LSGW_Zephyra posted...
It's ok, we both got there in the end in understanding it seems :)
Yeah, it's a thing. Lots of people have unchecked codependence, abandonment or neglect issues that often masquerade as jealousy. Part of exploring my own jealousy was realizing the thing that that I was actually fearing was abandonment and neglect. I didn't mind my partner sleeping with someone else, but rather the festering fear I wasn't good enough and would be discarded. That wasn't true, and it took time to unlearn and feel safe and to learn what makes me feel safe and secure in a relationship. I learned a lot about myself and I was able to take that forward into me next relationship.
Good to hear, hope your run went well.
Happy you found your way through that
LonelyStoner posted...
Idk if I would call it blunt. Id call it honesty.
There is no conceivable future in an open relationship that doesnt result in resentment or jealousy from all parties involved. Someone is getting the short end of that stick.
But I wasn't saying anything like that. I was only questioning things regarding the place of jealousy in both mono and poly relationships, and I never made a blanket statement about poly relationships.
Some of the difference in opinion was semantics about wording.