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OmegaPillow
01/18/20 4:35:46 AM
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And she begged for forgiveness, she wanted to stay with me. She ran to the guys house for four days and cried for me back, am i foolish for taking her back? What do i do?

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eggcorn
01/18/20 4:36:30 AM
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OmegaPillow posted...
am i foolish for taking her back?

yes

OmegaPillow posted...
What do i do?

leave her
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im not 13
01/18/20 4:37:24 AM
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eggcorn posted...
yes

leave her


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Ivany2008
01/18/20 4:37:38 AM
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I can only speak from a friends experience. Don't take her back. Your worth more. Friend got married and less than a month after they were married she wanted a separation to "sort some things out". He pops over to her apartment and finds her in bed with another guy. Now, he beat the shit out of the other guy, but that's not the point I'm making here. If she was gone for 4 days, then clearly you weren't on her mind.

Take a couple weeks to yourself, and then get back on the bandwagon.
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Evening_Dragon
01/18/20 4:38:33 AM
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@OmegaPillow

What a suitable name, heh.

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Supernatural
01/18/20 4:40:16 AM
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Forgive but don't forget

jk i dont know anything

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OmegaPillow
01/18/20 4:40:27 AM
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Evening_Dragon posted...
@OmegaPillow

What a suitable name, heh.

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Evening_Dragon
01/18/20 4:43:01 AM
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OmegaPillow posted...
=[

Seriously though, stop being such an incredible pushover. I feel your shame by proxy, and I don't even know you.

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OmegaPillow
01/18/20 4:43:39 AM
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Ivany2008 posted...
I can only speak from a friends experience. Don't take her back. Your worth more. Friend got married and less than a month after they were married she wanted a separation to "sort some things out". He pops over to her apartment and finds her in bed with another guy. Now, he beat the shit out of the other guy, but that's not the point I'm making here. If she was gone for 4 days, then clearly you weren't on her mind.

Take a couple weeks to yourself, and then get back on the bandwagon.
She begged for me back on her knees, cried profusely. I couldnt walk away from that i got a big heart idk bro

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OmegaPillow
01/18/20 4:44:09 AM
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Evening_Dragon posted...
Seriously though, stop being such an incredible pushover. I feel your shame by proxy, and I don't even know you.
First time ive ever dealt with this

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Evening_Dragon
01/18/20 4:45:10 AM
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Just... Just think about another man fucking her brains out, and make your call while the iron in your heart is still hot.

Or cold.

Whatever. Think about the truth that she had some dick all up in her between telling you that she loved you.

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CharlesBronson
01/18/20 4:45:26 AM
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either take her back or live out your remaining days alone
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Patty_Fleur
01/18/20 4:46:12 AM
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Keep her but you get to cheat too.

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Funkydog
01/18/20 4:46:45 AM
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You can change your mind.

Tell her you had some time to think about this and that she's gotta go. Make it short, snappy. Do it somewhere not at your place, so you can leave after quickly and be done with it.

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Chicken
01/18/20 4:48:33 AM
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Pee in her butt and then walk away.

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OmegaPillow
01/18/20 4:48:53 AM
#16:


Evening_Dragon posted...
Just... Just think about another man fucking her brains out, and make your call while the iron in your heart is still hot.

Or cold.

Whatever. Think about the truth that she had some dick all up in her between telling you that she loved you.
True. My hatred builds more everytime

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OmegaPillow
01/18/20 4:49:35 AM
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Patty_Fleur posted...
Keep her but you get to cheat too.
Hmm

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Strider102
01/18/20 4:49:51 AM
#18:


Leave her. If you get back with her she'll likely do it again. This wasn't some accident (of which that's a piss poor excuse in the first place). She knew what she was doing and in taking her back you'll give her the idea you're a pushover.

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Touya999
01/18/20 4:52:05 AM
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CharlesBronson posted...
either take her back or live out your remaining days alone

Another women possible.

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SH_expert44
01/18/20 4:52:29 AM
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dont be a cuck. dump that thot

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Evening_Dragon
01/18/20 4:53:31 AM
#21:


OmegaPillow posted...
True. My hatred builds more everytime

Dark side, sith mode. Use it. You won't lose your shit and kill a bunch of younglings, you'll just maintain a level of self respect when you get over this in roughly 1 1/2 years.

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OmegaPillow
01/18/20 4:53:42 AM
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Strider102 posted...
Leave her. If you get back with her she'll likely do it again. This wasn't some accident (of which that's a piss poor excuse in the first place). She knew what she was doing and in taking her back you'll give her the idea you're a pushover.
So the crying and begging for me back and forgiveness is just guilt?

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Evening_Dragon
01/18/20 4:56:16 AM
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No, she means it then, but she's not going to mean it later.

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pendulum_summon
01/18/20 4:57:21 AM
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C

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SalazarCrane
01/18/20 4:58:09 AM
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Ram her from behind then dump her.
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OmegaPillow
01/18/20 4:59:02 AM
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Ugh some of these posters post straight virgin post. I appreciate the ones who know what its like. Good to hear

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Strider102
01/18/20 4:59:22 AM
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OmegaPillow posted...
So the crying and begging for me back and forgiveness is just guilt?
It's possible sure. It could also be she knows you well enough to know what strings to pull.

My ex was the same way so I know from experience.

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Evening_Dragon
01/18/20 5:00:00 AM
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To be fair, I have no first hand experience, just that I know people who have cheated and have been cheated on.

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OmegaPillow
01/18/20 5:00:44 AM
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Strider102 posted...
It's possible sure. It could also be she knows you well enough to know what strings to pull.

My ex was the same way so I know from experience.
I kept my guard up for a while after that i feel vulnerable. I did cheat in the beginning but we wasnt even in love stage yet

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Ilishe
01/18/20 5:02:49 AM
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She ain't your girl bro. Not anymore.

Walk away.

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Cookie Bag
01/18/20 5:04:43 AM
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OmegaPillow posted...
Ugh some of these posters post straight virgin post. I appreciate the ones who know what its like. Good to hear
I mean the answer is clear and its common sense, the girl cheated once, she will cheat again, it goes the same way for males too.

So now ask yourself, even if you love her do you want to live with the shadow of doubt that she could be cheating on you again?

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emblem boy
01/18/20 5:04:50 AM
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3 months is a long time... Leave her bro.

I am curious. What excuse did she give you?
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cavalierking
01/18/20 5:05:08 AM
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probably an unpopular opinion, but ime, 99% of people just do not change

like, at all (significantly, anyway; of course people change gradually/negligibly here and there, but that's w/e)

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so assuming she's in that 99% of people who don't and never will change, to forgive her would be to both condone what she's done (i.e. be perfectly and 100% fine with it) and give her the sign that it'd be okay for her to do again

cut her out of your life and avoid the toxicity/negativity that'll undoubtedly come with staying with her

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CrimsonWaffle
01/18/20 5:06:57 AM
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Dump her ass.

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Ivany2008
01/18/20 5:31:48 AM
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I'll give you another example. Chick I had at my house nearly died one day from an alcohol induced seizure. Had to call the ambulance and everything. Now, this was the 2nd time we had hung out together, and while the emts were going through her purse they found multiple ID cards. Like 4 of them(again, another reason I have trust issues and choose to not date for now). She gets brought to the hospital and 6 hours later checks herself out using my name saying I would pick her up. I told her I'm not picking her up, she begged and cried and pleaded for me to pick her up(mind you I barely know the chick). I tell her to get herself sober, get off the alcohol and then get back to me and I would talk to her then. Thinking it would be a couple days later.

That was nearly 2 years ago. Haven't heard a word from her since. Dump her ass. If she really wanted to be with you, she would be with you.
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a_riot04
01/18/20 5:48:20 AM
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Yeah, why tf is this even a question. Throw her ass out. Chances are she went there like "we official now boo!" and guy be like "he knows? F dat!" and slams the door.

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pendulum_summon
01/18/20 5:50:31 AM
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a_riot04 posted...
Yeah, why tf is this even a question. Throw her ass out. Chances are she went there like "we official now boo!" and guy be like "he knows? F dat!" and slams the door.
The fact that tc even considers taking her back shows he's a cuck
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OmegaPillow
01/18/20 5:50:56 AM
#38:


Cookie Bag posted...
I mean the answer is clear and its common sense, the girl cheated once, she will cheat again, it goes the same way for males too.

So now ask yourself, even if you love her do you want to live with the shadow of doubt that she could be cheating on you again?
I cheated and never wanted to cheat again , i guess some people are different

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OmegaPillow
01/18/20 5:51:56 AM
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emblem boy posted...
3 months is a long time... Leave her bro.

I am curious. What excuse did she give you?
That i was mean, i treated her like shit which yeah we had bad times but never treated her to that point. I wasnt showing her enough love, stuff like that

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emblem boy
01/18/20 5:53:54 AM
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OmegaPillow posted...
emblem boy posted...
3 months is a long time... Leave her bro.

I am curious. What excuse did she give you?
That i was mean, i treated her like shit which yeah we had bad times but never treated her to that point. I wasnt showing her enough love, stuff like that


Did these things get brought up earlier in the relationship?
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Kensaimage
01/18/20 5:57:27 AM
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OmegaPillow posted...
That i was mean, i treated her like shit which yeah we had bad times but never treated her to that point. I wasnt showing her enough love, stuff like that

Okay, but rather then sort it out with you shes fucking another guy?

Think seriously a minute. This is the kinda shit that can literally ruin lives. Imagine she got pregnant and you found out ten years from now youve been raising somebody elses son. Probably a pretty heart breaking experience.

Or, ya know...stds. A dishonest partner willing to lie to your face while exploring other options WILL betray you again. Period.

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Strider102
01/18/20 6:06:57 AM
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OmegaPillow posted...
That i was mean, i treated her like shit which yeah we had bad times but never treated her to that point. I wasnt showing her enough love, stuff like that
Every relationship is going to have rocky times. My wife and I will sometimes get into arguments but after we've cooled down a bit we talk to each other. We don't cheat on each other.

Instead of being willing to talk she slept with another guy, for 3 months. Then she ran off to spend 4 days with him then went back to you crying. She's playing you like a fiddle.

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Dark_SilverX
01/18/20 6:07:57 AM
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Ask her to bring over the guy she cheated on you with and demand them have sex in front of you.

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Varandil
01/18/20 6:12:32 AM
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Get rid. The concept of removing toxic people from your life applies across all relationships, whether it's partners, friends or family.

TL:DR version: Cheaters cheat, and not just sexually. If you let her get away with it, she'll abuse your trust in other ways too.

Story version: I was seeing this girl for a little while (was never going to work out long term anyway for a bunch of reason, chiefly as I was 28 and she was 18). She cheated on me multiple times when going out with friends - in hindsight not a surprise, she was easy AF when drinking. Despite that, though, we did naturally get on really well so we stayed friends. Cue 3 years of me being helpful and supportive multiple times, and her only making time for me when she felt like it.

We were talking about going on holiday somewhere, and settled on Berlin - we were paying 50% of everything each so it was all good, but I needed to get the deposits on flights and hotel down quickly so I paid those off and that counted as part of my 50%... then 3 days before, she bails on the whole holiday because she'd spent too much money clubbing, costing me a whole load of money (hotel returned deposit, airline wouldn't). Have barely spoken to her since, despite numerous attempts by her to "reconnect". Fact is, whether it's relationship, emotional, financial... if she's happy to abuse your trust one way, it won't be limited to just the one.

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SuperShake666
01/18/20 6:17:27 AM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4SiiRx7GDzI

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AirFresh
01/18/20 6:22:50 AM
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Yeah, giving everything I have seen in this topic, I would leave her. She is only sad because she got caught. This destroys the biggest dynamic in a relationshop: Trust. Trust is what is most important, with one of my ex's, I noticed her getting more and more distant. This made me weary, and then I noticed she was texting one of her ex's constantly. I of course confronted her on the matter, for her to reveal that she is confused. So I told her that if you are feeling confused then I have to break up with her. She was shocked, I then further explained that I am not just "option". And she begged me to think on it, and I did, and remained steadfast with my decision.

1 day later, after breaking up with her, she immediately got back with her ex. I just shook my head, honestly.

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LinkPizza
01/18/20 6:34:56 AM
#48:


No. Don't take her back. Dump her. And if you really want to stick it to her, do it after sex. Like have sex with her one more time. Probably at her place, if possible. Then dump her. That would probably hurt more, I would think.

OmegaPillow posted...
I cheated and never wanted to cheat again , i guess some people are different

The way you described it sounds like you guys weren't serious. Now personally, I would never date someone who cheats because I believe people who cheat will cheat again, no matter what they say. For you, it may be that you "cheated" before being official, which may not be cheating. Or maybe you'll cheat again while dating before it get serious. Idk. Either way, leave her. If you don't, she'll know you're a pushover. And she will definitely cheat again because she knows she can and can get away with it. The choice is yours, but it should be obvious what to do...

Dark_SilverX posted...
Ask her to bring over the guy she cheated on you with and demand them have sex in front of you.

This reminds me of a porn story I read. The guy found out his wife was cheating and came home early to catch her. If was his best friend. So, she made her watch them have sex. They both got really into it. She ended up running away. And he and the best friend stayed together. And the best friend had proof she was stealing money and planning to run away. I mostly read for the "straight guys" having sex with each other... What I'm saying it maybe fuck the guy. Or fuck one of her hot friends in front of her... Obviously a joke...
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LinkPizza
01/18/20 6:42:24 AM
#49:


AirFresh posted...
1 day later, after breaking up with her, she immediately got back with her ex. I just shook my head, honestly.

I mean, that's not much of a surprise. If she had two "options", and one left her, she's obviously going to choose the other. Same thing most likely would have happened in reverse if her ex said they wouldn't get back together or found someone else. She would have probably be all about you again... Unless she was "cheating" with him. Though, it's possible she wasn't.

I remember dating this guy. And when he broke up with me, he started dating another guy very soon after. He did try to explain to me that they weren't dating before we broke up, though I can't confirm. IIRC, I think they may have worked together. Anyway, it was also hard to really trust him about things afterward. We didn't date or anything, but were still friends. Though, he did try to get back with me. But I'm not the type to date exes. Because you broke up for a reason... Unless they reason was like distance or something where the actual relationship was fine. Also, I can't shake the feeling that he was either cheating, or broke up with me to date the other guy. So, if they did it once, they will most likely do it again...
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OmegaPillow
01/18/20 6:45:11 AM
#50:


emblem boy posted...
Did these things get brought up earlier in the relationship?
Vaguely

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