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-Komaiko54-
07/26/20 9:31:18 PM
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I'm currently in an drunken, maudlin mess because both of my crushes turned me down and I have no friends. I just can't take it anymore. IDK what else to do

Unrelatedly, Today is the fifth year anniversary of the day I created this account. Maybe I should close it already

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skermac
07/26/20 9:32:21 PM
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Go to a bar?

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-Komaiko54-
07/26/20 9:33:13 PM
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skermac posted...
Go to a bar?

I'm 19

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Hexenherz
07/26/20 9:33:16 PM
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Going for a walk, especially at a nice park can be a good way to work things out

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SSJKirby
07/26/20 9:35:22 PM
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ignore it

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SamWincester
07/26/20 9:41:16 PM
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-Komaiko54- posted...
skermac posted...
Go to a bar?

I'm 19

18+ bars exist in many places
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Heart-Mk-II
07/26/20 10:11:35 PM
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I'm dead inside, so my perpetual loneliness doesn't effect me as much as it used to, but I've got a little over a decade on you in age. If most of my memories weren't gone, I might have had some advice to give you on the subject.

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Lost_All_Senses
07/26/20 10:18:35 PM
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-Komaiko54- posted...
I'm 19

The hell man. I almost felt bad for you. You got the entirety of your life to pick yourself back up. This isn't sad. This is just normal life for 19. If you rely on that drink too much, it's gonna get hella rough eventually tho. You'll be begging to come back to this moment.

Just cause your 19 doesn't mean you don't have feelings tho. Shit can still suck. But you gotta learn to get over it, cause this is just the beginning. You'll get better at it.

I guess I was kind of lucky. Cause at 19. I already realized nothing around me was forever or designed to work in my favor.

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legendary_zell
07/26/20 10:33:53 PM
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It's very very very very important that you don't use alcohol or other substances to help you with emotional lows. That way only leads to pain and suffering. If possible, try to make some online friends through a game or hobby community or something. And when you feel low, try to channel it into something productive like exercise. You can't let yourself fall into self pity and destructive patterns of living and coping.

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FortuneCookie
07/26/20 10:47:40 PM
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I read that as lionesses.

I was gonna suggest lighting a torch. All animals are afraid of fire.

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vigorm0rtis
07/26/20 10:49:19 PM
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Heart-Mk-II posted...
I'm dead inside, so my perpetual loneliness doesn't effect me as much as it used to,

If you were dead inside you wouldn't be lonely, drama queen.

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KingArthur3D
07/26/20 10:50:15 PM
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Heart-Mk-II
07/26/20 10:50:19 PM
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vigorm0rtis posted...
If you were dead inside you wouldn't be lonely, drama queen.

If you knew what you were talking about I'd take you seriously, online stranger.

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nfearurspecimn
07/26/20 10:50:45 PM
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realize most people suck and you're better off alone in most cases

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NonDairyMiltank
07/26/20 10:54:44 PM
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How to deal with loneliness?
-find purpose and value in what you can do solo (don't have anything to do? stop crying and FIND something to do besides crying)

-stop feeling ashamed about the amount of time you spend alone (plenty of people can feel like shit in groups and publicly ADMIT IT daily)

-stop letting other people define who you are with arbitrary labels and how happy you're "allowed" to be...defining yourself is YOUR job, nobody else's (if you mostly do that alone, keep doing you)

-you alone, but you're usually comfortable and satisfied in your own way? guess what: you're probably already FINE and better off than a lot of people tryin to drag you back down because you pulled off what they stink at (which is why they want you unhappy too)

-STOP STOP STOP judging your worth by how popular you want to be and how much booty you think you're supposed to slay (if you define a big part of existence by how much dates/sex you get...whoops, you fucked up, try something else cause you ain't gonna be young forever)

you feeling lonely bites you in the ass so much because YOU give it that power over you
stop bendin the knee to that dysfunction and work up from there
take back your power over it by acknowledging it's a dysfunction and you want it gone
wanting something for real means doing something about it

you ain't ever gonna find better until you start believing you as an individual can in the first place
most of the people endlessly whining about being lonely have internalized pessimism and institutionalized goals that don't take that into account
acknowledge the infection, find your own cure, and use it as proof you can do more than sit infected

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Zikten
07/26/20 10:55:45 PM
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get a pet
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vigorm0rtis
07/27/20 12:01:06 AM
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Heart-Mk-II posted...
If you knew what you were talking about I'd take you seriously, online stranger.

Well... I'm schizoid, so I probably know "dead inside" a lot better than you do, and it's a condition, not melodrama.

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Heart-Mk-II
07/27/20 12:02:17 AM
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vigorm0rtis posted...
Well... I'm schizoid, so I probably know "dead inside" a lot better than you do, and it's a condition, not melodrama.

Heart-Mk-II posted...
If you knew what you were talking about I'd take you seriously, online stranger.


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FortuneCookie
07/27/20 8:51:36 AM
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> literally diagnosed with a medical condition

"You don't know what you're talking about."

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-Komaiko54-
07/27/20 9:17:56 AM
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SamWincester posted...
18+ bars exist in many places

What's the point if I can't drink? Usually I can sneak into regular ones because my balding hairline and puffy mustache makes me look older but it's hit or miss

Lost_All_Senses posted...
The hell man. I almost felt bad for you. You got the entirety of your life to pick yourself back up. This isn't sad. This is just normal life for 19. If you rely on that drink too much, it's gonna get hella rough eventually tho. You'll be begging to come back to this moment.

Aside from picking up my car from getting fixed, I haven't talked to anyone in a week. Surely that's not normal

legendary_zell posted...
It's very very very very important that you don't use alcohol or other substances to help you with emotional lows. That way only leads to pain and suffering.

Nonsense, it's not that addictive. Sometimes it's just nice to loosen the mind and not overthink

Zikten posted...
get a pet

My dorm doesn't allow animals

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-Komaiko54-
07/27/20 4:18:22 PM
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dolomedes posted...
while i wouldn't advocate for totally avoiding alcohol, it is incredibly addictive and ruins lives/families literally all the time. every drunk says they don't have a problem.

drinking in moderation is perfectly okay, but don't downplay the countless tragedies that alcohol has caused.

It's only addictive the older you get. I'm pretty young right now and restrained because I can't get it as easily so no big deal. It's a great outlet, don't be sour

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kingdrake2
07/27/20 4:24:55 PM
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-Komaiko54- posted...
My dorm doesn't allow animals


damn. this would help alot if they allowed them.
big payoff if keep em healthy/happy.
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kirbyfan99
07/28/20 7:35:54 PM
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Get in contact with family and friends.
Otherwise beat all of Beadrix's challenges in Kirby's Epic Yarn and then call yourself a gamer.

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sabin017
07/28/20 7:38:19 PM
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-Komaiko54-
07/28/20 11:40:39 PM
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kirbyfan99 posted...
Get in contact with family and friends.

I just said that my family lives a thousand miles away and my friends never want to hang out

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-Komaiko54-
07/29/20 12:37:24 AM
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dolomedes posted...
my sister was a raging alcoholic at 20.

That's different. I'm a man with more body mass so the alcohol gets absorbed easier. Also, I'm 19

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Big_Nabendu
07/29/20 1:11:31 AM
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Start working out
You'll feel good about yourself

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Dark_SilverX
07/29/20 1:16:44 AM
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buy a wig, get a pair of nylon pantyhose and walk the nightly streets.

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tremain07
07/29/20 1:19:15 AM
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My honest advice to TC is to leave the site, start doing things that require interaction, people hate it but twitter, facebook, even a twitch and youtube channel will do more positive things than a bunch of jaded cynical 30 something boomers will

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jmikla
07/29/20 1:19:54 AM
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How to deal with a lioness?

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Tenlaar
07/29/20 1:20:26 AM
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Well I didn't expect this to end up with the TC either trolling about alcoholism or displaying a shocking ignorance about it.
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-Komaiko54-
07/29/20 8:18:02 AM
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Big_Nabendu posted...
Start working out
You'll feel good about yourself

I do but it's hard to that now with the gyms closed :<

tremain07 posted...
My honest advice to TC is to leave the site, start doing things that require interaction, people hate it but twitter, facebook, even a twitch and youtube channel will do more positive things than a bunch of jaded cynical 30 something boomers will


I have all of those already >:

Tenlaar posted...
Well I didn't expect this to end up with the TC either trolling about alcoholism or displaying a shocking ignorance about it.

What? It's True, people need to stop taking away my one coping outlet

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kirbyfan99
07/29/20 8:46:18 AM
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-Komaiko54- posted...
I just said that my family lives a thousand miles away and my friends never want to hang out
Oh, sorry, I didn't read all the posts.

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kirbyfan99
07/29/20 8:49:12 AM
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Also, don't close your account, you've got a pretty high user level.

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Solid Snake07
07/29/20 9:30:37 AM
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not drinking alone would be a good start

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Eliza-Schuyler
07/29/20 9:38:25 AM
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kirbyfan99 posted...
Get in contact with family and friends.
Otherwise beat all of Beadrix's challenges in Kirby's Epic Yarn and then call yourself a gamer.
actually yes

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Solid Snake07
07/29/20 10:32:02 AM
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dolomedes posted...
tbh drinking alone is okay... until you get defensive about it, downplay alcoholism, and refer to the act as your 'one coping method'


I've drank by myself before. Plenty actually. But I don't get sad and lonely when I do

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