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NeonPhoenix posted...

I bet it's cuz they had to work hard to lose the weight, and seeing people be fat activists or just not care about being fat seems disrespectful to their hard work to them

Miquella posted...

It's bullying culture. Some people can't distinguish between being unnecessarily cruel and being realistic. Being overweight is unhealthy, that's a fact. Being sedentary leads to obesity, that's a fact. We can deliver facts without resorting to dehumanizing people.

I've also noticed that people who were once overweight or obese and then lost the weight tend to be the most cruel to others struggling with losing weight.

It is because it can feel exciting and gratifying for a person who has lived their life at the receiving end of social othering and belittlement to have the opportunity to now enforce that social order from the top. When the person was fat, especially if the person grew up fat, the world around them is very loud about the fact they are fat, that it is shameful, disgusting, a mark of their character, etc. They are made aware they are part of a social out-group. Escaping that out-group, or rather reaching the in-group of skinny people, may have been a major motivation for their weight loss.