Current Events > My MIL is a nightmare

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I wish I was kidding or exaggerating but I think Im not. She was so nice when I met her a year ago I dont know what happened.

First thing that let me know something was off was when Houle and I arrived from Mexico and she picked us up. I was still sniffling and tearing up from leaving my family and she comes and hugs me, asking how Im feeling.
I just miss my fami- she literally pushes me and says OKAY ENOUGH, TIME FOR MY SON and goes to Houle.

Then two weeks ago she comes to visit us and we dont have any wine (she loves the stuff) so Houle and I go get some after asking if she wanted to come which she declined saying her legs hurt. We come back to see she went to our room upstairs and took out our puppy, puppy gets excited to see us and she drops him face first into the hard floor. He starts yelping so fucking awful and I run to him to pick him up and meanwhile shes laughing her ass off. Not nervously laughing, full on cackling like this shit is hilarious while saying Oh hes fine! Nothing happened to him! Houle tells her that this isnt funny and asks her why she went to our room in the first place to which she gets angry and leaves. Just like that. She didnt speak to us for days.

Yesterday we had a late thanksgiving dinner at the grandparents house, where she also lives. Houle told me she rarely has dinner with the family. So grandma is working her ass off with dinner and setting the table while MIL is idk where. I help grandma set the plates and bring the food to the table and put my plate next to Houles. When I come back MIL is sitting there and Houles like yo my wife is there. Again, she gets angry and goes to eat at the kitchen by herself. I feel bad so I go tell her any seat is fine for me, so she goes sit next to my husband and I sit elsewhere.

Then a bit into the dinner grandpa is telling jokes and him and grandma start laughing pretty loud. MIL yells SERIOUSLY DAD, THIS IS WHY I NEVER EAT WITH YOU GUYS! and goes to her room.

She also has this weird annoying ass habit of calling every.single.day. to ask if were going out somewhere. Not to make plans with us, just to know where we are. We just blow her off but she still hasnt gotten the hint.

give us back houle
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SerPounceAIot posted...

First thing that let me know something was off was when Houle and I arrived from Mexico and she picked us up. I was still sniffling and tearing up from leaving my family and she comes and hugs me, asking how Im feeling.
I just miss my fami- she literally pushes me and says OKAY ENOUGH, TIME FOR MY SON and goes to Houle..

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C_Pain posted...

give us back houle

Hes already back on an alt >_>

Guys listen to me whine

your life sounds like a sitcom, tbh
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boxington posted...

your life sounds like a sitcom, tbh

She does have a lot of dramatic exits

Wow, she sounds crazy! Hopefully you guys live far away. What does Houle have to say in his mother's defense? Is this normal behaviour, or did it just come out of nowhere?
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Man I am lucky. My mother in law lives half a world away and absolutely loves me. When I went last year to visit her she treated me like her own son and drank beer and chatted with me while my fiance translated.
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Are you sure she isn't a lil kid
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Do your parents have a backup kid?

one that will actually stick with family

StucklnMyPants posted...

Wow, she sounds crazy! Hopefully you guys live far away. What does Houle have to say in his mother's defense? Is this normal behaviour, or did it just come out of nowhere?

she is literally losing her son to another woman
try to put yourself in her shoes
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SerPounceAIot posted...

Guys listen to me whine

That's not whining though, that's legitimate complaining. And that does sound pretty terrible. At least your husband understands how crazy she's acting though, right?
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OMG can you like actually sit down with this person and try to understand them.

Nothing about her reaction seems "crazy"

or out of nowhere
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I'm sure Houle wouldn't mind if you slapped her hard next time she acts up.
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armandro posted...

Nothing about her reaction seems "crazy"

- animal abuse
- sifting through another couple's private bedroom
- throwing tantrums

Sure she's sad/upset that another woman took her son away from her but does that give her a pass to act like a toddler?

TC, I can assume Houle is an only child? My mother acted a little crazy too towards my wife when we first got married. Hell she barely came to the wedding. Then when she did, she decided while my wife and I were getting ready, to throw her weight around at all of our guests and institute a seating chart so she could sit up front cause she arrived late. Then sat there and had a foul look not 15 feet away from us as we got married. I have pictures to prove it. Lol

It took her probably 1-2 years to get over herself and have some decorum when she was around my wife. Now she loves her....or is able to act like it anyway. >_>

Thankfully when we got married, we moved over 2 hours away so I don't have to see her much. :D
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Time to move far away.

I almost married a man that had a crazy ass mother. Only he would never stand up for me against her. It was the main reason we ended up breaking up tbh. Sounds like your husband at least tries to stand up to her.

The calling every day bs needs to stop. Maybe your husband should talk to her.

Kisai posted...

That's not whining though, that's legitimate complaining. And that does sound pretty terrible. At least your husband understands how crazy she's acting though, right?

Hes pretty shocked by her behavior and hes been on my side thank goodness. I havent said anything about her to him(aside from the puppy incident, that one I was furious about) cause the last thing I want is putting him against his own mom but shes been doing that all by herself :/

BlazinBlue88 posted...

TC, I can assume Houle is an only child? My mother acted a little crazy too towards my wife when we first got married. Hell she barely came to the wedding. Then when she did, she decided while my wife and I were getting ready, to throw her weight around at all of our guests and institute a seating chart so she could sit up front cause she arrived late. Then sat there and had a foul look not 15 feet away from us as we got married. I have pictures to prove it. Lol

He is! And she actually didnt come to the wedding. She said her fibromyalgia was acting up, but 1.- she said that a full year before the wedding and 2.- A lot of doctors have told her she doesnt have it but she keeps rejecting that and going to new ones.
The grandma did come (and she actually has fibro) and when she bought a dress that was in the same hue as the colors of the wedding the mom told her she either had to buy a new dress or wear a sign that said not the grooms mother. She also told her that she couldnt be the one next to the groom cause thats the mothers place. The grandma told her that if she was gonna be a bitch about it she should go >_>

Cleo_II posted...

The calling every day bs needs to stop. Maybe your husband should talk to her.

I think it stopped today, but not without a fight. She made her usual call and asked the usual question but this time Houle answered and told her its uncomfortable that shes asking that everyday. She said Im sorry for making conversation and hung up.

That's tame compared to my MIL, count your blessings
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My MIL thinks people are living in her walls. She spent thousands of dollars on a security camera system and then keeps claiming that "they" keep deleting footage whenever I ask to see the people getting into her walls.
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PoopPotato posted...

My MIL thinks people are living in her walls. She spent thousands of dollars on a security camera system and then keeps claiming that "they" keep deleting footage whenever I ask to see the people getting into her walls.

Sounds like the stuff my dad was saying when his dementia got worse.
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f that mil
or some joke like that, idk go with the obvious
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Feel like she's too young to have dementia at 50 something. Some other mental stuff for sure.
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PoopPotato posted...

Feel like she's too young to have dementia at 50 something. Some other mental stuff for sure.

My dad's dementia started at 62.
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it's aggravating how much you tolerate this person. tell houle to grow a sack and kick her to the curb

Not to derail the topic, but did you move from Mexico to Canada? That's quite a transition! How did you guys decide on it?

Ruvan22 posted...

Not to derail the topic, but did you move from Mexico to Canada? That's quite a transition! How did you guys decide on it?

I hear dey flipped a coin
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My mom would probably be overjoyed and think it was a miracle if I ever actually got married, lol

Ruvan22 posted...

Not to derail the topic, but did you move from Mexico to Canada? That's quite a transition! How did you guys decide on it?

Better quality of life, Houle has a pretty good job that Im pretty sure leaving would hurt us a lot in the long run, low key getting away from my crazy dad. The possibility of living in Mexico is still open but, honestly we dont think he could a better job than he has atm.
It really sucked that my degree is worth peanuts in Canada but I can just start over, I dont really care.

Aeriis posted...

She sounds nuts. When will you see your family again?

A yearish ): I also had to leave my dog with my mom and its killing me not seeing her.

SerPounceAIot posted...

Kisai posted...

That's not whining though, that's legitimate complaining. And that does sound pretty terrible. At least your husband understands how crazy she's acting though, right?

Hes pretty shocked by her behavior and hes been on my side thank goodness. I havent said anything about her to him(aside from the puppy incident, that one I was furious about) cause the last thing I want is putting him against his own mom but shes been doing that all by herself :/

BlazinBlue88 posted...

TC, I can assume Houle is an only child? My mother acted a little crazy too towards my wife when we first got married. Hell she barely came to the wedding. Then when she did, she decided while my wife and I were getting ready, to throw her weight around at all of our guests and institute a seating chart so she could sit up front cause she arrived late. Then sat there and had a foul look not 15 feet away from us as we got married. I have pictures to prove it. Lol

He is! And she actually didnt come to the wedding. She said her fibromyalgia was acting up, but 1.- she said that a full year before the wedding and 2.- A lot of doctors have told her she doesnt have it but she keeps rejecting that and going to new ones.
The grandma did come (and she actually has fibro) and when she bought a dress that was in the same hue as the colors of the wedding the mom told her she either had to buy a new dress or wear a sign that said not the grooms mother. She also told her that she couldnt be the one next to the groom cause thats the mothers place. The grandma told her that if she was gonna be a bitch about it she should go >_>

Cleo_II posted...

The calling every day bs needs to stop. Maybe your husband should talk to her.

I think it stopped today, but not without a fight. She made her usual call and asked the usual question but this time Houle answered and told her its uncomfortable that shes asking that everyday. She said Im sorry for making conversation and hung up.

Geez she sounds super passive aggressive. You married a good guy though. My exs mom decided not to come to our wedding one week before and my ex insisted we postpone. We spent a crap ton of money on the wedding and my family had already flown in. He said I was being selfish when I didnt want to postpone to accommodate his moms temper tantrum. I dumped him.

If he stays firm with her shell get the message eventually. Shes having a hard time letting go.

SerPounceAIot posted...

Ruvan22 posted...

Not to derail the topic, but did you move from Mexico to Canada? That's quite a transition! How did you guys decide on it?

Better quality of life, Houle has a pretty good job that Im pretty sure leaving would hurt us a lot in the long run, low key getting away from my crazy dad. The possibility of living in Mexico is still open but, honestly we dont think he could a better job than he has atm.
It really sucked that my degree is worth peanuts in Canada but I can just start over, I dont really care.

Aeriis posted...

She sounds nuts. When will you see your family again?

A yearish ): I also had to leave my dog with my mom and its killing me not seeing her.

Ahh those sound like pretty solid reasons.. am I remembering correctly that you were a physician? I've heard that those licenses are difficult to transfer across countries....

On topic, your MIL sounds really unaware of her role in the situations, which is both sad and scary :(

Shes French-Canadian what did you expect >______>
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Bio1590 posted...

Shes French-Canadian what did you expect >______>

NOW IT ALL MAKES SENSE.

Yup. That's it.
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Bio1590 posted...

Shes French-Canadian what did you expect >______>

Haha my sister married a French Canadian and his mom acted similar when they got married.