Current Events > Am I freaking out over this girl not messaging back? Or should I follow up.

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So at first we were messaging a bunch, then she just disappeared. About a month later, I hit her back up to try to reconnect and she said she felt intimidated cause she didnt have anything interesting to say and was still interested in connecting, so we kept talking. We'd send messages at least once a day for a whole week, like several messages at a time. On Saturday, I sent her messages and she sent me one in the midst of my multi string message. I finished messaging (with plenty of room for her to add in her input) and she still hasn't responded. To be fair she had a concert she was going to Sunday and is either flying back today or whatever but even while she was traveling this week we still texted every day.

Do you think I should send a follow up message tomorrow or just wait?
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Follow up once more. If she ghosts that, then drop it.
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Dick pic time.
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She told you that she didn't have anything to say and you took that as "let's send more texts". She clearly wanted to just get down to business and trade nudes. She probably got fed up by your lack of dick pics and just found someone else.
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Give it 24 hours. Honestly if she hasnt texted you on her own by then shes either not interested or just leading you on. Either way delete conversation
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Jiek_Fafn posted...

She told you that she didn't have anything to say and you took that as "let's send more texts". She clearly wanted to just get down to business and trade nudes. She probably got fed up by your lack of dick pics and just found someone else.

Idk how far into the post you read but she said she felt intimidated by having nothing interesting to say and then sorta fell off.

I wanted to meet up with her and so did she but she was traveling all of last week and said she'd be back next week and we could meet up then, and she said that texting in the mean time would be good. So there was intent to meet up anyway. I might as well get to know her better while she's in another state.
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Too late, she's already getting her walls smashed by some Chad.
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jjp05c posted...

Give it 24 hours. Honestly if she hasnt texted you on her own by then shes either not interested or just leading you on. Either way delete conversation

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Nah, don't follow up. It is or it isn't, let it work itself out.
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This shit is so confusing cause I feel like I've lost girls doing both.
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Send her this

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Try to learn to text without obsessing over getting replies immediately. Just cause she's consistent doesn't mean you're entitled to it every single time. This is how people end up feeling suffocated by others.
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I hear you buddy. I had met a girl through a friend. She was gorgeous and was easy to talk to. Wed blow up each others phones. Then one night she stopped responding to my messages. She ghosted me for several days. Long story short, it went nowhere. Unfortunately these things happen. Looking back Im sure she found a guy that kept her plenty busy while ignoring my messages. Either way I found it was best to let that ship sail and wished her well. Its a part of life. It does suck but its really nothing you should dwell on. Youll move on and with the right attitude be better for it.
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Master Kazuya posted...

This shit is so confusing cause I feel like I've lost girls doing both.

I mean, just being honest. If she's interested, she will call. If you are an afterthought, it isn't worth the effort. I spent a lot of time getting hung up on girls I knew I was wasting my time with but did it anyway because I liked the potential of being paid attention to.

Being patient and quick to move on is how I eventually found the right one and happiness. What worked for me might not work for you, it's just the advice I can give from my experience.
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secretmember posted...

I hear you buddy. I had met a girl through a friend. She was gorgeous and was easy to talk to. Wed blow up each others phones. Then one night she stopped responding to my messages. She ghosted me for several days. Long story short, it went nowhere. Unfortunately these things happen. Looking back Im sure she found a guy that kept her plenty busy while ignoring my messages. Either way I found it was best to let that ship sail and wished her well. Its a part of life. It does suck but its really nothing you should dwell on. Youll move on and with the right attitude be better for it.

Do you take any responsibility for blowing things up bigger in your head than they were in your head tho? Guys not being able to accept women as just friends is a huge part of the problem. Imagine looking for a friend but you can't cause everyone gets mad you won't fuck them...sounds pretty pathetic on the mans side. Though there are some bros to hos out there :3
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Lost_All_Senses posted...

secretmember posted...

I hear you buddy. I had met a girl through a friend. She was gorgeous and was easy to talk to. Wed blow up each others phones. Then one night she stopped responding to my messages. She ghosted me for several days. Long story short, it went nowhere. Unfortunately these things happen. Looking back Im sure she found a guy that kept her plenty busy while ignoring my messages. Either way I found it was best to let that ship sail and wished her well. Its a part of life. It does suck but its really nothing you should dwell on. Youll move on and with the right attitude be better for it.

Do you take any responsibility for blowing things up bigger in your head than they were in your head tho? Guys not being able to accept women as just friends is a huge part of the problem. Imagine looking for a friend but you can't cause everyone gets mad you won't fuck them...sounds pretty pathetic on the mans side. Though there are some bros to hos out there :3

Ive never put myself in a position to confuse a friendship with a female for something it isnt. I have a few female friends and we hang out together every now and then. If anything Ive had other people insist I take the next step and ask one of them out but Im comfortable just having a platonic relationship with them. They occasionally ask me if Im dating anyone yet. It could be their own curiosity or maybe its a hint for me to get. I couldnt tell you.

Going back to my story: In this particular case my friend actually insisted I talk to his friend as she had a bad track record with guys and she was looking to meet someone and he thought Id be a good match with her. The ironic part is I ended up liking her way more than I thought I would have as I was initially hesitant to even get to know her lol
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secretmember posted...

Lost_All_Senses posted...

secretmember posted...

I hear you buddy. I had met a girl through a friend. She was gorgeous and was easy to talk to. Wed blow up each others phones. Then one night she stopped responding to my messages. She ghosted me for several days. Long story short, it went nowhere. Unfortunately these things happen. Looking back Im sure she found a guy that kept her plenty busy while ignoring my messages. Either way I found it was best to let that ship sail and wished her well. Its a part of life. It does suck but its really nothing you should dwell on. Youll move on and with the right attitude be better for it.

Do you take any responsibility for blowing things up bigger in your head than they were in your head tho? Guys not being able to accept women as just friends is a huge part of the problem. Imagine looking for a friend but you can't cause everyone gets mad you won't fuck them...sounds pretty pathetic on the mans side. Though there are some bros to hos out there :3

Ive never put myself in a position to confuse a friendship with a female for something it isnt. I have a few female friends and we hang out together every now and then. If anything Ive had other people insist I take the next step and ask one of them out but Im comfortable just having a platonic relationship with them. They occasionally ask me if Im dating anyone yet. It could be their own curiosity or maybe its a hint for me to get. I couldnt tell you.

Going back to my story: In this particular case my friend actually insisted I talk to his friend as she had a bad track record with guys and she was looking to meet someone and he thought Id be a good match with her. The ironic part is I ended up liking her way more than I thought I would have as I was initially hesitant to even get to know her lol

Fair enough.
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MabusIncarnate posted...

Being patient and quick to move on is how I eventually found the right one and happiness

I always have this lingering doubt in the back of my head that, if I just pursued a little bit more to show that I actually wanted her, maybe it'd work. Maybe I didn't seem as interested so she lost interest but showing that I give a damn is what she wants. Idk, you're probably right in the grand scheme of things but it just sucks not knowing.
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if a girl really likes a guy she wont leave him alone, it sucks and it feels bad but dont let it get to you. keep on looking youll find someone.
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pls respond
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OMFG she just responded. Wow. Life is silly af.
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