I wish you guys the best.Doing worse than ever but I appreciate it anyway
Thanks, hope you're doing well.
Doing worse than ever but I appreciate it anywayI'm sorry to hear that. You deserve better.
I wish you could get away from your shitty family man that would be such a good step for you but i understand its hard
That stinks, but still better than me.
I would be a great dad.
Happy for you.
is it? I'm still a virgin.It's still not great, and we are in similar situations then. But you said you had a partner once.
I found posts on dating advice forums and gfaqs from 2008 I made. It does get way worse.I apologize then, I didn't mean to seem dismissive or anything with my response to you. Sorry that you're dealing with the same issues as I am.
Its not always that easy. The older I get, the more it hits me. Then I have days where Im super glad that I dont have kids. Its crazy. Knowing that I will probably live my whole life without building my own family unit is tough, but even though I feel old (36), a lot of people say Ive still got tons of time. So who knows?
I apologize then, I didn't mean to seem dismissive or anything with my response to you. Sorry that you're dealing with the same issues as I am.
You're a kind person Koga and have never deserved any of the crap you've gotten from your family and community. As I've told you over the years, you need to put your foot down and stop giving your family money. Save it up and get out of that garbage town of yours. There's nothing but negativity and judgement in a small town like that.100% agree
at least you dont live with your mother like i do. I probably have it worse. You probably have a job, friends, etc, right? I have none.I do live with my parents. I do have a part time job, but I don't like it, and literally every dime I make goes straight to supporting a family business I started, so I guess that counts as a type of success despite me actually losing a ton a money so far.
You're a kind person Koga and have never deserved any of the crap you've gotten from your family and community. As I've told you over the years, you need to put your foot down and stop giving your family money. Save it up and get out of that garbage town of yours. There's nothing but negativity and judgement in a small town like that.
Go into the world and the Billy Zane of someone's dreams.I really do wish I could travel and see the world. At least a little. But I'm never going to be anything to anyone, especially nothing of their dreams.
II really do wish I could travel and see the world. At least a little. But I'm never going to be anything to anyone, especially nothing of their dreams.I didn't say travel the world. I said go into the world. Your tiny mountain town is all you've ever known. You're isolated. Surrounded by the same couple thousand no nothing people you've been around your entire life that treat you like dirt. You don't know anything about the world outside of it so you don't realize all the great things the world has to offer. I was the same way before moving out of my tiny country ass hometown.
So you have a family business you support? Already ahead of me. I dont have anything. You at least have it better then I do.Sure.
This is why its so important to learn how to live for yourself. Smartest effing thing I ever taught myself. Do the best you can with the circumstances youre given.It doesn't really matter what society thinks. It's what I want out of life, and I'm unable to get it.
I learned as far back as high school that I wasnt meant to be with anyone romantically. And its not that I havent tried since then, of course. Sure, there were a lot of times where it really bummed me out, but accepting that I needed to live my own life and not how society thinks I should live has made it soooo much better.
I didn't say travel the world. I said go into the world. Your tiny mountain town is all you've ever known. You're isolated. Surrounded by the same couple thousand no nothing people you've been around your entire life that treat you like dirt. You don't know anything about the world outside of it so you don't realize all the great things the world has to offer. I was the same way before moving out of my tiny country ass hometown.I don't know why it's so difficult. Even when we go on a trip to the beach,vans I want to go out and check things out, I can't bring myself to do it.
There are several small cities within an hour and half from your town. Go visit them and explore on your days off. Find one you like, get a job there, and move. Leave your town and your family behind. Your dad sucks, your brother sucks, and your mom sucks(even if to a lesser degree)
Koga, your worst enemy is yourself. You hold yourself back with these thoughts.Yeah.
choose to face the generational trauma and make something out of your own life?I'm trying.
Maybe try the dating app, Boo? Works well for introverts.I've considered it. I'll reconsider once I'm in a better state mentally.
I wish I could help you get away from your abusive household but I cant even driveYou do too.
you deserve so much better