In games and sports I can have fun losing as long as I don't get wolloped, but I very much love winning and if I know I've got a shot I will try my best to do so. Option 2 I guess. In arguments I tend to be submissive unless I'm 100% sure I've got the high ground.
Laugh, and the world laughs with you; Weep, and you weep alone;
For the sad old earth must borrow its mirth, but has trouble enough of its own.