Poll of the Day > Soo... I tried to have sex with my gf this morning.

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It was... well, there was no finish which felt kinda disappointing to me.

We tried for like half an hour or something I think, and then we decided to regroup and try again later.

I mostly blame myself though.
It felt like I did nothing right.

This was much harder than I'd think it would be.
I mean, we've all heard the stories of it going really fast for first-timers. And I wasn't even close.

So yeah, I guess it's much more complicated than just "In 'n Out".
Geez, they make it seem so simple in porn : /
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If it makes you uncomfortable you can always find someone else to do it for you! I've heard that's a thing!

All that text and I can't figure out what went wrong

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wait do people have sex in the morning?

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Just about everyone sucks at first, just like with most things. Don't worry too much about it and don't get too tense. You and your gf are both on the same team here.

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unleash your inner beast

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You're such a caref- Oh wait nevermind.

Have you tried foreplay?

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CarefreeDude posted...

All that text and I can't figure out what went wrong

I can't really say what happened either.
I couldn't find a good position and rhythm I think.

YoukaiSlayer posted...

Just about everyone sucks at first, just like with most things. Don't worry too much about it and don't get too tense. You and your gf are both on the same team here.

Yeah I asked her what she thought and she wasn't sure either.
She's not a virgin like me though.

Zareth posted...

You're such a caref- Oh wait nevermind.

Have you tried foreplay?

I was thinking about doing something like that the next time actually.
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Think of Tess Merkel? But seriously the morning might be your best chance. Sounds like you couldnt stay hard and Im sure thats prolly from how nervous you were about disappointing her. Foreplays definitely your answer. Youre prolly gonna last 2 seconds so once your hard just get it over with so ya wont feel like its such a big deal anymore. Trust me its all in your head.

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LeetCheet posted...

She's not a virgin like me though.

Technically the "like me" part is no longer correct. I wouldn't worry too much. Few people are good at sex in general, many have awkward experienced their first time. Communication with your partner is key though. Explore and find out what you both enjoy and you'll find ways to please each other.

FrndNhbrHdCEman posted...

Think of Tess Merkel?

lol

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Im so stressed about my job and other crap all the time now I dont think Ive been in the mood since January. I feel bad for my girlfriend. Shes pretty understanding at least.

Haven't been Tess'd here in a while lol
I still think she's hot though despite what others say.

I think my angle might've been kinda bad because it didn't feel quite right while doing it y'know.
I've heard condoms can reduce some sensation, maybe I should buy some better ones...
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Havent you been dating her for like 2 years??

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LeetCheet posted...

I've heard condoms can reduce some sensation, maybe I should buy some better ones.

yea i would ditch the condoms. hit it doggy with a little bacon grease as lube. just make sure to shout can you smell what my c*** is cookin right before climax

FrozenBananas posted...

Havent you been dating her for like 2 years??

Five years actually.

LaggnFragnLarry posted...

LeetCheet posted...

I've heard condoms can reduce some sensation, maybe I should buy some better ones.

yea i would ditch the condoms. hit it doggy with a little bacon grease as lube. just make sure to shout can you smell what my c*** is cookin right before climax

I don't think I have the personality to pull off wild stuff like that yet lol
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Only time that ever happens to me is when I party. And I always forewarn.

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FrndNhbrHdCEman posted...

Think of Tess Merkel? But seriously the morning might be your best chance. Sounds like you couldnt stay hard and Im sure thats prolly from how nervous you were about disappointing her. Foreplays definitely your answer. Youre prolly gonna last 2 seconds so once your hard just get it over with so ya wont feel like its such a big deal anymore. Trust me its all in your head.

This is actually great advice, ok?

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Thinking about it too hard

It's more about intimacy and closeness than anyone "finishing". Plus if you take longer you just get to be with her longer no big deal

If you really for some reason want to be able to get off, just quick jerking off entirely. That'll fix ya right up for next time.

Get some lube if you don't have it

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Nerves can do that. Just relax and enjoy the process, whatever happens. You're both there because you're enjoying yourselves, so don't worry about disappointing her. You'll have plenty of opportunities in the future to blow her mind.

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Foreplay and lube are the answers. Set the mood, start with like a massage or something.

Jumping right in doesn't yield the best results until you know what you're doing.

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When I first started having sex with my ex-girlfriend, we did it every day. On the fourth day, it started taking me longer to finish and she noticed. On the sixth day I was unable to finish even though we were going at it for a while.

That's when we started doing it every other day, for the most part.
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TC, I don't believe you

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You might have been too tired to climax.
Happens to me sometimes, rare, but it happens. As previously stated by others, foreplay helps.

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I know it didn't work out like you expected, but congrats anyway.

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I struggled finding the hole my first time but I got it eventually.

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have you tried talking to her bro? generally speaking, if you are unable to even discuss a sex act, you are probably not mature enough to try it.

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blu posted...

Im so stressed about my job and other crap all the time now I dont think Ive been in the mood since January. I feel bad for my girlfriend. Shes pretty understanding at least.

oh wait never mind. I was talking to her and its only been like a month

My first time we went at it like probably like 15 times in a row. None lasting very long of course but i was 16 and didn't care. Nowadays at the ripe age of 30, going more than a few times in a day sounds like a lot of work lol

Did you just try to go in dry? I don't get it.

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Jen0125 posted...

Did you just try to go in dry? I don't get it.

Pain is just a different flavor of love, and blood is just a different flavor of lube

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PatrickMahomes posted...

Foreplay and lube are the answers. Set the mood, start with like a massage or something.

Jumping right in doesn't yield the best results until you know what you're doing.

We did cuddle and stuff before we started though.

Lordkill posted...

TC, I don't believe you

Ok what's so unbelievable then?

KogaSteelfang posted...

I know it didn't work out like you expected, but congrats anyway.

Thanks man.
You've always been one of the good guys in my eyes.

CarefreeDude posted...

I struggled finding the hole my first time but I got it eventually.

Funny thing was that we both struggled to find the hole lol
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Do you masturbate frequently? This can cause issues with finishing during intercourse. You can train your body to finish with a speed, friction and grip that can not be achieved with intercourse.

There are positions that can help. But I fear going into those details would result in a deleted post.

As far as condoms go, try the Lifestyles Skyn Elite. Those are the only condoms that I've been able to finish while wearing. They're not latex. They transfer heat and sensation much better than latex condoms.


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Bugmeat posted...

Do you masturbate frequently? This can cause issues with finishing during intercourse. You can train your body to finish with a speed, friction and grip that can not be achieved with intercourse.

There are positions that can help. But I fear going into those details would result in a deleted post.

As far as condoms go, try the Lifestyles Skyn Elite. Those are the only condoms that I've been able to finish while wearing. They're not latex. They transfer heat and sensation much better than latex condoms.

Like once or twice a week. It really only depends when I'm home alone(can't do it if I'm not alone) in either my gf's apartment or the apartment I share with my brother.

It usually happens on Fridays because I only work to 12 which means I have like two hours of me-time before either of them is home.
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LeetCheet posted...

This was much harder than I'd think it would be.

Uh-huh.

Noop_Noop posted...

have you tried talking to her bro?

Not sure he would have any good advice.

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My first time was so awkward. I was 12 and she was 13 and we watched one of her brothers pornos together and decided to try it

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I dunno what the issue was but porn is not a good model for actual sex usually

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What the...


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Mead posted...

I dunno what the issue was but porn is not a good model for actual sex usually

I dunno what you mean, me and my stepwife have porn style sex all the time

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K. First stop the masurbation and any porn. It wont help ya and will totally make it worse. Second dont wear a condom. Thats gonna take extra time and youll just get soft. If youre good to go and she is do it. Youre prolly gonna last 3 pumps but it beats ya never getting in.

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FrndNhbrHdCEman posted...

K. First stop the masurbation and any porn. It wont help ya and will totally make it worse. Second dont wear a condom. Thats gonna take extra time and youll just get soft. If youre good to go and she is do it. Youre prolly gonna last 3 pumps but it beats ya never getting in.

His girlfriend has HPV. That's why they haven't had sex in the like 5 years they've been together.

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Jen0125 posted...

His girlfriend has HPV. That's why they haven't had sex in the like 5 years they've been together.

He hasnt gotten the vaccine by now?

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you gotta channel the things that turn you on

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Apparently she doesn't have it anymore according to the last check-up she had.

And no I haven't gotten that particular vaccine but that's because guys usually doesn't get it in the first place, which I think is really stupid that they never made it mandatory for men.
Men are as susceptible to get it as women.
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LeetCheet posted...

And no I haven't gotten that particular vaccine but that's because guys usually doesn't get it in the first place,

Men can carry it and can get cancer from it fam. And she got a pap and shes clear of HPV? Then yall should be clear. But you both should go get vaccinated ASAP. Theres tons of strains and youll thank yourself later for doing it.

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FrndNhbrHdCEman posted...

LeetCheet posted...

And no I haven't gotten that particular vaccine but that's because guys usually doesn't get it in the first place,

Men can carry it and can get cancer from it fam. And she got a pap and shes clear of HPV? Then yall should be clear. But you both should go get vaccinated ASAP. Theres tons of strains and youll thank yourself later for doing it.

She's already vaccinated though but iirc it's not a 100% protection.

And I'd really like to take that vaccine because I don't want to get cancer. I guess I could just talk with my doctor about it.

It's insane how no one pushed the vaccine for boys when it has pretty much been mandatory for girls for many years.
And not to mention how much easier it is for women to just have their cooch checked out with a camera and regular check ups.

And men? Well, neither a mandatory vaccine or even regular check ups for HPV-related cancers for men.

But I guess men are just useless and don't deserve shit like that.
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CarefreeDude posted...

My first time was so awkward. I was 12 and she was 13 and we watched one of her brothers pornos together and decided to try it

wtf dude

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LeetCheet posted...

And men? Well, neither a mandatory vaccine or even regular check ups for HPV-related cancers for men.

But I guess men are just useless and don't deserve shit like that.

Its more men think doctors appointments are somehow a negative. Most men would rather try sucking it up before admitting were sick and going in.

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don't worry too much about finishing, it's not a race and that's just unsatisfying for both of you. things should progress naturally through the intimacy and closeness. sometimes the mood just isn't there and that's okay, but don't worry about there being some hidden technique you're missing, you barely even started

also porn is 100% not where you should get your sex education from, that is designed for the viewer, not the performers

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