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i think understanding the person and you willing to adjust to something about them which you do not like is the key point here, simply loving the person may not be enough for successful marriage
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RedWhiteBlue posted...

Honesty, love, communication, compatibility (both mentally and physically).

what if wife or husband gets major sickness and physical compatibility is compromised? thats where love, understanding and compromise kicks in
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Definitely love and understanding.

Like, I love you sweetie, that's why I need you to understand that you can't leave the basement.
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Ephesians 5:22-30

Separating and being able to leave each other the hell alone sometimes and embrace what you enjoy. So many friends of mine are married and either aren't "allowed" do to things or go places, or even game when they want to. Most of them aren't happy.

I've been married for 14 years, neither of us are clingy, we both let each other be our own person and do our own thing when we want to. It's not all the time, but she has never made me feel guilty about wanting to go out with friends or game for the night online, she will find something else to do and vice versa.

As a result, we are both happy, sex life is great, we rarely, and I mean RARELY fight, maybe once a year. I still love her and she loves me, and we are both very happy.
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Coming on 3 years of marriage here. I'm my personal experience, the keyword is effort. Too many people see marriage as the finish line and think once they are married, they don't have to try anymore. You have to constantly make an effort to keep things fun and non complacent. Random gift, dates, signs of affection. How I act towards my wife is how I acted towards her when she was my girlfriend.
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its all about adjustments

It's really more about this than anything...

Marriages typically fall apart if one or both partners are unwilling to make any compromises.
If you go in thinking "you change for no man " or "you'll never change for a woman "....well, no wonder you're divorced 2-5 years later.

Marriage is generally a balancing act revolving around both participants staying satisfied enough to continue. What that requires can change day by day. Which means a LOT of compromises, years of compromises.

If the couple can't maintain that, it's not really successful. It's trickling down until it dissolves.
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Does this determine my base stats or something.

Am I in kingdom hearts
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slothica posted...

Definitely love and understanding.

Like, I love you sweetie, that's why I need you to understand that you can't leave the basement.

This
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Lol'd at dominance
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in my experience as a married person, respect and communication are the big drivers of success
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