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WafflehouseJK
04/08/17 3:29:57 AM
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It very rarely works out, and 9 times out of 10 will just hurt and waste the time of both people involved.

It's normal to feel loneliness and to want companionship, but you cant expect someone else to give you happiness. You have to be able to have your own happiness for it to work, putting those expectations of making you feel better/happy on another person isn't fair or possible. Someone else CAN make you happy, but you have to be satisfied with yourself beforehand if you want things to work out long term.

The best relationships often come naturally, and shouldn't be forced or rushed into out of a desperate need to find a relationship. You'll find someone you click with if you go out and get involved in things, and put yourself out there in general.

But don't think that just being in a relationship will fix your problems and make you happy with yourself. You have to work on improving and bettering yourself first, and hopefully meet that right person along the way.
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FF_Redux
04/08/17 3:33:24 AM
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Yeh, I kinda did that last summer and yeah it didn't last long.
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Cartwheel_Kick
04/08/17 3:36:35 AM
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its fine. we all need to go through a relationshit at first.

take what comes
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GODTIER
04/08/17 3:38:31 AM
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It's a case by case basis.

Sure, you're less likely to completely open up to someone and truly love them if you don't love yourself, but some people just need a little reassurance from the right person to finally start believing in themselves.

You don't have to be completely 100% ready for a relationship to start one.

You are right though, they should come naturally. They should not be forced. Simply because the ones that occur naturally come when both parties have equal attraction, not necessarily that both parties are content with their lives.
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Cartwheel_Kick
04/08/17 4:17:43 AM
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GODTIER posted...
It's a case by case basis.

Sure, you're less likely to completely open up to someone and truly love them if you don't love yourself, but some people just need a little reassurance from the right person to finally start believing in themselves.

You don't have to be completely 100% ready for a relationship to start one.

You are right though, they should come naturally. They should not be forced. Simply because the ones that occur naturally come when both parties have equal attraction, not necessarily that both parties are content with their lives.


no its not a case by case

everyone goes thru a shitty abusive relationshit firsr. might as well get it out of the way as early as possible
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AzurexNightmare
04/08/17 4:31:39 AM
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FF_Redux posted...
Yeh, I kinda did that last summer and yeah it didn't last long.


Disturbing that you're always first to reply in these. Anybody else please reply instead thanks
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Bok_Choi
04/08/17 4:33:49 AM
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you wouldn't believe the number of cemen who believe you can't have life problems if you're in a relationship

"ce my life is hard right now"

but you're dating that girl tc

"...what"
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WafflehouseJK
04/08/17 12:56:23 PM
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GODTIER posted...
It's a case by case basis.

Sure, you're less likely to completely open up to someone and truly love them if you don't love yourself, but some people just need a little reassurance from the right person to finally start believing in themselves.

You don't have to be completely 100% ready for a relationship to start one.

You are right though, they should come naturally. They should not be forced. Simply because the ones that occur naturally come when both parties have equal attraction, not necessarily that both parties are content with their lives.

While I kinda get what you're saying, someone who is completely miserable and hates themselves isn't gonna have anything get fixed by starting a relationship. They at least need to be on the path of improving themselves to be who they want themselves to be already.

Bok_Choi posted...
you wouldn't believe the number of cemen who believe you can't have life problems if you're in a relationship

"ce my life is hard right now"

but you're dating that girl tc

"...what"

A lot of people think that relationships are some magic cure for all of your problems. Media doesn't help with that either, there's so many songs that go on about how they need someone to "save" them by loving them or whatever, and that's not how it works. Being with someone you love can absolutely make things better, but it doesn't fix everything.
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WafflehouseJK
04/09/17 3:02:54 AM
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bump
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TheDarkCircle
04/09/17 3:04:45 AM
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Literally saturday night and we're on CE
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WafflehouseJK
04/09/17 3:06:23 AM
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TheDarkCircle posted...
Literally saturday night and we're on CE

It's true.

I honestly haven't been putting myself out there much in general. Been making some possibly not great decisions with who I've been spending most of my time with.
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TheDarkCircle
04/09/17 3:08:15 AM
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WafflehouseJK posted...
TheDarkCircle posted...
Literally saturday night and we're on CE

It's true.

I honestly haven't been putting myself out there much in general. Been making some possibly not great decisions with who I've been spending most of my time with.


Hey Waffle theres no right or wrong, just as long as your feeling good about yourself.
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Ultima Dragon
04/09/17 3:09:13 AM
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I don't understand relationships, but maybe I haven't met the right girl yet. I just feel like they don't really add much to my life (other than having a regular sexual partner), but they take a lot away. I have more responsibility, less freedom, etc. I feel like whatever emotions I'm going through, I'm going to have them with or without that person. It doesn't seem to change or improve anything.

I'm not sure if it's ever going to feel like love/this is a person I cannot imagine living without vs. this is a friend that I also have sex with.
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WafflehouseJK
04/09/17 3:10:59 AM
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TheDarkCircle posted...
WafflehouseJK posted...
TheDarkCircle posted...
Literally saturday night and we're on CE

It's true.

I honestly haven't been putting myself out there much in general. Been making some possibly not great decisions with who I've been spending most of my time with.


Hey Waffle theres no right or wrong, just as long as your feeling good about yourself.

I guess. Problem is, I don't know. Like, I'm happy when I'm hanging out with this person, but I'm not sure if it's good for me in the long run.

And I should probably be putting myself out there more anyways, just because it's a good thing to do in general.
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TheDarkCircle
04/09/17 3:12:52 AM
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WafflehouseJK posted...
TheDarkCircle posted...
WafflehouseJK posted...
TheDarkCircle posted...
Literally saturday night and we're on CE

It's true.

I honestly haven't been putting myself out there much in general. Been making some possibly not great decisions with who I've been spending most of my time with.


Hey Waffle theres no right or wrong, just as long as your feeling good about yourself.

I guess. Problem is, I don't know. Like, I'm happy when I'm hanging out with this person, but I'm not sure if it's good for me in the long run.

And I should probably be putting myself out there more anyways, just because it's a good thing to do in general.


I've been on and off with this one person for years and its I know it's terrible. But our time together makes me happy and doesn't get in the way of my life. As like as you're not preventing yourself from being productive who gives a shit ya know?
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Funkydog
04/09/17 3:25:21 AM
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NOW you tell me :(
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teepan95
04/09/17 3:25:55 AM
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WafflehouseJK
04/09/17 2:21:59 PM
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Funkydog posted...
NOW you tell me :(

Sorry. :(
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Funkydog
04/09/17 3:38:15 PM
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WafflehouseJK posted...
Funkydog posted...
NOW you tell me :(

Sorry. :(

Too late now. Suffered already :(
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