Current Events > I've just accepted that I'll be the type of guy that girls settle down with

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when they realized they hit their wall in their mid 30s and just want some boring guy for stability. Hopefully I can work myself up to be that because I know for damn sure I'm not getting any girls now.

So what do you offer women? Why should they want to be with you?
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Theres nothing wrong with that. Except for when you said boring. If youre boring, thats your own fault. You dont have to be boring, and if you do settle for being boring, youre wrong for thinking a woman will want to settle for you.

Step 1- identify tangible reasons you cant get a girl
Step 2- address those reasons

Fat and out of shape? Hit the gym
Socially awkward? Go out to a bar across town and have conversations with people
Physically awkward? Hire a working girl (if legal near you) and practice
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DavidWong posted...

So what do you offer women? Why should they want to be with you?

I'm not defending my qualities, that's why I said I've come to this realization. Hopefully I'll at least have decent income in about 10 years, so I'll have that to offer at least.

An_Actual_Chad posted...

Theres nothing wrong with that. Except for when you said boring. If youre boring, thats your own fault. You dont have to be boring, and if you do settle for being boring, youre wrong for thinking a woman will want to settle for you.

That's fair

daftpunk_mk5 posted...

Step 1- identify tangible reasons you cant get a girl
Step 2- address those reasons

Words of wisdom. A lot of people can't get a date because they're just lame to be around and accept it.
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Be glad you aren't living in a shoe-box apartment eating bologna sandwiches every day because of child support.
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I'd be fine doing if she lived a boring life like me before getting married. We'd actually be made for each other in that case. But I feel like it'd be irritating being the guy some party girl just settles with, if you never got to experience that lifestyle yourself. I don't want a constant reminder that I missed out on everything. Not that I could find a wife anyway though lol.
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Aloner posted...

I'd be fine doing if she lived a boring life like me before getting married. We'd actually be made for each other in that case. But I feel like it'd be irritating being the guy some party girl just settles with, if you never got to experience that lifestyle yourself. I don't want a constant reminder that I missed out on everything. Not that I could find a wife anyway though lol.

I used to feel that way too, but I've just come to accept it.

You can't just completely change your personality and way of thinking. That's like going, "Hey. Why don't you just be as funny and witty as Robin Williams, or Jim Carrey, or John Steward?"
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Conflict posted...

Aloner posted...

I'd be fine doing if she lived a boring life like me before getting married. We'd actually be made for each other in that case. But I feel like it'd be irritating being the guy some party girl just settles with, if you never got to experience that lifestyle yourself. I don't want a constant reminder that I missed out on everything. Not that I could find a wife anyway though lol.

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Is that you, Whoapro

Nope. I only remember him from the Politics board.
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Kisai posted...

You can't just completely change your personality and way of thinking. That's like going, "Hey. Why don't you just be as funny and witty as Robin Williams, or Jim Carrey, or John Steward?"

yup

Do you try to get girls or just sit around and hope one of them chooses you?
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An_Actual_Chad posted...

You dont have to be boring

what's your advice to people who have crohns and have to sit on the toilet for 8 hours a day?

TheVipaGTS posted...

Do you try to get girls or just sit around and hope one of them chooses you?

Probably in the middle