LoveLikeJazz posted...
I'm making assumptions here but this is much easier to say if you've never been overweight, or if you are overweight and have no interest in losing it for whatever reason.
It's like, I've never smoked or drank a day in my life but I always catch myself thinking "why can't you literally just quit cold turkey?" before I realize "right... it's not that easy for everybody." It's a crutch for sure, just like food can be. Some people eat to live, others live to eat. Eating is emotional. Take that away from someone who feels it's the only thing they have to look forward to, and you've made that person so depressed they're bound to fail.
Not to go on a tangent, but honestly most people think they have to deprive themselves by going on a restrictive diet. They often don't realize they can (and should) eat quite a lot, as long as they eat nutritious foods and generally stay away from sugary, fried, processed foods. It's all so much simpler than it's made out to be, and the same can be said about exercise. How much to do, what do to, and why. But doing the initial homework is frustrating for people because of all the different advice out there. Everybody saying "this doesn't work, do this", pulling people trying to find the answer in all different directions, instead of "this doesn't work for me because ______ , try this instead". People need to identify with someone who has figured it out so that they can figure it out themselves.
Same can be said about tough love vs. coddling when it comes to calling someone fat or simply overweight.
You did make assumptions, I am overweight. I've lost 60 pounds in the past 2 years. I've been dieting and exercising since my engagement and marriage.
Nobody did me any favors by not addressing that being overweight causes health problems. It's better to call a spade a spade, and then deal with it. Again, if you want.