Poll of the Day > Do you think this means anything? (About friends)

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I was talking to my friend about the future and made jokes. She then said she'd warn my future wife or something related to the joke. I told her she wouldn't know me by the time I get married. Things she said after basically implied she'll still be friends with me for a very long time.

Which felt very nice. I've never had a friend say that to me before.

So I was wondering if it is something girls or people in general say to their friends. If not, could it mean something?

Also wanted to say that I asked this girl out a few months ago. She said no when I asked her out to the movies because she was busy. And some coworker apparently spread a rumor that me and the girl are dating a few months back. A coworker told me the girl was telling him how annoying the person spreading the rumor is and that me and her are very cool. So she definitely knows I like her and Im not exactly hiding it when Im around her.

I dont want to ask her out anymore because it could damage our friendship. Even though I want to be more than friends with her, I really like the friendship I have with her now and dont want to risk it. Plus I have to respect her decision even though I feel like I still have hope.

But yeah, telling a friend you'll still be their friend years from now still a thing people commonly say? I've never had many friends but Ive never heard of this before from my experience.

This is some of that AU fucking gold shit my guy
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Those things dont need to be said. I have friends that will always be my friends and it goes without saying.
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zebatov posted...

Those things dont need to be said. I have friends that will always be my friends and it goes without saying.

I know. I'm just asking if it's normal for friends to say that. It's a lot more meaningful when they do say that imo.

real friends dance around in a fountain at night
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Maybe you can just ask your friend whats a good time to go to the movies.

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Women love men that lack confidence.
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So, no one told you life was gonna be this way?

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Ted?
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Yes, it is something that people tend to say in a situation like that, where you told her you probablynwouldnt be friends down the road. You put her on the spot. They often believe it when they say it.

Friends never plan to drift apart. They typically just assume that they'll still be friends many years down the road and it is that assumption that leads people to take it all for granted and not put forth the effort to maintain more lifelong friendships.

And no, it doesn't mean she wants more than that from you. So don't get your hopes up over that little statement from her.
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I remember the topic. Well, topics, as there were multiple. One here and like 2 or 3 on another board. Anyway, its true that its something that normal friend dont have to say to each other. But in your case, base on what she said, its a very normal thing. Friends are friends. I still have friends I met over 20 years ago. Ive know them for most of my life... another friend Ive known for over 15 years, as well... and were still going strong...
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Bugmeat posted...

Friends never plan to drift apart.

This, too. Friends plan on staying friends...
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It felt a little strange to me because I rarely have friends.

Pretty much everyone I have considered a friend comes and goes. I do the exact same to them.

ThePepsiBlue posted...

It felt a little strange to me because I rarely have friends.

Pretty much everyone I have considered a friend comes and goes. I do the exact same to them.

Maybe thats why you dony have many... Not trying to be rude or anything...
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LinkPizza posted...

ThePepsiBlue posted...

It felt a little strange to me because I rarely have friends.

Pretty much everyone I have considered a friend comes and goes. I do the exact same to them.

Maybe thats why you dony have many... Not trying to be rude or anything...

I wouldn't be surprised.

I guess I just assume friends come and go quickly because that's how it's been for me and how I am.

This isn't the first time she has implied that we'll be friends for a long time. At first I thought it was an expression she made. But she has done it more than once.

I feel very grateful to be honest.

While we're on the subject of friends, I am worried we won't be in touch anymore after she moves to a different job. She might get a new job early next year.

She was going to get a new one a few months ago and I was a bit worried but she had told me I could go visit her at the new job. But she ended up staying at our current job. Unfortunately we don't see each other much because of our schedules. But when I do see her at work, I have a blast.

I have her number and we text a bit sometimes. We do most of the talking at work and have fun that way. I'd like to hang out with her outside of work but she really is busy. I am also afraid to ask her out again because I don't want to risk damaging our friendship. But she is completely cool with me liking her.

Anyways, what can I do to stay in touch with her more often? I know that sounds weird to ask considering I have her number but I don't have an idea on what to talk to her about via texting. She can also take a while to reply. And she is very busy.

Im asking because I dont see her much at work and I miss her.