Current Events > Woman wants financial security in order to get her, is she a gold digger IYO?

(+) Yeah! (+)

It seems that there isnt true love on that deal if one reason shes with you is for the money

at the same time, I cant be mad at a lady who wants a decent future for herself. especially if she wants to live large.

thoughts?

What does she look like?

Yeah, but there's nothing actual wrong with it. The only real issue is if she would be capable of raising children in some positive fashion. I tend to find these type to be poor mothers, incapable of seeing value beyond material.

If that's the only reason she wants to be in a relationship with you then yeah

Nothing wrong with financial security. Shes not a gold digger if she wants a guy that can take care of himself without her help to remain stable.

Now if shes bringing nothing to the table herself and has a kid or debt that shes looking for him to pay off for her so she doesnt have to then thats a gold digger.

The vast majority of women over 25 won't even look at a guy who doesn't have some sort of financial security. I don't think this makes them a goldigger unless they only care about money. I mean how are you going to provide for her or any potential kids you have if you can't even provide for yourself? What kind of life would you have?

Wait. its the mans job to provide for her? I get pulling in my own weight financially long term but. why am I taking care of her like shes one of my kids?

If you can't stand on your own two feet, why should I let you stand on my own two feet?

deathproof12 posted...

The vast majority of women over 25 won't even look at a guy who doesn't have some sort of financial security. I don't think this makes them a goldigger unless they only care about money. I mean how are you going to provide for her or any potential kids you have if you can't even provide for yourself? What kind of life would you have?

She'd be a gold digger if she's incapable of meeting her own standards. It's one thing to desire an equal partner, it's another thing to demand that your partner is financially stable because you yourself are not and want someone to support you while you figure yourself out.

When her unspoken life motto is "her money is her money, his money is their money ", she is definitively a golddigger.

That's it, don't need to make it complicated.
Just look for that motto in practice.

When a woman genuinely loves you, she wants to share with you as much as she expects you to support her. The needs and feelings of the team matter to her and she makes it clear the relationship is a 2-way street. Even when she's making less income and comparatively strapped for cash, she still wants to give her man support somehow and will get creative despite a budget. It's not about absolute 50/50. It's showing signs of mutual respect. Both partners want to feel valued by the other to justify the relationship and it doesn't always require 50/50 to do that.

This interdependent dynamic does NOT change when the baby arrives. Golddiggers think it should. Compassionate mothers/wives still feel a need to show mutual respect to a good committed spouse BESIDES doing her part in raising the kids. No man should be wasting his time investing in a woman who's behavior disputes that.

I believe theres already a term for when a person exchanges sex for money.

Gold diggers go after rich dudes not middle class dudes. While I suppose there could be some overlap on the concepts, a woman looking for a dude with a steady job that can provide stability for both isn't quite the same as a woman looking to take anything a rich dude will give for sex, like lavish trips and all that.

This is why I don't get married, just smash some dumb idiot and move on.

These sound like incel confirmation fantasies