Poll of the Day > My roomate is driving a car with expired tags and no insurance:(

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Just got home from my date and noticed my roomate left in the car she just got fixed a few days ago. Thing is, she still needs to register it (she hadn't driven it for 6+ months and the tags expired 2 months ago) AND it is not currently insured either.


I'm not her father/mother but if she gets pulled over, couldn't they impound her car?

She also just spend all her money fixing it (and needed to borrow $60 from me), so she doesn't have any left, and won't have any to get tags or insurance till the end of the month.

This having a roomate thing is kinda stressful.
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Dont worry about you roommate
also, dont lend her money
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Yes, they definitely would impound it. The lack of registration is usually grounds for impound, with the lack of insurance being an extra issue.

Ogurisama posted...

also, dont lend her money

This, pretty much, although if it's a really small amount that she needs for something important (which would help her pay rent) I can kinda understand doing.
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This is how it starts. You're gonna end up this lady's sugar daddy. She's gonna ask you to pay to register it and ask you to pay for the insurance. Idk why you moved this lady and her kid in as roommates. You even said in your original post it's like a fake family or whatever. It's just a strange situation.
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What everyone else said is true.

Only thing I have to add is, how'd your date go?
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Won't necessarily be impounded. I got pulled over for speeding once and my car hadn't been registered for like 2 months (slipped my mind and I never realized it) and I didn't have proof of insurance.

I just got a ticket, which mostly got thrown out.
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lot of uneducated people in this topic

as many of you know, life is different for some people. for me, it doesn't want me to succeed. i've been driving without insurance for like, almost a year, and i haven't updated my tag since 2015. what can i do? shit's too expensive and i still need to pay for shit like food and electricity

so i mean i get away with it forever but of course everyone's luck runs out, i'm just pissed mine ran out in the dumbest way ever. last month i was driving near my house on a back road where i never see cops, so i don't bother watching my speed and long story short i get pulled over and ho ho ho, i guess my luck didn't completely run out b/c all i got was a speeding ticket

which was due today but of course i didn't pay that, either. What do they expect, I can't afford that shit. But the irony is that to go and make money I need a job, which requires me to drive--but wait, I can't afford insurance, so it's illegal! But wait, I can't afford a tag (which is a huge fucking scam btw), so it's illegal!

*shrug* and the BIGGEST irony is that if they take me to jail, a lot of my problems would be fixed. they'd have to feed me and take care of me and i wouldn't have to pay shit. I never leave my house anyway and everything is boring as shit

What a fucked up society this is. I'm glad you kids will never experience this side of it. Ignorance is bliss, as the ysay.
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Shenti that all sounds like something you should have posted on Facebook and not on a video game website forum.
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The_Beta_Male posted...

Ridiculous story

Beta indeed.
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Yeah, I may have made a mistake, but I hope not. I'm certainly not paying for anything else (Already told her that). I did want someone to use the downstairs and was/am willing to help out (don't mind making extra food etc, since I enjoy it), but I'm in no way going to be her sugar daddy or date her etc.

Actually decided to post and start dating just to make that very clear without needing to come straight out and say it (After she asked me for a lone and had me pick her up the other night because she was too drunk to drive home).

I know i'm too trusting, but at the same time I have an interview for a 50k a year Gov. Job tomorrow because of her, so it's not all bad. I'm mostly worried that she is going to end up loosing her car, then her job etc.

She still seems nice and mostly responsible and she doesn't drink etc when she has her kid (Every other week, she gets her back tonight).

The other decent option I saw for renting was the family with 5 pets (which would be 6 with siren) and I thought that would be worse, and way too stressful for Siren (my cat).

I could have waited longer etc, but this seemed like the best bet. And she has been a good roomate over all. Just mostly worried because she is making decisions I think are bad, but I'm not in a position to really tell her that (but at the same time I'm worried about her).

She is living month to month on what she makes which is mega scary to me. I realize alot of people do that, but it would seriously freak me out.
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Erik_P posted...

What everyone else said is true.

Only thing I have to add is, how'd your date go?

Part one went well, we walked around and talked from 11am till 4pm. She had dinner plans but we are meeting up again at tumwater falls at 6pm for part 2.

Like her, she is cute (short, but we hugged and she fit well in my arms) and has similar interests to me. Still just getting to know her and she is ok with taking it slow as well.

See how tonight goes, won't be anything heavy though as neither of us are looking for that right away. Probably just more talking etc....but that is fine with me:)
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What type of job does yor roommate have?

Jen0125 posted...

This is how it starts. You're gonna end up this lady's sugar daddy. She's gonna ask you to pay to register it and ask you to pay for the insurance. Idk why you moved this lady and her kid in as roommates. You even said in your original post it's like a fake family or whatever. It's just a strange situation.

Still want something like that, I mean everyone I have ever lived with has become like family to me. Honestly it could have been worse, but yeah, I plan everything ahead like a million years in the future, and plan for all contingencies etc. It's hard to watch someone who........doesn't really plan things out etc.

She is a fine roomate though (not done anything wrong, paid her rent and utilities etc), it's mostly that I can see her doing things that may ruin her life and it freaks me out.
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green dragon posted...

What type of job does yor roommate have?

She works in the department I am interviewing for tomorrow (she has an interview for a perm job on Wed, but is permanent already in Alcohol licensing).

She let me know about the 6 positions. I put together my resume and applied and got one of the 14 interviews based on that.

She got another one of them.

There are 10 people who already work in the department applying though (and 3 others like me who are from outside). I'm way over qualified and my resume rocks though, so even though they have people who already work there/know the job, I still have a decent chance.
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I have the same problem with my dogs

Neither of them work and they are constantly guilting me into paying for their shit
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Jen0125 posted...

Shenti that all sounds like something you should have posted on Facebook and not on a video game website forum.

but i didn't make a topic about it

git gud
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Another example of not planning.

This car she is driving, needed to be fixed after it was stolen awhile ago. Cost 400$ for the body work that had to be done, then another $700 or so for a new alternator, lights, brake work etc.

All that is fine (Except she was $60 short and needed to borrow it...but I'm ok with that, it's not much), but I went to help her pick it up, and when driving it back for her (she had a friends car that she was driving temp), I noticed the transmission is thrashed in it (Auto transmission and it keeps skipping etc).

I talked to her about it, and it was like that even before it was stolen. She had not mentioned it to me (again not her father, so no reason to) but honestly with $1100 already spent on it and the cost to register it still needing to be paid, she could get a decent car for not much more, that does not have transmission problems (Which are quite expensive to fix).

So yeah, things like that. I tend to take responsibility for everyone and worry about them, but I'm not in control of her decisions. I went through her finances etc and she should be able to save about $600 a month after her bills etc, but she is spending that every month going out and drinking etc, and has no savings.

That is crazy to me, but she is certainly not the first person I have seen do that.

Now she is driving her car (only way for her to get around) without it being registered and Insured and she is picking her kid up at 6pm tonight, which is even worse.

Can't fix everything or solve everyones problems, but it sure is hard watching people make bad decisions.

Anyway off for date part 2!!! Happy Easter everyone.
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Is she paying rent on time at least?
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I think it just sounds like you're too nice and want to make others happy, no matter the cost to yourself. Do NOT be another voluntary doormat. The world has too many of them and they drift through life disrespected and unhappy. I've known some and tried to help them, but the issue can not be forced. The people here want nothing from you and have nothing to gain no matter which direction you ultimately head in. Take that to mean everyone cares and wants what's best for you, and is coming from a place without an emotional bias.

Parasites are very good at their job, otherwise they'd be straight-up homeless instead. Given the circumstances, you need to have a written contract with her that makes everything clear regarding financial expectations. Even things like driving her home when she is too drunk can be a slippery slope because of the dependence associated with it. Every once in a while is not a big deal, but past a certain point (more than once a month) tell her to take a taxi and make her pay for it. When presented with a financial plan, or whatever you want to make it, somebody that respects you and the help you're providing will abide by it, a freeloader will always try to turn it around on you with a guilt trip or by making you feel like the villain.

The more her dependence grows, the harder of a time you'll have getting rid of her for a number of a reasons. Users have a habit of anchoring people down and making them accept it. I'm not trying to make her sound like the devil, but she is clearly both irresponsible and needy to varying degrees. Also, if she does have increasing feelings for you and you're going out with somebody else, there's always a risk she could try to sabotage things, passively or otherwise, because there'd be a looming threat to her present situation.
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it's really not expensive.

less than $100 unless you have vanity or personalized
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My mom drove her car with expired tags for awhile. She did get pulled over a couple of times, but she ended up with warnings. Then she stopped so she wouldn't get in a "strike three, you're out" situation.

wolfy42 posted...

It's hard to watch someone who........doesn't really plan things out

Been there, lol

TheCyborgNinja posted...

Given the circumstances, you need to have a written contract with her that makes everything clear regarding financial expectations.

Pull a Sheldon and give her a roommate agreement :D
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I don't get how she has money to spend on drinks, yet not enough money to pay her bills

green dragon posted...

I don't get how she has money to spend on drinks, yet not enough money to pay her bills

It's not that hard to understand: her priorities are out of whack
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wolfy42 posted...

Just got home from my date

I think I may have missed something. When did you get a date?
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The_Beta_Male posted...

lot of uneducated people in this topic

as many of you know, life is different for some people. for me, it doesn't want me to succeed. i've been driving without insurance for like, almost a year, and i haven't updated my tag since 2015. what can i do? shit's too expensive and i still need to pay for shit like food and electricity

so i mean i get away with it forever but of course everyone's luck runs out, i'm just pissed mine ran out in the dumbest way ever. last month i was driving near my house on a back road where i never see cops, so i don't bother watching my speed and long story short i get pulled over and ho ho ho, i guess my luck didn't completely run out b/c all i got was a speeding ticket

which was due today but of course i didn't pay that, either. What do they expect, I can't afford that shit. But the irony is that to go and make money I need a job, which requires me to drive--but wait, I can't afford insurance, so it's illegal! But wait, I can't afford a tag (which is a huge fucking scam btw), so it's illegal!

*shrug* and the BIGGEST irony is that if they take me to jail, a lot of my problems would be fixed. they'd have to feed me and take care of me and i wouldn't have to pay shit. I never leave my house anyway and everything is boring as shit

What a fucked up society this is. I'm glad you kids will never experience this side of it. Ignorance is bliss, as the ysay.

Where'd you get that shitty C/P meme from?
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RCtheWSBC posted...

Is she paying rent on time at least?

She paid it early every time so far, actually as soon as she gets paid she pays the rent, and same with the utilities in the middle of the month.
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TheCyborgNinja posted...

I think it just sounds like you're too nice and want to make others happy, no matter the cost to yourself. Do NOT be another voluntary doormat. The world has too many of them and they drift through life disrespected and unhappy. I've known some and tried to help them, but the issue can not be forced. The people here want nothing from you and have nothing to gain no matter which direction you ultimately head in. Take that to mean everyone cares and wants what's best for you, and is coming from a place without an emotional bias.

Parasites are very good at their job, otherwise they'd be straight-up homeless instead. Given the circumstances, you need to have a written contract with her that makes everything clear regarding financial expectations. Even things like driving her home when she is too drunk can be a slippery slope because of the dependence associated with it. Every once in a while is not a big deal, but past a certain point (more than once a month) tell her to take a taxi and make her pay for it. When presented with a financial plan, or whatever you want to make it, somebody that respects you and the help you're providing will abide by it, a freeloader will always try to turn it around on you with a guilt trip or by making you feel like the villain.

The more her dependence grows, the harder of a time you'll have getting rid of her for a number of a reasons. Users have a habit of anchoring people down and making them accept it. I'm not trying to make her sound like the devil, but she is clearly both irresponsible and needy to varying degrees. Also, if she does have increasing feelings for you and you're going out with somebody else, there's always a risk she could try to sabotage things, passively or otherwise, because there'd be a looming threat to her present situation.

I tend to be nice and try and take care of people/help them, but I'm not a doormat, I only do so much and I only do it if the person actually uses the help to better themselves. I have seen how dependancy can grow in the past and I am not going to let that happen again.
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Blue_Thunder posted...

Pull a Sheldon and give her a roommate agreement :D

Lol, hasn't gotten that bad yet, but it's an option.
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green dragon posted...

I don't get how she has money to spend on drinks, yet not enough money to pay her bills

She was also so drunk that she left a $10 tip for a $10 bill at the place I picked her up from as she didn't want to wait for change and only had a $20 (I had like 4 1's so couldn't help).

But yeah, she didn't know about the car costs when she went out, still probably should not have spent it drinking, but again...priorities or planning. Some people just spend the money as long as they have it:(
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wwinterj25 posted...

wolfy42 posted...

Just got home from my date

I think I may have missed something. When did you get a date?

https://www.gamefaqs.com/boards/3-poll-of-the-day/75238977?page=1#97

That is the link to the thread that talks about it. Basically put an ad up the other night, met a few real people, chatting with Shannon last night for a few hours then again this morning and we made a date for tonight.

Her job canceled for 11am though and I was going to go shopping for clothes for tomorrow, and she offered to come with me, so we went on an early date as well. So two dates in one day lol. Basically spent the whole day together other then 4-6 pm.
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wolfy42 posted...

-snip-

Sounds promising man nice!
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If she's going to pay you back then I don't think you should worry too much. If she does get pulled over, I'd advise her to keep all her information on the vehicle being previously stolen, and having to pay for the damages. Some cops are pretty understanding, so if they believe that she's working on getting all that together, then she may just go along with a warning. She shouldn't really push her luck too long with that though.

@The_Beta_Male if you're having trouble with money and paying for car stuff, maybe find a temporary job nearby to start paying some of that stuff off, or take the bus to a better paying job if it's an option.
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The_Beta_Male posted...

lot of uneducated people in this topic

as many of you know, life is different for some people. for me, it doesn't want me to succeed. i've been driving without insurance for like, almost a year, and i haven't updated my tag since 2015. what can i do? shit's too expensive and i still need to pay for shit like food and electricity

so i mean i get away with it forever but of course everyone's luck runs out, i'm just pissed mine ran out in the dumbest way ever. last month i was driving near my house on a back road where i never see cops, so i don't bother watching my speed and long story short i get pulled over and ho ho ho, i guess my luck didn't completely run out b/c all i got was a speeding ticket

which was due today but of course i didn't pay that, either. What do they expect, I can't afford that shit. But the irony is that to go and make money I need a job, which requires me to drive--but wait, I can't afford insurance, so it's illegal! But wait, I can't afford a tag (which is a huge fucking scam btw), so it's illegal!

*shrug* and the BIGGEST irony is that if they take me to jail, a lot of my problems would be fixed. they'd have to feed me and take care of me and i wouldn't have to pay shit. I never leave my house anyway and everything is boring as shit

What a fucked up society this is. I'm glad you kids will never experience this side of it. Ignorance is bliss, as the ysay.

If you don't pay the ticket you go to jail. Good luck affording your house or apartment or whatever, and you will lose your job, plus having a record will make it a lot harder to get employment in the future.
Insurance and tags are the law, no you don't have the right to ignore it (don't be a Sovereign Citizen), so if you can't afford it, don't drive.
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he lives with his grandma and, instead of getting a job, has been selling off his personal belongings


the irony being that if he didn't sell his dad's business he'd be fine
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