Poll of the Day > I'm still pathetic. It's been years and I still can't move on I guess.

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pipebomb_phil
07/20/18 3:37:14 PM
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tl;dr: I still think about this girl I asked out years ago. I hardly knew her but she felt special to me and I still consider her the most beautiful girl I've ever seen in my life. What can I do to move on? I know I'm pathetic.

Ok, so like 7 years ago or whatever, I asked my classmate out. I hadn't talked to her much because I didn't know how. I'm bad at that. But at least I tried. So yeah, I asked her out, she said yes. She probably only said it to be nice. I texted her during that weekend but then she didn't reply back. In class, everything was the same. We didn't really talk or anything. She's very quiet and all I guess. And I am too.

A year later or so, she's in two of my classes. I'm nervous as hell because I had asked her out before and of course, she sits near me because of some of our friends. I couldn't be myself most of the time because I was nervous with her being around.

I can't remember all the details but I had previously asked for her online ID to play video games before (around the time I asked her out the first time). So this time, I was online playing a multiplayer game and she randomly joined my game. It was awesome. And because I'm pathetic, I thought it probably meant something.

Eventually I ask out again to go theater. She said she was already going to see it with her family. She said something else but I didn't pay attention. All I was thinking was "noooo, she said no to me." I told her it was okay and thanked her for playing with me the other day.

And that's pretty much the end of it. It's been like 5 years or so since I last saw her and I still think about her. Today I was watching a youtube video and it reminded me of her and I decided to look at her pics (something I had stopped doing for about 2 years as a way to move on).

Anyways, what can I do to move on? This isn't healthy. I don't know why still think about her this much. Again, I didn't really know her. I can only imagine what she was like but I didn't know her much at all. I still think she's the most attractive girl I've ever seen though.
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TheWorstPoster
07/20/18 3:41:05 PM
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pics
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pipebomb_phil
07/20/18 3:41:34 PM
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TheWorstPoster posted...
pics


fuck off
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SunWuKung420
07/20/18 3:55:29 PM
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Stop calling yourself pathetic is a start.
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Smarkil
07/20/18 5:15:54 PM
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jesus christ
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myghostisdead
07/20/18 5:29:23 PM
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You've built her up to something in your mind she probably isnt. It might be hard to do but move on and think of it as a bittersweet, young love memory.
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FatalAccident
07/20/18 5:31:14 PM
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yikes
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FrozenBananas
07/20/18 5:47:15 PM
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FatalAccident posted...
yikes

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BADoglick
07/20/18 5:56:09 PM
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Gotta quit putting the pussy on a pedestal
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CarefreeDude
07/20/18 6:00:48 PM
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Sounds like she wasn't in to you. What has she accomplished since then? What have you accomplished since then? What about you makes you a good mate for her or anyone? What value can to add to anyone's life?

Ask yourself these questions. If you don't like the answer, go accomplish some things and make something of yourself and then ask yourself these questions again.
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pipebomb_phil
07/20/18 6:10:01 PM
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SunWuKung420 posted...
Stop calling yourself pathetic is a start.


I'm just saying what everyone is thinking.

myghostisdead posted...
You've built her up to something in your mind she probably isnt. It might be hard to do but move on and think of it as a bittersweet, young love memory.


This is probably it. I've liked other girls since then but I always keep thinking about this one. Can't find a way to move on yet. :/

Zangulus posted...
Jesus Christ. The summary is supposed to be at the end rather than an entire page of like 7 paragraphs.

How fucking long is the full thing?!


The first sentence is the 'tl;dr' version.

CarefreeDude posted...
Sounds like she wasn't in to you. What has she accomplished since then? What have you accomplished since then? What about you makes you a good mate for her or anyone? What value can to add to anyone's life?

Ask yourself these questions. If you don't like the answer, go accomplish some things and make something of yourself and then ask yourself these questions again.


I dont' know what she's accomplished. I think it's irrelevant.

What have I accomplished? not much I guess. I blame health reasons as well. I mean, tha'ts not the entire reason but it is part of it I guess.
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Ferarri619
07/20/18 6:11:29 PM
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This thread really hits close to home. I've been obsessed with this one woman for just over 2 years and I have a feeling I'm in for a very painful time. I don't see it getting better anytime soon. Might be years or even my entire life. Unrequited love is all I've ever known. The intrusive thoughts don't stop and can't ever control them.

myghostisdead posted...
You've built her up to something in your mind she probably isnt. It might be hard to do but move on and think of it as a bittersweet, young love memory.


This is a good way of thinking about it. I might have to save this. Thank you
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myghostisdead
07/20/18 6:34:19 PM
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Ferarri619 posted...
This thread really hits close to home. I've been obsessed with this one woman for just over 2 years and I have a feeling I'm in for a very painful time. I don't see it getting better anytime soon. Might be years or even my entire life. Unrequited love is all I've ever known. The intrusive thoughts don't stop and can't ever control them.

myghostisdead posted...
You've built her up to something in your mind she probably isnt. It might be hard to do but move on and think of it as a bittersweet, young love memory.


This is a good way of thinking about it. I might have to save this. Thank you


You are welcome.
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beefcake71090
07/20/18 6:41:02 PM
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myghostisdead posted...
You've built her up to something in your mind she probably isnt. It might be hard to do but move on and think of it as a bittersweet, young love memory.

Quoted for accuracy. This is what it is.
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TheCyborgNinja
07/20/18 7:02:43 PM
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Smarkil posted...
jesus christ

This.

You sound like you're fixated on her, in a very unhealthy way for both of you. For normal people "time" would be my response, but 7 years regarding somebody you barely knew?! I'd say go to therapy because this is a symptom of a deeper issue. I'm not bashing you, I'm giving you helpful advice that you clearly need.
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Moonjay
07/20/18 7:04:28 PM
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It sounds like you didn't know her. At all. So firstly you need to get your head around that. The feeling of her being special was just infatuation, which feels amazing, but it has to end.

You may need to go to a therapist or psychiatrist for help. Obsessive thoughts can be a sign of underlying mental health issues.
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BlazeAndBlade
07/20/18 7:54:28 PM
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maybe this song from The All-American Rejects will help

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rLfZiNlKnyw" data-time="

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Zeus
07/20/18 8:40:09 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2ccCSGudyFw" data-time="

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Metalsonic66
07/20/18 8:44:53 PM
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SunWuKung420 posted...
Stop calling yourself pathetic is a start.

It's kinda true in this case unfortunately.

Gotta let it go bro
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Metalsonic66
07/20/18 8:45:25 PM
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Zeus posted...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2ccCSGudyFw" data-time="

Just saw that live in Atlanta the other night.
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keyblader1985
07/20/18 8:59:03 PM
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myghostisdead posted...
You've built her up to something in your mind she probably isnt. It might be hard to do but move on and think of it as a bittersweet, young love memory.

This is really the best advice here. I had a somewhat similar situation, with a girl I was stuck on for a few years. We were friends and I never got anywhere with her (mainly because she was married), but even after we lost touch I kept thinking of her for a while. Eventually I had to realize that I was building the situation up in my head, there was nothing that could be done now, and all I could do was move on and work on myself.

The best thing to do when you feel like shit, is to do something to improve yourself or give back to society so that you're not shit. Whether it's something big or small, do something so you can say that you're interesting and that you have something to offer.
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TheSlinja
07/20/18 9:52:41 PM
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dont be so down on yourself, ily chito <3
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pipebomb_phil
07/20/18 10:05:37 PM
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TheCyborgNinja posted...
You sound like you're fixated on her, in a very unhealthy way for both of you. For normal people "time" would be my response, but 7 years regarding somebody you barely knew?! I'd say go to therapy because this is a symptom of a deeper issue. I'm not bashing you, I'm giving you helpful advice that you clearly need.


Moonjay posted...
It sounds like you didn't know her. At all. So firstly you need to get your head around that. The feeling of her being special was just infatuation, which feels amazing, but it has to end.

You may need to go to a therapist or psychiatrist for help. Obsessive thoughts can be a sign of underlying mental health issues.


This is a reply to these two posts.

I actually do see a therapist. I haven't mentioned this though. I mentioned something else not long ago. Basically sometimes when I like someone, I guess it becomes a bit obsessive. I'm not super creepy about it. It's something I keep to myself. I don't even look up the girls I"m into online. I stopped that (except for today I guess).

But yeah, I'll mention this as it's something that's been bothering me for a long time. I don't think about her as much as I used to a few years ago. It was worse back then. I used to think about her almost daily. But now I just think about her every now and then.

keyblader1985 posted...
This is really the best advice here. I had a somewhat similar situation, with a girl I was stuck on for a few years. We were friends and I never got anywhere with her (mainly because she was married), but even after we lost touch I kept thinking of her for a while. Eventually I had to realize that I was building the situation up in my head, there was nothing that could be done now, and all I could do was move on and work on myself.

The best thing to do when you feel like s***, is to do something to improve yourself or give back to society so that you're not s***. Whether it's something big or small, do something so you can say that you're interesting and that you have something to offer.


Sounds like good advice. Thanks.

TheSlinja posted...
dont be so down on yourself, ily chito <3



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IAmNowGone
07/20/18 10:12:28 PM
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download tindr and have tons of meaningless awkward sex
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wwinterj25
07/20/18 10:29:48 PM
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I suppose you're always going to have the "what if" thoughts. I do too. I suppose there is a lesson here that if you like someone a lot then you should do something about it and have more confidence. Despite knowing this I still don't ask girls out but I'm caring less and less about things so that's something.

IAmNowGone posted...
download tindr and have tons of meaningless awkward sex

Tinder sucks for me. Full of nice "girls" sure but I'm p sure most of them are fake or guy pretending to be girls. That and I have no doubt most of the users are guys.
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FatalAccident
07/22/18 1:57:35 AM
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wwinterj25 posted...


IAmNowGone posted...
download tindr and have tons of meaningless awkward sex

Tinder sucks for me. Full of nice "girls" sure but I'm p sure most of them are fake or guy pretending to be girls. That and I have no doubt most of the users are guys.

Ummm this is not even remotely true lol
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IAmNowGone
07/23/18 9:31:40 PM
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FatalAccident posted...
wwinterj25 posted...


IAmNowGone posted...
download tindr and have tons of meaningless awkward sex

Tinder sucks for me. Full of nice "girls" sure but I'm p sure most of them are fake or guy pretending to be girls. That and I have no doubt most of the users are guys.

Ummm this is not even remotely true lol


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