing is a big issue. Last year I had an overnight stay at a hospital and even with insurance, when all was said and done it cost me nearly $4,000. Im utterly terrified of going to the doctor now because I cant afford it. But I also cant afford a house. I can barely afford the car I just had to get. I cant afford vacations. Etc. etc. I get that its my own damn fault for not going to college right away and finding a good career but its still frustrating.

I also am still single. And I honestly cant imagine finding a partner at this point. I think Im great, but I definitely have my quirks that I cant see most women putting up with.

It just feels like Im so fucking far behind even though Im only 35, but with the way the world is, I cant realistically see a way for things to improve.

I shouldnt even complain tbh, because I do have things pretty good all things considered, I just wish I had more of a financial cushion. And maybe a brain that was a bit more savvy. Is financial anxiety a thing? Because thats honestly what gets me down lol

Lifes great right now. Closing in on retirement and a pension for life. Working towards a new career path. Comfortable financially. Love my wife.

I grew up super depressed. Im happy with where I am at and try not to dwell on the BS because its always going to be there in one way or another.

No. But I'm pretty sure that's because my brain is miswired somewhere

For the most part, yes.

I was born with a few medical conditions that marred much of my face and I never really accepted my looks (though I'm working on it). Because of my looks, and the fact that no one really taught me how to socialize growing up, interacting with strangers is hard. I do have my siblings and their friends/lovers as a support group, so I'm not socially isolated or anything, but physical intimacy is the one thing I feel like I'm missing.

Other than that, I have a lot to be thankful for. In addition to the aforementioned family I have my own place, stable finances, an easy-ish job, hobbies and goals to work towards. And apparently I have greatly outlived the prognosis given to my mom by the doctors so really, I'm just happy to be here.