Ive been on dates with probably 100 women over the years and never been in a long-term relationship (just a few that lasted a few months). Not sure whats worse, mine or TCs situation.Yours is definitely better. You just need to figure out how to stay with someone long term. Do you even want to? Are you picking the wrong people? Is it the right people, but need to work on communication? You at least have a starting point to start from.
For me, I was able to identify girls that showed interest in me back in my school days, but I was too afraid to ask them out fearing either being rejected or being accepted and then having to be in a relationship.
When I was 18, I finally got the guts to ask a girl out to lunch and she said yes without hesitation. I was confident because she had been showing obvious signs she liked me for a few months prior and I kind of liked her and she was very polite and really shy which helped me make my decision. Even after having lunch with her, I didn't ask her out on any dates or to be my gf or anything even though I knew for certain she liked me and she would have said yes. I probably let her down by not asking her out.
I was just not ready to grow up back then. I'm still not ready now.
I will admit that short lunch I had with her, was probably the most confidence I've ever felt in my life about myself, which also scared me.
I don't get the oddity here.People understand all that just fine. What's odd is it going on for 20+ years. Those are all things that can be changed/learned.
All it takes to never go on a date:
- not being asked out on a date.
- not knowing how to identify anyone interested in dating you or how to actually ask them out in a date.
It's very simple. The combo of not physically standing out and lacking social logistics just works like that.
Yours is definitely better. You just need to figure out how to stay with someone long term. Do you even want to? Are you picking the wrong people? Is it the right people, but need to work on communication? You at least have a starting point to start from.
Not that TC's situation is that bad either depending on the why. It would be nice if he would come back and address the questions about his social life in general.
People understand all that just fine. What's odd is it going on for 20+ years. Those are all things that can be changed/learned.And this is why I usually have precious little sympathy for people in the TC's position. If you're genuinly aromantic or asexual, that's fine. The vast majority of incels and other adjacent types, though, not only have no social aptitude whatsoever, they refuse to learn it, despite it being an often vital skill in areas other than dating.