Poll of the Day > Fell in love with a girl?

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The_Dusk
12/08/19 12:46:20 AM
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I met the most awesome girl ever. She is a nerd, loves video games, and is probably the coolest person I know.

She wants to go out with me...the problem I have is that she weighs 263 lbs....

I hate seeming like a shallow douche but because of her weight I am not physically attracted to her but I really feel a connection in every other way possible.

I feel like an ass because we have been on multiple "dates" and we haven't ever done anything physical (to be honest we tried but I couldn't) She is very pretty but the weight just turns me off if I am being blunt.

What should I do? I love her personality and being around her but there is just no physical attraction whatsoever. I guess that makes me a pig?

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thedeerzord
12/08/19 12:49:19 AM
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Yes that makes you a pig, and you are shallow.

Just go out with her?

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Jen0125
12/08/19 12:50:44 AM
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Sucks. You're just not romantically compatible. Move on and stop leading her on.

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SunWuKung420
12/08/19 12:51:06 AM
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Stop thinking ideal women are models and porn stars.


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The_Dusk
12/08/19 12:55:23 AM
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We have been on multiple dates and we have tried doing "stuff" but I was unable to do anything. I wish I could get over it because she is so amazing but it just looks gross. I feel horrible but I can't help it.

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The_Dusk
12/08/19 12:59:52 AM
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SunWuKung420 posted...
Stop thinking ideal women are models and porn stars.
I don't but there is a giant gap between porn star and 263 lbs

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The_Dusk
12/08/19 1:02:33 AM
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Zangulus posted...
There's no "Seeming."
Not sure why, I can't finish when looking at an overweight woman. It is a preference and I know some men can and even seek it out but it is really gross to me.

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Death Commander
12/08/19 1:03:42 AM
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How much do you weigh?

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The_Dusk
12/08/19 1:04:46 AM
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6'4 195 lbs

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EnvyFox
12/08/19 1:13:22 AM
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If she disgusts you that badly, break it off. No point in forcing yourself through a relationship you don't want. Whether or not it makes you a "pig" or "shallow" doesn't matter.
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SunWuKung420
12/08/19 1:15:23 AM
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Mental attraction is the best attraction.

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nogaems
12/08/19 1:15:44 AM
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This is why the friend zone exists

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The_Dusk
12/08/19 1:15:53 AM
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But she is good for me. She makes me happy and I love being around her.

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The_Dusk
12/08/19 1:19:01 AM
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It is honestly a thing where she isn't even trying; she eats five meals a day and is constantly drinking diet soda and eating bread for every meal without any sort of regimen to move around.

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HornedLion
12/08/19 1:19:27 AM
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https://youtu.be/fTH71AAxXmM

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WhiskeyDisk
12/08/19 1:24:35 AM
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https://youtu.be/-5aZEC8oj3w

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Sarcasthma
12/08/19 1:25:13 AM
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SunWuKung420 posted...
Mental attraction is the best attraction.
Sure, but physical attraction is important, too.

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The_Dusk
12/08/19 1:34:17 AM
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It just really sucks because I want to love this girl but I am definitely shallow

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nogaems
12/08/19 1:42:37 AM
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There's billions of other girls out there my friend. Being single is better than what you're forcing yourself through. Just tell her you don't think you guys are a good match and be done with it.

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JCvgluvr
12/08/19 2:22:11 AM
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Having preferences isn't shallow. Give the TC a break.

I would advise to settle on friendship. If you don't think it's possible then you gotta break it off. It'll be difficult. But it's for the best.

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TheWitchMorgana
12/08/19 2:35:00 AM
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The_Dusk posted...
It is honestly a thing where she isn't even trying; she eats five meals a day and is constantly drinking diet soda and eating bread for every meal without any sort of regimen to move around.

you say you have a connection but here you are dunking on her on a message board. move on and stop stringing her along

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wwinterj25
12/08/19 2:48:42 AM
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The_Dusk posted...
she weighs 263 lbs....
I am not physically attracted to her
She is very pretty
What should I do?
I love her personality and being around her

Keep her as a friend as that's basically what she is. Once shes lost the weight then see where it goes.

SunWuKung420 posted...
Stop thinking ideal women are models and porn stars.

... but what if they are?

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Fam_Fam
12/08/19 10:11:58 AM
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how about you have a fun healthy friendship with someone you enjoy spending time with?
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Grindcorp9000
12/08/19 10:12:20 AM
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That's better than finding out your gf is a fucking racist like I did a couple nights ago. It blows my mind considering we were a fucking mixed couple. If all that is making you hesitant is something that CAN change I say go for it TC. Suggest eating better together and working out. Be kind though.

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SpaceBear_
12/08/19 10:44:10 AM
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It's not shallow at all, pal.

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SilentSeph
12/08/19 12:14:20 PM
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You are not being shallow for not being attracted to a certain body type

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ChaoticKnuckles
12/08/19 12:34:07 PM
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The_Dusk posted...
We have been on multiple dates and we have tried doing "stuff" but I was unable to do anything. I wish I could get over it because she is so amazing but it just looks gross. I feel horrible but I can't help it.

If you cant get past it then let her go. Keeping her on the hook isnt fair to her.

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DDirtyDastard
12/08/19 12:41:30 PM
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If you aren't into it, you aren't into it. Don't listen to these assholes trying to shame you for your tastes. Think if you were gay and these people were trying to shame you into liking a woman when you're not into women. Fuck them. You do you brotha man.
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DDirtyDastard
12/08/19 12:46:14 PM
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nogaems posted...
There's billions of other girls out there my friend. Being single is better than what you're forcing yourself through. Just tell her you don't think you guys are a good match and be done with it.
I'd tell her to hit the gym and go on a diet.
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wolfy42
12/08/19 12:53:57 PM
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First off even if you can't get hard you can totally please a woman, and second if she uses her hand/mouth etc she can probably get you hard as well, especially after you already have had sex a few times, but that is besides the point.

Just be friends with her for now and say at least right now your not interested in a romantic relationship but you really enjoy her company and want to spend time with her etc. Also try and do some physical things together (lol yeah sex is a really great way to get in shape but if your not into that now, no biggie). Perhaps do table tennis or go on walks etc, it's healthy for both of you to do that, and exercise is more important tbh then diet. Even if you never end up finding her attractive and having romantic/sexy feelings for her, you'll have a good friend who you really enjoy hanging out with.

As far as her not trying, she sounds like she is comfortable with her body and there is no reason for her not to be. It's still good to get exercise and healthy though, and if she is doing something she enjoys with you, than that is just a bonus all around. Maybe try getting her into playing Beat Saber with you, it's been known to really help with weight loss.

Just having a female friend who loves video games, is a nerd, and that likes you and wants to hang with you is awesome. Enjoy it and don't worry too much about the sex thing etc.

Whatever you do, don't make her feel bad about herself, cause there are plenty of guys that would find her attractive. If she put up an add on a dating site etc she would get 20x as many responses as you more than likely even if your a model quality looking dude.

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myghostisdead
12/08/19 1:34:29 PM
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She is a good friend. That is all there is to it. There is nothing wrong with having preferences. You shouldn't force a relationship or be in one you are not in to.

The thing is, how will she feel being "friend zoned" after y'all tried being sexual?

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faramir77
12/08/19 1:43:27 PM
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Buy her a Peloton for Christmas.

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LinkPizza
12/08/19 1:43:49 PM
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Hmmm... You cant really keep dating someone youre not attracted to. So, its probably best to move on and find someone else...

But if you really want to have sex, you could use viagra if youre having trouble getting hard. And the power of imagination to finish. But that would most likely be the wrong thing to do, so I wouldnt. Plus, that would basically be an unhealthy relationship. So, you have to move on.

I would say that you can still be friends with her, though. No reason to not keep her as a friend...
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DirtBasedSoap
12/08/19 1:47:02 PM
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HornedLion posted...
https://youtu.be/fTH71AAxXmM
came in here to post i fell in love once and almost completely

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wolfy42
12/08/19 1:47:03 PM
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faramir77 posted...
Buy her a Peloton for Christmas.


OMG lol.

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dedbus
12/08/19 1:51:53 PM
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Don't give in to the mental and societal abuse that says you have to like someone and accept someone and be attracted to someone that you're not attracted to. It's not okay for people to gaslight your standards and preferences. Plus she'd be hella expensive to feed.
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The_Dusk
12/08/19 9:49:14 PM
#42:


I also have a five-year-old son who absolutely loves her. We have been friends since before he was born and I don't want turning her down becoming a situation that breaks her relationship with him.

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