haloiscoolisbak posted...
I'm more interested in the dom issue more than the poly stuff
Is the only viable way for your relationship to survive if you're a dom in the bedroom?
Can't you mix it up and be submissive? Or do away with the whole concept of dom/submissive for a little bit and simplify the sex a bit?
I get that she probably enjoys being submissive herself but to me it all seems a bit reductive to just be like "she needs dom. I must be dom" especially if you're not comfortable with it
She wants a D/s dynamic outside of the bedroom. Sex is just a bonus. She is into the whole lifestyle. I've been to a local BDSM club down here and really liked it.
I'm very interested in pursuing the dynamic which is why it's so frustrating that I can never seem to get there.