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DarthDemented
11/20/19 9:20:43 PM
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Don't know why. He just did it. grabbed grandpa's gun and shot himself in front of my mom at her house. It's been really hard to process for the whole family. We knew he's had health problems like a heart attack, stroke, emphysema. If there was anything else he kept it to himself. He was never married and never had any kids so there's that I guess. Either way this sucks. Dude was always a part of my life growing up and now he's gone.

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Crono99
11/20/19 9:23:14 PM
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WTF

Sorry dude. Don't know what to say.
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CrimsonRage
11/20/19 9:23:48 PM
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that's horrible. sorry for your loss.
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Shotgunnova
11/20/19 9:24:04 PM
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Sorry to hear, man.

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metralo
11/20/19 9:24:24 PM
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I'm sorry man. Sorry for your loss. pm me if you wanna chat.
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a-c-a-b
11/20/19 9:25:43 PM
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Shitty deal. Sorry for your loss.

Losing a loved one to suicide is one of the most devastating things you can go through.
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DarthDemented
11/20/19 9:26:17 PM
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Crono99 posted...
WTF

Sorry dude. Don't know what to say.
Thanks dude. Just wanted to get it out there. Hopefully start a conversation on suicide in general. Get help people. Talk to someone you trust. I guarantee they won't think any less of you.

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DevsBro
11/20/19 9:27:25 PM
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Yeesh

Sucks for everyone. Condolences to you and your family.

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Crepes
11/20/19 9:28:19 PM
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Ive experienced suicide as well. Its awful for those left behind. So many unanswered questions... so much guilt over whether there was anything more you could have done. Did a conversation I recently have inadvertently push him over the edge or were there some signs I think were so obvious now that I cant believe I missed them at the time.

Everyone else in here should take a moment out just to appreciate your loved ones and tell them you love them if you havent for a while. Reach out to those youve lost touch with and make amends with those you dont talk to. You never know when you wont have the chance.
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evil_zombie11
11/20/19 9:29:41 PM
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:(

One of my friends found her step dad's body after he shot himself. He couldn't deal with her mom and her abusive and narcissistic behavior so he ended himself. Sad.
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12amMadman
11/20/19 9:32:05 PM
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Damn in front of your mom? That's some fucked up shit.

Sorry man

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DarthDemented
11/20/19 9:33:32 PM
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12amMadman posted...
Damn in front of your mom? That's some fucked up shit.

Sorry man
Yeah he had been living with her full time since his health started going down the crapper.

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fan357
11/20/19 9:38:41 PM
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Sounds like his mind wasnt right. Sorry bro.

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Life Sympathy
11/20/19 9:39:47 PM
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My condolences for your loss TC

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sLaCkEr408___RJ
11/20/19 10:03:10 PM
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DarthDemented posted...
Yeah he had been living with her full time since his health started going down the crapper.
Damn like wanted her to see it? How old was he
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Guide
11/20/19 10:05:24 PM
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Hope your family finds some closure, somehow.

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DarthDemented
11/20/19 10:36:38 PM
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sLaCkEr408___RJ posted...
Damn like wanted her to see it? How old was he
Not sure. In his late 50's I want to say. I could be wrong.

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kingdrake2
11/20/19 10:38:26 PM
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CrimsonRage posted...
that's horrible. sorry for your loss.


especially for his mom got the worse of the situation :(.
experiencing someones death in the same home is much more emotional.
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CrimsonRage
11/20/19 10:42:35 PM
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DarthDemented posted...
sLaCkEr408___RJ posted...
Damn like wanted her to see it? How old was he
Not sure. In his late 50's I want to say. I could be wrong.


how is your mom holding up? how close were you and your uncle?
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DuranOfForcena
11/20/19 10:43:27 PM
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fan357 posted...
Sounds like his mind wasnt right. Sorry bro.

sounds more like his health wasn't right and he couldn't take it anymore.

as someone who has been dealing with chronic debilitating back pain every day for a few years now, it's not unimaginable to me for someone to be of a completely sound and healthy mind and still want to end things because of physical pain that they just can't take anymore. i feel like sometimes people forget that and assume that every case of suicide must necessarily be a mental thing.

anyway, sorry for your loss TC.
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Touch
11/20/19 10:44:26 PM
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I know it may be tough for everyone right now, but definitely try to keep more tabs on your mom if you haven't been already. Losing a loved one to suicide is one thing, but them actually doing it right in front of you...holy shit. I couldn't even begin to imagine how traumatizing that would be.

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DarthDemented
11/20/19 10:46:25 PM
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CrimsonRage posted...
how is your mom holding up? how close were you and your uncle?
I checked on her after I got home from work. She's still sick over it and is in disbelief, as are the rest of us.

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sLaCkEr408___RJ
11/20/19 10:47:07 PM
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DarthDemented posted...
I checked on her after I got home from work. She's still sick over it and is in disbelief, as are the rest of us.
Was your mother the younger or older sister of your uncle
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DarthDemented
11/20/19 10:53:48 PM
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sLaCkEr408___RJ posted...
Was your mother the younger or older sister of your uncle
Older. She was just looking out for her little brother.

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AwesomeToTheMAX
11/20/19 10:53:55 PM
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DuranOfForcena posted...
fan357 posted...
Sounds like his mind wasnt right. Sorry bro.

sounds more like his health wasn't right and he couldn't take it anymore.

as someone who has been dealing with chronic debilitating back pain every day for a few years now, it's not unimaginable to me for someone to be of a completely sound and healthy mind and still want to end things because of physical pain that they just can't take anymore. i feel like sometimes people forget that and assume that every case of suicide must necessarily be a mental thing.

anyway, sorry for your loss TC.


Are you serious?
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DuranOfForcena
11/20/19 10:58:45 PM
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AwesomeToTheMAX posted...
Are you serious?

why wouldn't i be? according to TC, he had suffered from multiple physical ailments. that can be taxing on a person. you don't have to have mental issues for something like that to get to where it is too much to deal with.

i will admit though the part of doing it right in front of the sister doesn't seem like an entirely mentally sound decision. but i don't know the details.
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EvenSpoonier
11/20/19 11:02:20 PM
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Oh, geez; I'm really sorry to hear that. My thoughts are with you. Take care of yourself and your mom, okay?

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DarthDemented
11/20/19 11:05:10 PM
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DuranOfForcena posted...
why wouldn't i be? according to TC, he had suffered from multiple physical ailments. that can be taxing on a person. you don't have to have mental issues for something like that to get to where it is too much to deal with.

i will admit though the part of doing it right in front of the sister doesn't seem like an entirely mentally sound decision. but i don't know the details.
I don't know all the details either. Don't want to push it. Still too raw and fresh to push any further than it happened and how it happened.

I'll admit I've thought of it a few times myself. When I'm not working I take care of my bed bound wife and it's taken a toll on my mind and body and health. Lately the depression has gotten to be real heavy on me. At the same time if I did she'd get carted off to a nursing home and my son raised by family or put in the foster system. I have a close friend who helps me during these times because she understands the feeling. I don't want to be the ever lasting trauma in my kid's life. Especially given the fact he would be the one to find me. Not doing it.

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Zikten
11/20/19 11:08:44 PM
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I am so sorry.

And my condolences to your mom. That's horrible what she went through
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DarthDemented
11/21/19 2:19:09 AM
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I went to visit her tonight. She pretty much ran herself til exhaustion took over. She couldn't wind down. Stayed til she started her bedtime routine. Getting her CPAP ready etc.

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Bishop9800
11/21/19 2:22:51 AM
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Im so sorry about what you and your family are going threw. You're in my prayers

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AwesomeToTheMAX
11/21/19 2:38:28 AM
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I was going to argue with that post but I decided against it

At any rate TC, don't feel guilty. Sometimes people are just pushed to their limits and there's no way out of it.
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Verdekal
11/21/19 2:39:30 AM
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My condolences.

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toyota
11/21/19 3:19:31 AM
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fucked up, my condolences

tbh i kind of see myself ending up being 'dat uncle'
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DuranOfForcena
11/21/19 11:38:50 AM
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AwesomeToTheMAX posted...
I was going to argue with that post but I decided against it

i don't see what about it there is to argue
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pauIie
11/21/19 11:45:11 AM
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DD Divine
11/21/19 11:46:14 AM
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So very sorry to hear this.

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Kaldrenthebold
11/21/19 11:46:47 AM
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Sorry to hear that GP, well wishes to you and your family. That's devastating.

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Ps2Twilight
11/21/19 11:56:55 AM
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kingdrake2
11/21/19 12:27:36 PM
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DuranOfForcena posted...
AwesomeToTheMAX posted...
I was going to argue with that post but I decided against it

i don't see what about it there is to argue


there isn't anything. only path that i could think of is "offensive" about what happened which could lead to an argument (not really the best route) people get warned as a result.
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CyricZ
11/21/19 12:33:16 PM
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*hugs*

That's the worst man. >_<

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The Top Crusader
11/21/19 12:34:33 PM
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My condolences, that's really rough.

While not a suicide which I'm sure is monumentally worse, my father-in-law died of a heart attack while visiting us and the fact it happened in our house made it so much worse for my wife and harder to get over.
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Master_Bass
11/21/19 12:38:40 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear that, TC. That has to be rough on you and especially your mom. I can't imagine how awful it would be to see a loved one end his life like that in front of you. I know I'd probably need therapy and I hope you guys can get it too if the grief is too much. No shame in it.
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DarthDemented
11/21/19 8:34:06 PM
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Master_Bass posted...
I'm so sorry to hear that, TC. That has to be rough on you and especially your mom. I can't imagine how awful it would be to see a loved one end his life like that in front of you. I know I'd probably need therapy and I hope you guys can get it too if the grief is too much. No shame in it.
Definitely no shame in it. Same for those of you considering this way out. Get help. No one will think less of you. Don't put your family through this kind of grief. He wanted cremated and we're having a memorial service for him on December 7th. Then that next week we'll lay his ashes to rest in the Missouri veterans cemetery in Springfield.

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_Matchabuu_
11/21/19 8:34:59 PM
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Im so sorry TC. Thats so fucking tragic.
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Skye Reynolds
11/21/19 8:54:50 PM
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My condolences to you and your mother. That must've been a horrible thing to witness. :(
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DarthDemented
11/23/19 1:12:07 PM
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https://m.legacy.com/obituaries/news-leader/obituary.aspx?n=terence-snyder&pid=194515199&referrer=0&preview=True

There's his death notice from the local paper. I don't know if we'll run a full obituary or not.

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mattnd2007
11/23/19 1:17:00 PM
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Sorry man. That's awful.

I won't get into the deets but mom's side has very strong history of suicide, depression, alcoholics. Grandma's sister killed herself. Never even got to meet her because I wasn't born yet.

I don't have any real advice except reach out to family and friends as much as you need to. They will help you through this. CE too. There are a lot of caring peeps on here when shit gets real like this. The trolling and gimmicks fall away.

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Machete
11/23/19 1:20:40 PM
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shit :(

RIP and condolences.
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DarthDemented
11/23/19 10:21:42 PM
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https://imgur.com/gallery/xKvopI5

Found a pic of him. Seeing if anyone around Ruston, LA recognized him. He and some other family members would sell fireworks down there in December. He would dress as Santa for the kids and apparently it was a hit. I know I'm probably drawing this thread out longer than it needs to be. Just my way of processing I guess.

Edit: ok what I do wrong with imgur link?

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