LSGW_Zephyra posted...
Ok, so there is a huge difference between "jealousy issues" and "jealousy". Jealousy at its face isn't an issue anymore then any other emotion is.
Jealousy is a big emotion. I mean that in terms of you can become easily jealous of lots of things. Jealous of your partner hanging out with friends, family or just having to work extra hours. All jealousy is, is the desire to have more of what you want when something else gets to have it.
So this is complicated for a myriad of reasons. Not everyone does, and those who do, often learn to no longer be bothered by it. I.e jealousy is not anymore of an unwanted emotion then sadness, anger, grief or whatever negative emotion you can think of.
People need to decide what's best for them. Being poly is not for everyone. If you have jealousy issues, then any relationship is probably going to be a problem. There are some jealousy issues people have with poly that mono-people don't have and vise versa. It's not really about jealousy but Codependence.
Theres a pretty distinct difference between your partner working more hours at their job and fucking other people.