my therapist strongly believes i should take FMLA

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Dungeater
04/25/2024
10:59 AM
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despite the fact i just got back from a week off and am taking another trip in 2 months

and despite the fact we are about to lose 2 people in my department (i would be the third)

this doesnt feel very viable. what needs to happen is i need to actually find the time to search for a new job more seriously. this is such a shitty position to be in dude im so stressed out

the complaint calls at work have been getting worse too. i got this dude at 4:59 yesterday who opened the call by screaming into his receiver

why are people like this dude
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Dungeater
04/25/2024
11:19 AM
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i dont know. im just scared that what if i dont find anything while im gone? and also what if they get pissed that im screwing them over?
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Dungeater
04/25/2024
12:04 PM
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i guess im not worried about being punished so much as im worried about how interpersonal dynamics will change/become more difficult for me as a result
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ItsNotA2Mer
04/25/2024
12:30 PM
#7
Dungeater posted...
i need to actually find the time to search for a new job more seriously.

Did you look during your week off? Can you use some of your upcoming time off for job searching?
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Dungeater
04/25/2024
12:32 PM
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ItsNotA2Mer posted...
Did you look during your week off? Can you use some of your upcoming time off for job searching?
i was in vancouver helping my partner move, so no

and i only take time off to visit them
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04/25/2024
10:02 AM
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ItsNotA2Mer
04/25/2024
12:38 PM
#10
Dungeater posted...
i was in vancouver helping my partner move, so no

and i only take time off to visit them

You should use some of your time off to search for a job that is better for you.
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Dungeater
04/25/2024
12:39 PM
#11
thanks for the advice
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Dungeater
04/25/2024
12:47 PM
#13
thats a fair point, it just sucks to flush rapport down the toilet like that

and i dont know that ill have found a new job
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MrResetti
04/25/2024
01:08 PM
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FMLA can be denied but it's unlikely
Dungeater
04/25/2024
01:19 PM
#16
MrResetti posted...
FMLA can be denied but it's unlikely
by whom? insurance?

my therapist is practically begging me to take it at this point, she says im spiraling
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Dungeater
04/26/2024
09:56 AM
#17
got to the office

no one else on my floor is in

contractors are doing ceiling work installing putrid bright white lights

how did everyone know not to come in

i legitimately cannot believe this is the one life i have and this is what i get
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LSGW_Zephyra
04/26/2024
10:30 AM
#18
What is FMLA?
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Dungeater
04/26/2024
10:30 AM
#19
medical leave
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MrToothHasYou
04/26/2024
10:34 AM
#20
As someone who has had to use FMLA before take it. Listen to your healthcare providers. You will not regret it, and even if it makes things tougher on your employer/coworkers, thats not your fault, and your coworkers will understand.
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Dungeater
04/26/2024
10:35 AM
#21
MrToothHasYou posted...
As someone who has had to use FMLA before take it. Listen to your healthcare providers. You will not regret it, and even if it makes things tougher on your employer/coworkers, thats not your fault, and your coworkers will understand.
thats what everyone keeps saying. i really want to avoid the awkward conversations that will follow though

especially if i quit right after leave
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MrToothHasYou
04/26/2024
10:37 AM
#22
Dungeater posted...
thats what everyone keeps saying. i really want to avoid the awkward conversations that will follow though

especially if i quit right after leave
You dont have to be specific about why you took the leave. Most people wont even ask.
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ai123
04/26/2024
10:39 AM
#23
Corporate culture has been hugely successful in convincing employees that they should feel guilt over exercising their rights. Even when their health is at stake. FMLA is your legal entitlement. God knows workers don't have many.

Take what is due to you, knowing full well that the company you work for would not hesitate for a moment to do the same.
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Dungeater
04/26/2024
10:51 AM
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16-BITTER posted...
So why dont you just quit now
need money and insurance
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Dungeater
04/26/2024
11:02 AM
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16-BITTER posted...
You don't get paid under FMLA and, assuming your main insurance usage is for a therapist to assist with work related stress/anxiety, not working will do more good than the therapist ever could
work is not the only or initial reason i am in therapy

and i was under the impression i get like 50% of my salary for a couple weeks at least

whats the point then

edit: i was thinking of NY family leave
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Dungeater
04/26/2024
11:12 AM
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boy

i guess i can't afford leave

that seems pretty hopeless
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Guide
04/26/2024
11:14 AM
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Dungeater posted...
i guess im not worried about being punished so much as im worried about how interpersonal dynamics will change/become more difficult for me as a result

Valid concern, that's as much a part of our system as anything else, and it going awry can fuck with most everything.

It's seeming like you have to take the risk with one of these options, what's going now is unsustainable, and it seems like it's doing you some real mental damage.
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Dungeater
04/26/2024
11:19 AM
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16-BITTER posted...
Correct me if I'm mistaken, but are you not moving in with a wealthy partner that doesn't want you to work anyway?

Present circumstances seem kinda trivial in that light
that is months from now at the very least

possibly a year worst case scenario, with the looming animators strike
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Jaguar34
04/26/2024
11:24 AM
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Why are you taking a trip if your mental health is bad?

FMLA sucks you can't get paid and your bosses have to build a case against you to fire you

Why can't you work and focus on getting better?
Dungeater
04/26/2024
11:26 AM
#34
gee i never thought of it that way
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Jaguar34
04/26/2024
11:27 AM
#35
MrToothHasYou posted...
As someone who has had to use FMLA before take it. Listen to your healthcare providers. You will not regret it, and even if it makes things tougher on your employer/coworkers, thats not your fault, and your coworkers will understand.
This is good advice but TC doesn't understand he won't be paid for the time taken off

It's cheaper to stay at work and lessen your shift load through PTO if possible
Jaguar34
04/26/2024
11:29 AM
#36
I'm someone who had to take FMLA for a serious medical condition and it financially wrecked me. Getting back to work was difficult because you have to then work 2 weeks w/o being paid. Short Term Disability is when you get 60% of your income but it doesn't have the same protections as FMLA
Trumpo
04/26/2024
11:30 AM
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Dungeater
04/26/2024
12:23 PM
#38
mines cigna
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MrResetti
04/26/2024
01:21 PM
#39
Dungeater posted...
mines cigna
Sedgwick is outsourced HR not insurance
Dungeater
04/26/2024
01:24 PM
#40
ooo
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