Current Events > In this topic, I list some of my deficiencies as an adult.

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This is in no particular order, and it's doubtful this is a comprehensive list (lol). Let's see.

1. I don't drive a car.

2. I'm well over the age of 25, but am still stuck living at home with my family.

3. I've never worked better than a minimum wage job.

4. I don't have a degree.

5. I have no idea what kind of "credit score" I have, and don't even know what that phrase means.

6. I still have a debit card, rather than a credit card.

7. I don't understand a bunch of stuff related to banking and personal finances.

8. I don't look after my health very well.

9. I don't feel confident enough to take a train, coach, etc. to another town or city by myself.

10. I would rather spend money on fun things, rather than save any money for the far future (although I saved up a lot when I was younger).

11. I still have long hair, when men are meant to have short hair.

12. I have little prospects of working better than a minimum wage job in the next 5 years, if ever.

13. I don't much care what other adults think of me.

14. I spend too much time around the house.

15. When I leave the house, I have almost nowhere to go.

16. I don't care that much when bad things happen in the news, on the contrary, I find it somewhat entertaining.

17. I'm not as obsessed with money as society might wish.

18. I'm not as obsessed with the opposite sex as society might wish.

19. I don't respect authority.

20. I have an active contempt for authority.

21. I don't have many serious plans for the future.

22. I'm not considered politically conservative enough for my country, the UK.

23. I think there's nothing wrong with being lazy at certain times.

24. I have a certain amount of contempt for companies.

25. I don't care what my parents think about me, and don't "perform" for them.

26. I don't pretend to agree with my peers.

27. I've had several quite long periods of unemployment.

28. I often prefer alternate entertainment to populist entertainment.

29. I still think lists, like this one, are cool.

30. I hate stupid people.

31. I don't suck up to the popular people, to get ahead at a job, be popular in a social group, etc.

32. I don't worry too much about my appearance.

I have so many deficiencies, that other adults don't generally have. So, so sad. ;_; Perhaps the bigger problem is that I don't have the means to fix many of them any time soon, and worse than that (according to society), some of them I don't even really perceive as problems.

What does CE think of all this? Which problems should I be most embarrassed about?

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Nobody wants to point out which my worst flaws are? Seriously?
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Height?
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1. I ran out of fucks about twenty years ago.

Do you live with your parents? As long as as you can support yourself none of those things are really flaws
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They aren't? They seem like pretty serious flaws.

You know, about the credit score thing. I see this on TV quite a lot. What is a credit score? What will happen to me if I have a bad one? Prison?

Also, it's strange that I don't have a driving license, I guess.

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I'm really surprised more people aren't jumping on this? Given the fact that quite a few people on CE hate me, I would've thought they would loved a self-confessed list of certain flaws. I'm giving this to them on a silver platter.
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Quite a lot of people on CE have at least half your list of flaws themselves, snu. Don't feel too poorly about it.

And I'm sure you're quite aware on some level, but the only person who can do anything to change your circumstances is you.
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Sunhawk posted...

9. I don't feel confident enough to take a train, coach, etc. to another town or city by myself.

14. I spend too much time around the house.

15. When I leave the house, I have almost nowhere to go.

29. I still think lists, like this one, are cool.

these ones are really the only bad ones. I guess never working more than minimum wage is not good, but that's not really a personal failing.

you just need exposure. you need to do things and meet new people. get tinder. take someone out to an exotic restaurant. get involved with your local DSA chapter. go see a concert.
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Sunhawk posted...

I'm really surprised more people aren't jumping on this? Given the fact that quite a few people on CE hate me, I would've thought they would loved a self-confessed list of certain flaws. I'm giving this to them on a silver platter.

don't worry, i'll keep it bumped
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tamashiini posted...

Quite a lot of people on CE have at least half your list of flaws themselves, snu. Don't feel too poorly about it.

And I'm sure you're quite aware on some level, but the only person who can do anything to change your circumstances is you.

Wow, is that you, tamashii? I haven't seen you post in at least 2 years, I think. How have you been? Where have you been?

@tamashiini

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you definitely have a condition
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Sunhawk posted...

tamashiini posted...

Quite a lot of people on CE have at least half your list of flaws themselves, snu. Don't feel too poorly about it.

And I'm sure you're quite aware on some level, but the only person who can do anything to change your circumstances is you.

Wow, is that you, tamashii? I haven't seen you post in at least 2 years, I think. How have you been? Where have you been?

@tamashiini

Sure is, haha. Family stuff happened, crippling depression happened hahaha it's still currently happening :l

Seems like for every up there's five downs. I'm in a very similar model boat as you, actually, except unemployed, though working on certifications and going back to school as soon as I can.
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That sucks. You probably missed some really serious stuff for me, i.e. my B12 deficiency that nearly killed me. Life is tough, I guess. How old are you now, anyway? About 20?

Part of the problem with these adult problems, is that when you're 34, they're considered more serious.
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Sunhawk posted...

Part of the problem with these adult problems, is that when you're 24, they're considered more serious.

But, when you're 40-something, either it hasn't killed you yet or it's going to eventually.

Sunhawk posted...

I don't drive a car.

No license so I'm in the same boat

Sunhawk posted...

stuck living at home with my family.

21 but yeah

Sunhawk posted...

I've never worked better than a minimum wage job.

I've never worked

Sunhawk posted...

5. I have no idea what kind of "credit score" I have, and don't even know what that phrase means.

6. I still have a debit card, rather than a credit card.

I don't have a card

Sunhawk posted...

. I don't look after my health very well.

Me too

And so on

tamashiini posted...

Quite a lot of people on CE have at least half your list of flaws themselves, snu. Don't feel too poorly about it.

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I did miss that. Wow, glad you're okay, man. Is it genetic, or were you eating vegan or something?

and lolol snu I'm 31 these problems are super serious
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tamashiini posted...

I did miss that. Wow, glad you're okay, man. Is it genetic, or were you eating vegan or something?

and lolol snu I'm 31 these problems are super serious

I'm not even sure what caused it. There's 18 months i'll never get back, though.

Wow, I thought you had been a teenager, back a while ago. Do you still live with your parents? What are you doing with your life? I don't think I've even ever seen a photograph of you.

And don't forget, the list of problems I posted was of just some of the problems I have.

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I thought you wrote a book?
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Most of those aren't real deficiencies. In your mind you believe they are though, which is kind of concerning.
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Might want to check out this reddit

https://www.reddit.com/r/NEET/
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You can easily make small changes in your life to change some of these immediately. If you do, some of the other ones will probably also change over some time. You have control of your life just need to make some active decisions to change things for the better.
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Some of those seemed not so good until you mentioned you lived in the UK and then it made more sense.

Woodger posted...

Some of those seemed not so good until you mentioned you lived in the UK and then it made more sense.

Wtf? It's been a while since I've seen Anglophobia.

Anyway, I have lots of flaws. It's sad.

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Hey. I just improved myself - only 31 of those 32 deficiencies now apply to me!

I asked someone on the UK board what a credit score was, and they told me. Guess I'm not such a horrible person now, and society will be less likely to hate me (if I ever encounter it again, which is far from certain).

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wow u are such a loser

But your novels
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Burgess posted...

But your novels

Why would anyone read a novel written by this guy
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Burgess posted...

But your novels

I thought he was a cinephile now
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This list is very long, and it seems that you have given it quite a bit of thought. No one here is perfect. All of these things can be changed, if you want to.

To get right to the center of your perceived flaws, there is only one question, "Do you want to change yourself?"

If you answer "No", then you have only one (fatal) flaw.
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Sunhawk posted...

This is in no particular order, and it's doubtful this is a comprehensive list (lol). Let's see.

1. I don't drive a car.

2. I'm well over the age of 25, but am still stuck living at home with my family.

3. I've never worked better than a minimum wage job.

4. I don't have a degree.

5. I have no idea what kind of "credit score" I have, and don't even know what that phrase means.

6. I still have a debit card, rather than a credit card.

7. I don't understand a bunch of stuff related to banking and personal finances.

8. I don't look after my health very well.

9. I don't feel confident enough to take a train, coach, etc. to another town or city by myself.

10. I would rather spend money on fun things, rather than save any money for the far future (although I saved up a lot when I was younger).

11. I still have long hair, when men are meant to have short hair.

12. I have little prospects of working better than a minimum wage job in the next 5 years, if ever.

13. I don't much care what other adults think of me.

14. I spend too much time around the house.

15. When I leave the house, I have almost nowhere to go.

16. I don't care that much when bad things happen in the news, on the contrary, I find it somewhat entertaining.

17. I'm not as obsessed with money as society might wish.

18. I'm not as obsessed with the opposite sex as society might wish.

19. I don't respect authority.

20. I have an active contempt for authority.

21. I don't have many serious plans for the future.

22. I'm not considered politically conservative enough for my country, the UK.

23. I think there's nothing wrong with being lazy at certain times.

24. I have a certain amount of contempt for companies.

25. I don't care what my parents think about me, and don't "perform" for them.

26. I don't pretend to agree with my peers.

27. I've had several quite long periods of unemployment.

28. I often prefer alternate entertainment to populist entertainment.

29. I still think lists, like this one, are cool.

30. I hate stupid people.

31. I don't suck up to the popular people, to get ahead at a job, be popular in a social group, etc.

32. I don't worry too much about my appearance.

I have so many deficiencies, that other adults don't generally have. So, so sad. ;_; Perhaps the bigger problem is that I don't have the means to fix many of them any time soon, and worse than that (according to society), some of them I don't even really perceive as problems.

What does CE think of all this? Which problems should I be most embarrassed about?

Sounds hot, wanna date?
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Sounds like you've reached enlightenment, why change it now?
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Sunhawk posted...

I'm really surprised more people aren't jumping on this? Given the fact that quite a few people on CE hate me, I would've thought they would loved a self-confessed list of certain flaws. I'm giving this to them on a silver platter.

Didn't you used to be really social when you were younger and then one day you just decided to quit?
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I fall under a lot of that too, living at home with family, and while I'm the manager of a shop and make decent money, i save for fuck all. Obviously I pay all my dues and toss money for rent as well as internet, but ita fucking expensive to get a one bedroom out here.
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Which town / city are you from?
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iHuman posted...

Height?

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damn what the fuck
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Sunhawk posted...

Woodger posted...

Some of those seemed not so good until you mentioned you lived in the UK and then it made more sense.

Wtf? It's been a while since I've seen Anglophobia.

Anyway, I have lots of flaws. It's sad.

I didn't mean in a bad way, the UK's just kinda all about the low wages, high rents and social unavailability. Most of what you consider flaws, they're not surprising in such a place

No wonder you hate pinky.

Sunhawk posted...

11. I still have long hair, when men are meant to have short hair.

Lmao "meant to"? According to who

Dude when I was 25 I was mostly unemployed, didn't know how to drive yet, took the bus everywhere, lived at home was way overweight, only worked at a movie theater, tho I would work a temp job for 3 months for the census, but then worked at a supermarket for two and a half years til like 2013 then got a data entry job that while paid the same ($9) was full time at 40 hours a week, after two and a half years at that job, I got hired at an insurance company and now make a yearly salary and live on my own.

Get a haircut, look for things to go out to do, even if its going to a thrift store or whatever. And just apply, there are plenty of non-retail jobs out there that will pay the same as you are now, if you do one of these for 2 years or so, hey your resume now has actual experience that can lead to better paying office jobs.
Do not apply to any retail jobs (Supermarkets, movie theaters, food places) and just try your best.
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BignutzisBack posted...

Sunhawk posted...

I'm really surprised more people aren't jumping on this? Given the fact that quite a few people on CE hate me, I would've thought they would loved a self-confessed list of certain flaws. I'm giving this to them on a silver platter.

Didn't you used to be really social when you were younger and then one day you just decided to quit?

I don't know about "really social", but I was reasonably social between about 21 - 23. After that, I dunno, I had hardly any friends, and nothing much has changed in 10 years. Depressing, huh? I'm surprised that I didn't consider having no friends important enough to put in my list of adult deficiencies, but having a debit card instead of a credit card was.

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Shut_TheF---Up posted...

Sunhawk posted...

11. I still have long hair, when men are meant to have short hair.

Lmao "meant to"? According to who

I dunno. I guess it's the prevailing social trend. I remember about 13 or 14 years ago, at several jobs I used to work, my so-workers (many of whom were very backward), used to make fun of my hair all the time. Although, it's become more socially acceptable since then, and the people I've met over the years since then haven't generally been backward.

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