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Her mom was going to visit her this past weekend

she told me about it and we got excited that I was gonna meet her finally

I told her I'd bake her a cake, I can actually bake some mean sweets

My mother has met my, well, Ex now I guess

and I told her about the cake

my mom started baking her own cake, as an olive branch from my family to theirs

ultimately, after two days, her mom did NOT show up. we didn't find out until late in the day sunday

My mom got her feelings hurt.

my mom criticized both my ex and her mom. Her mom is known to do this and my mom is very opinionated

so yea, I should not have allowed mom to get involved on this, she can be a firecracker in bad ways if she feels offended

now my ex, she has a kid. She occasionally cancels plans because of her kid. THATS FINE, I want her to do that. but she feels like she lets me down all of the time and hates letting people down in general

so yea, because of her mom she let my mom down too, in her eyes.

She started saying she never had to worry about doing this before she got in a relationship. Eventually it became what it is now, the break

Thats why I'm so desperate, I tried to fix it, I tried to reassure her. it was caused on my end. but it all spiraled out of my hands and into oblivion

Shes a tough cookie, but also sensitive inside. Her kid comes first no matter what. She hasn't had a relationship in years, took a chance with me, and this happened

I feel horrible

the worst part is, thats just how my mom is, and she moved on instantly. Shes a hispanic lady in her 60s born during a certain time, shes a certain way

but I think I hurt my ex when I was trying to talk to her. I brought up the times she did miss out on our plans, trying to say they were all fine, but I also used the word flake as a general term for missing out on something, but yea, thats not what that means and she took offense.

She took that as me actually having issues with her, and that I was being let down by bringing up those times. I only brought up those times because those were the times she brought attention to her thinking she let me down

and I don't think I did it in a sensitive way either, I came off harsh when I wasn't trying to. I guess I'm not a soft guy. So imagine me trying to explain the explanation during this volcano explosion

There just was no convincing her anymore

Yea, I can see it being my mom's fault, but I knew this about her, I know how she acts and I still let her in just because they've already met a few times in the past months and got along. My older brother doesn't let my mom in anywhere his relationship with his wife

I inadvertently said some wrong things during a critical time without thinking about it

I know she was emotional, I'm emotional too, but I don't blame her for thinking all of this

her and her mom are not on the best terms either, this event was supposed to be them reconciling. and her kid was devastated too because she hasn't seen grandma in ages. So when that happened, and my mom happened, then I happened, she just wanted to end it. She didn't have to worry about these things when we weren't dating

then she said most of the things I posted earlier, which was yesterday, and here we are.

I might delete this later. I might not feel like looking at this again.

Oh I left out the part where I had a big fight with my mom because of this too

Thats why i'm sympathetic to my ex, just all of this being dumped on her during a vulnerable time. She also has depression as well, and she never opens up to anyone because they hurt her. She used to be in a few abusive relationships. Then she tried me.
Yes, all relationships are not picture perfect, they have ups and downs, but I guess she just doesn't want those extra downs anymore, even though they come with ups
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