Poll of the Day > I'm going ham on meeting girls

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I'm joining the local DSA meetings, going to random ass meetup events, and maybe joining a yoga class?

Dating apps are so skewed in favor of women, and I feel like I'm more attractive in person anyway. Still, I could make it work, if I had better pictures of myself, the one I use I took of myself in the bathroom mirror, and I'm still kind of skinny, but working out like crazy.

If I'm going to feel depressed like a bullet wound 24/7 anyway, there's no point in sitting around.

Yellow posted...

If I'm going to feel depressed like a bullet wound

I have never heard this turn of phrase

You should hang out at your local Starbucks and stare at the girls that work there but never talk to them

I've tried online dating and now I pretty much have objective proof that I'm just not attractive as a person.

All those years of being invisible isn't just in my head... feelsbad

Yeah put your ham on them

So on these dating sites... The good ones join at a certain part of the day. Literally every attractive girl is flagged as "just joined"... The rest are weird looking overweight women who lament about how they wish they had a man to feed them food because that's a turn on. Literally.

The local dsa does online meetings... No guys, today's society makes it so hard enough to meet new people, stop with the online stuff! I just want to go out and talk to people!

The sporty girls are hard to interact with. Literally nothing in common. What do you do for fun? I stay up until 5 am coding hobby projects. Cue silence because I don't like sports.

joemodda posted...

I've tried online dating and now I pretty much have objective proof that I'm just not attractive as a person.

All those years of being invisible isn't just in my head... feelsbad

The issue is that for every girl on those apps there are 5 guys, so girls just pick the cream of the crop while you're left with the uncreamable.

AltOmega2 posted...

I have never heard this turn of phrase

It's true, I'm downright miserable. On a good night I'll cry my eyes out, on a bad night I won't be able to cry at all. I'd consider getting antidepressants of the dark web at this point.

I'm basically force feeding myself because I have no appetite anymore.

Seems you need to work on yourself before you invite others into your life honestly.

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wwinterj25 posted...

Seems you need to work on yourself before you invite others into your life honestly.

Oh yeah, honestly

But it's hard to draw that line when being with someone basically cures my depression. The life of borderline, your parents abandon you as a child and you're always sort of that same mess waiting to be woken up. My emotions are so god damn intense.

Yeah but you're admittedly codependent. And that'll dry any girl up

Mensis posted...

Yeah but you're admittedly codependent. And that'll dry any girl up

And more than just not being attractive, it's exhausting. You may well find somebody who likes you well enough to stick around, but being in a relationship with somebody who leans on you 24/7 to avoid slipping into crippling depression wears on a person and creates a really unhealthy relationship dynamic in which the dependee feels like they can't leave without harming the dependent one. Even if you stop feeling depressed when you're with someone, you should be taking advantage of that temporary motivation to get yourself into some sort of therapy to help you work through those challenges and not depend on relationships to be sane.

Good luck with that man! Nothing more fun than meeting women.

Well, my episode finally ended abruptly last night. I ate a real meal for the first time in two weeks and it tasted so good. I'm afraid of something triggering it again, I want to remain on this plane of reality.

adjl posted...

And more than just not being attractive, it's exhausting. You may well find somebody who likes you well enough to stick around, but being in a relationship with somebody who leans on you 24/7 to avoid slipping into crippling depression wears on a person and creates a really unhealthy relationship dynamic in which the dependee feels like they can't leave without harming the dependent one. Even if you stop feeling depressed when you're with someone, you should be taking advantage of that temporary motivation to get yourself into some sort of therapy to help you work through those challenges and not depend on relationships to be sane.

Yeah I've been trying to get mental help, it is as they say quite "American". Aka I have an appointment scheduled in February, and it coming out of pocket. So basically I have absolutely nothing that can help me at this moment. And that's just for medication with some psychiatrist known for handing out pills and not conversating, not therapy. I think you're not American, but yeah it really is that bad over here.

At least I'm not like my friend, who's 30 and uses his mental illness as an excuse to sit around and play video games with his friends and smoke weed every day in his mom's house. I text him for the first time in 10 months and he's still "waiting to get his head straight" before getting a job.

My boss, who's a vet with PTSD, had to wait out 4 months before he could get medicated, and he's middle class.

Yellow posted...

Yeah I've been trying to get mental help, it is as they say quite "American". Aka I have an appointment scheduled in February, and it coming out of pocket. So basically I have absolutely nothing that can help me at this moment. And that's just for medication with some psychiatrist known for handing out pills and not conversating, not therapy. I think you're not American, but yeah it really is that bad over here.

I can believe it. It's a rather broken system, if you can even call it a "system" with how little it's been organized to actually deliver the necessary services. I hope that works out well for you, then.

You can meditate, write down your thoughts, read a book that stimulates your mind. There are plenty of exercises you can do yourself to improve your frame of mind. Emotional Intelligence 2.0 is a great book full of exercises that you can use to work on yourself. Not saying don't seek counseling, talking to someone is the best therapy, but you should consider getting medicated as a resort when all else fails.