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I talked to him about how unhealthy it was because of T_paynes_ghost's history with him mental health and him tendency to emotionally abuse the people around him. (Granted, I like T_paynes_ghost and wish the best for him, and hope he gets the help he needs.) They ended up not dating. When he talked to Muffinz0rz, he would send me screenshots of some suspect behavior and red flags from the stuff Muffinz0rz would say. Now I don't know the full context of these statements, but honestly I'm kind of creeped out by him now. They ended up not happening, as far as I know, due to reservations on Muffinz0rz's part. Muffinz0rz will honestly be better for it in the long run. Now with Catboy0_0, he would send me screenshots of the shit he would send him. He told him that he loved him after two days. Made him promise to marry him almost immediately while he was drunk. Talked about fathering children with him within a week. He would send me these screenshots and he displayed discomfort. I reaffirmed how fucked up and creepy that shit was. When I asked if he was imposing a relationship on him, he said that he was. He would even openly display discomfort in the Sanctuary discord about him interactions with him, even if he didn't name names. In Catboy0_0's case, on top of everything, I think he "loves" him because he gives him blind affection, defends him publicly even if it makes him look bad, and enables him worst traits. But he would go on to continue talking to whomever he was talking to because they gave him affection, because that's what he wanted ultimately. Generally in most cases though, he'd reciprocate the feelings of love back to the person. Telling them that he loved them back even if it's only been a week. He even did that to Drunkmuggle, even though in his case he did it to him first.

You see, the thing is, Green butter's biggest problem is him fat little son. They were in a strange, controlling relationship with one another before he royally fucked him over in unbelievable ways. Green butter has been open about the ways he's damaged him. Particularly to me and in the Sanctuary discord. But, he's not over him, clearly. He constantly complains about how he wants to be loved, even while people are actively showing it to him. Even after I gave him as much love as I could because he was receptive to it and said he wanted to feel that way, he would later go on to say that he hasn't been loved in a long time after the fact. Not since him ex husband. Now here's the thing, yeah? As far as I've interpreted it with everything I've seen, he's dating Catboy0_0 because him ultra creepy controlling dom nature reminds him of him ex. He wanted to date a mutual friend of ours because their discussions reminded him of him ex. He latches onto a bunch of people because he wants to feel loved, just like he did when he was with him ex. Even if him ex treated him like a bag of garbage.

He also has grown accustomed to being controlled in a relationship, both romantically and in him real life settings. You see, that's why he struggled with me. I pushed him to be an independent, self reliant, emotionally healthy person (again, at the time he said this is what he wanted). But he didn't want that. He wanted to be in him comfort zone. Have someone control him entire life while feeling loved, so that he doesn't have to make any decisions on him own. Plus, if something goes wrong, it's not him fault. Now, between hearing about him problems since we started talked, along with having front row seats to him cycling through unhealthy relationships, I'd developed a sense of overprotectiveness about him. In cases like this, if you care about them, you either do that or you get out of the way and drop them. But Green butter has severe trust and abandonment issues, and I wasn't willing to feed them. I'd always give him advice as much as I could, even if he didn't specifically ask for it. He'd always listen to me pointing out the very obvious red flags, but he'd normally end up doing whatever he wanted.
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