Poll of the Day > How much do you trust your partner in a relationship?

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My girlfriend and I were having a discussion about trust. She gave me a scenario about what I would do if an ex-girlfriend of mine hit me up because she wanted to return a sweater of mine. I said it probably wouldn't be a big deal, but I'd tell her about it first. This actually reminded me of about a year ago when my girlfriend and I were washing and cleaning out my car. She found a pair of another girl's underwear in my trunk. I almost never go in my trunk so I had absolutely no clue whose they were or how long they had been in there. She jokingly gave me a hard time about it and we just laughed it off, but I know so many people who would have made a big deal about that. How secure have you guys felt in your relationships and where do you think someone should draw the line at trust?

I trust my bf completely. He's a good person.

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I think we both trust each other well enough to be confident that we value one another enough to not keep things from each other.

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I have zero trust in my hand.

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I trust him like completely. Never had a reason to doubt him. AFAIK, he feels the same...
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grimhilde00 posted...

I trust my bf completely. He's a good person.

I'm going to need to see some proof.

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GunslingerGunsl posted...

She found a pair of another girl's underwear in my trunk.

You should've told her that you were trying to look pretty one day

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SilentSeph posted...

You should've told her that you were trying to look pretty one day

One day I will share with her that truth.

I trust her enough to the point where I know I could handle an open relationship and not get jealous. But we're into each other enough that that's not currently likely!

I trust my wife 100%.

But then I again I don't use relationships for personal gain.

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GunslingerGunsl posted...

One day I will share with her that truth.

my advice is to not share it with her.... i speak from experience.... didn't work out to well for me....

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JigsawTDC posted...

I trust her enough to the point where I know I could handle an open relationship and not get jealous. But we're into each other enough that that's not currently likely!

I had a girlfriend once who had expressed interest in polyamory. I don't think I would ever be happy in any open relationship. I found it weird that she had considered it though because we originally became exclusive after she realized she was jealous seeing me with another girl. That happened after when we were in a threesome together. The threesome was her idea in the first place. If she got jealous then, I find it hard to believe she could be happy in a polyamorous relationship.

SoftClock posted...

my advice is to not share it with her.... i speak from experience.... didn't work out to well for me....

I'm sorry. I hope you are accepted for wanting to feel pretty in the future.

GunslingerGunsl posted...

I had a girlfriend once who had expressed interest in polyamory. I don't think I would ever be happy in any open relationship. I found it weird that she had considered it though because we originally became exclusive after she realized she was jealous seeing me with another girl. That happened after when we were in a threesome together. The threesome was her idea in the first place. If she got jealous then, I find it hard to believe she could be happy in a polyamorous relationship.

Yeah, that definitely seems like a more toxic situation than mine. And don't get me wrong, I've certainly had my fair share of jealousy in the past. In this particular situation nothing's ever been proposed or talked about, I just noticed myself not getting minor pangs of jealousy at little things I may have gotten it from before, so then I really looked at those feelings and took them to their furthest extent and realized the idea of her deriving pleasure in any situation just ends up making me feel happy for her. And I realized if I applied that to other people, I know her love for me is strong enough that I wouldn't really have anything to worry about... But again, these are just personal revelations I've come to through meditation that demonstrate the level of trust I've got. We've never discussed or proposed any arrangements of the sort, and I'm not personally going to propose it currently because I don't really desire other people. Maybe in a couple decades when we're older and uglier I'll propose swinging to spice things up.

I trust that they are only human.

Completely. We've known each other for about half our lives. And we're both pretty blunt about everything, so if there's an issue it gets brought up.

GunslingerGunsl posted...

I had a girlfriend once who had expressed interest in polyamory. I don't think I would ever be happy in any open relationship. I found it weird that she had considered it though because we originally became exclusive after she realized she was jealous seeing me with another girl. That happened after when we were in a threesome together. The threesome was her idea in the first place. If she got jealous then, I find it hard to believe she could be happy in a polyamorous relationship.

I remember this story...
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I don't trust my imaginary partner at all. You never know what mood she's in or when she's going to be seeing other people.

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I always say you can never fully trust anyone because at the end of the day do we really know the people we date/marry.

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Solid Sonic posted...

I'm going to need to see some proof.

He has healthy self esteem. If there's issues, he brings it up, we communicate in ways that are not antagonistic, and if in the long term things wouldn't work out he would break up with me. That's all there is to that.

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BUMPED2002 posted...

I always say you can never fully trust anyone because at the end of the day do we really know the people we date/marry.

Some do, yes...
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BUMPED2002 posted...

I always say you can never fully trust anyone because at the end of the day do we really know the people we date/marry.

With any type of relationship including but not limited to friends and family you can absolutely trust 100%. Could that trust be broken? Yes. However it's unlikely if you think that'll happen if you fully trust someone. I don't trust easy though partly due to my pessimistic, jaded nature.

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LinkPizza posted...

I remember this story...

Yeah, it was in the threesome topic on the sex board. Lol

GunslingerGunsl posted...

Yeah, it was in the threesome topic on the sex board. Lol

Yep. I think it was my topic. But I also remember it from the threesome topic I made on this board a while ago, IIRC... I have made those topics multiple times now...
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BUMPED2002 posted...

I always say you can never fully trust anyone because at the end of the day do we really know the people we date/marry.

One would hope so.

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I trust my current partner quite a bit. We're still fresh in the honeymoon stage, but having known her in the past, she's never been the cheating type. She is the run out on your lease type, so I'm sure I'll never co-habitate with her.

I'm afraid of creating relationships because I was once in one and didn't trust my partner and it ended up as a really shitty experience overall.

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Judgmenl posted...

I'm afraid of creating relationships because I was once in one and didn't trust my partner and it ended up as a really shitty experience overall.

I didn't have alot of trust in my first relationship because my girlfriend was very flirty with other people, including my close friends. My friends all told me I should leave her and that I could do so much better. I didn't listen because I thought I was in love and like I said, it was my first relationship. I really had to take some time until my next relationship because I realized that if I couldn't trust in a future relationship, it would hurt both of us and possibly become a self-fulfilling prophecy.