@If he provided those details then I'd change my opinion. I can only make a judgment based on a post as it's written.
You sure about that? Dating an almost teenager coworker, in her 1st real job, where he's probably her boss or at least in a position of power over her?
Neat. I'll be dead honest and say that part of me still finds it weird to see two men kissing. But I learned a long time ago that that feeling is no one's problem but my own, and that I should just shut the fuck up about it whenever I get the itch to vocalize that opinion.If youre comparing internalized homophobia to me having an opinion on this topic then okay I guess?
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You sure about that? Dating an almost teenager coworker, in her 1st real job, where he's probably her boss or at least in a position of power over her?
where he's probably her boss or at least in a position of power over her?This is a completely different situation. Why are you conflating two completely different situations? You're just assuming that any 27 year old male who romantically pursues a 19 year old female is more than likely to be her boss or have a position of power over her?
I find it weird.. then again, I see dating someone even 2 years younger to me feeling like a whole ocean of distance emotionallyDude 2 years is nothing. Don't limit your dating pool like that. Back when I was still dating, I dated a woman that was 12 years older than me and we were fine emotionally (and I acknowledge that it not working was my fault). My girlfriend now is 4 years younger than me.
more so because thats been my experience
@You're making a shit ton of assumptions with that lol.
You sure about that? Dating an almost teenager coworker, in her 1st real job, where he's probably her boss or at least in a position of power over her?
Sounds like two consenting adults to me. None of my business.
Dude 2 years is nothing. Don't limit your dating pool like that. Back when I was still dating, I dated a woman that was 12 years older than me and we were fine emotionally (and I acknowledge that it not working was my fault). My girlfriend now is 4 years younger than me.
If they're both consenting who cares.
Legal, but I'll judge you a little bit. I don't think that large an age gap can have much in common. But if they can make it work and it's an equal partnership, then it's whatever.8 years is nothing, as my wife and are 16 years. We have different pop culture references but otherwise just fine.
I mean, legally there's nothing wrong, but big age gaps are way grosser the younger one of them is. There's so much life experiences that you have between ages 19 and 27, the one who's 27 is clearly a problem here, much moreso than if it was 27 and 35, even though that's the same age gap.Who gives a s***? Don't infantilize adults, don't take agency away from adults, why is that difficult to accept?
What's the silly thing about this, half your age plus 7?
How do the people against age gap relationships feel about 18 year olds doing Porn/Prostitution.Probably the same way the ultra conservative feel about gay or trans porn. Condemn it publicly but be the biggest consumers.
Yeah, there's nothing illegal about a 27 year old dating a 19 year old, and Im not here to police consenting adults. But at the same time, I think its okay to acknowledge that just because somethings legal doesnt mean there arent potential issues worth thinking about.Yeah I guarantee everyone here has something they find weird or odd thats perfectly legal. Something being legal doesnt mean one cant have thoughts on it.
Theres a big difference in life experience between someone fresh out of high school (or early college) and someone nearing 30. How they think about relationships, identity, career, independence, etc. That difference doesnt automatically make the relationship bad or predatory, but it can introduce a power imbalance or raise questions about why someone would seek a relationship with someone in a much earlier stage of adulthood.
It doesnt mean judgment needs to be harsh or loud either. Like, I might quietly side-eye it but also mind my own business unless something is clearly unhealthy. There's nuance here that I think gets lost when people jump to either "who cares, they're adults" or "this is obviously creepy." Most of the time, its neither of those extremes.
8 years is nothing, as my wife and are 16 years. We have different pop culture references but otherwise just fine.Thats the issue, its not the age gap itself, its when the age gap is taking place. As I said above, theres just so much a person experiences and goes through at 19, which youve likely already done long ago at 27.
But admittedly, I do think one person being 19 might mean they have even less in common.
Thats the issue, its not the age gap itself, its when the age gap is taking place. As I said above, theres just so much a person experiences and goes through at 19, which youve likely already done long ago at 27.
its not always like that universally of course, but I would have 0 problem with the same age gap if both people were older
Legally: I don't care.
In General: It's kind of a little weird but if you're both happy then you're good.
Practical Advice: I doubt it will work out. You two are at different points in your lives. She can't even go have a drink with the guy for another 2 years. The guy is probably starting a career, she is probably going to college or working random jobs.
Borderline imo since alcohol and other substances are restricted to 21 and up nowI can see how it could be weirder in America but in countries that actually treat adults like adults I dont see the issue
I can see how it could be weirder in America but in countries that actually treat adults like adults I dont see the issueSure, when you remove the substance restriction from the equation it makes the age gap less sus
Sounds like two consenting adults to me. None of my business.
Married a man 13 years older, been together for 11 years. Best decision my life.But at what age did you get together?