Current Events > Everyone I meet in their mid-20s is emotionally broken but I can't relate at all

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AreteWastrel
11/25/18 6:30:22 PM
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I was hanging out with some new people the other day and at some point while playing music in the background these two girls were talking about some love songs and how some songs get them in their feelings and makes them think about all the times their heart was broken by a guy in the past, and everyone seemed to have something to chime in except for me lmao. It's starting to make me realize how much of a weirdo I am for never being in a long term relationship before at this point in my life.

Anyone in their mid to late 20s or even 30s feel the same? It's been making me feel kinda hopeless because even if I do manage to get a girlfriend I'm sure my lack of experience will be a huge red flag or a turn off.
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Fossil
11/25/18 6:33:13 PM
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Would you want to be a vocal butterfly about your past if you could relate?
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AreteWastrel
11/25/18 6:50:55 PM
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Fossil posted...
Would you want to be a vocal butterfly about your past if you could relate?

Probably not, but the fact that I couldn't relate at all was a little alarming to me tbh

I never really thought about that type of stuff a lot or really cared much at all when I was younger honestly. I mean obviously I would like to have a girlfriend but it was never really something that I really cared much about. Been alone my whole life (in terms of relationships), so not being in a relationship was always normal to me.

It definitely hit me when one of the girls said something like "I went from a 5 year relationship with a boy to another 4-5 year relationship with another boy, I have to learn how to know myself now that I'm single."

And I remember thinking wow I can't even imagine thinking I don't "know myself" or whatever. But I guess a lot of people are like that, I know a ton of friends that are pretty much always in a relationship.
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orangefire25
11/25/18 7:02:31 PM
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Yeah I relate to certain music making me sad, but for the most part I'm okay. Well. Oof
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King_Hellebuyck
11/25/18 7:09:09 PM
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You remind me of my brother. Hes in his mid 30s and has never had a girlfriend before (although hes seeing someone now and thats pretty awesome). But like him, I wouldnt say youre any worse off because of it. Maybe your goals are different than someone who is constantly in a relationship but if youre a happy adult who is good with himself then I bet youre a pretty desirable person.
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ghostmess
11/25/18 7:12:13 PM
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everyone I meet is not broken enough for me to relate
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Fossil
11/26/18 2:04:10 AM
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AreteWastrel posted...
It definitely hit me when one of the girls said something like "I went from a 5 year relationship with a boy to another 4-5 year relationship with another boy, I have to learn how to know myself now that I'm single."

And I remember thinking wow I can't even imagine thinking I don't "know myself" or whatever. But I guess a lot of people are like that, I know a ton of friends that are pretty much always in a relationship.

I'll never understand people who don't ever "know" themselves because they rely on others so much. Not being alone is basically a non-thought to them because they don't want to be "lonely" (stupid human weakness).

I'm complete opposite, like you (although I've been in relationships). I'd be more confused about changing the way I do things in a relationship since I'm so used to being alone.
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TheDarkCircle
11/26/18 2:11:33 AM
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im turning 30 in a few weeks and yup broken
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teepan95
11/26/18 2:14:22 AM
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we're not broken just bent and we can learn to love again
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Trickfinger
11/26/18 2:51:45 AM
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if you aren't broken by 25 you haven't lived
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Dash_Harber
11/26/18 3:13:04 AM
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It's more likely that young adults are just angsty and over-dramatic because they are immature.
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MedeaLysistrata
11/26/18 3:16:17 AM
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being broken is a different way to live

you see some interesting things along the way
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many different parts that just don't fit together
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AreteWastrel
11/26/18 12:00:47 PM
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Fossil posted...
AreteWastrel posted...
It definitely hit me when one of the girls said something like "I went from a 5 year relationship with a boy to another 4-5 year relationship with another boy, I have to learn how to know myself now that I'm single."

And I remember thinking wow I can't even imagine thinking I don't "know myself" or whatever. But I guess a lot of people are like that, I know a ton of friends that are pretty much always in a relationship.

I'll never understand people who don't ever "know" themselves because they rely on others so much. Not being alone is basically a non-thought to them because they don't want to be "lonely" (stupid human weakness).

I'm complete opposite, like you (although I've been in relationships). I'd be more confused about changing the way I do things in a relationship since I'm so used to being alone.

Yeah I was kind of taken aback when I heard her say that, but I realize that a lot of people are like that.
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