Villain_S_Fiend posted...
Those seem pretty nebulous. Any qualities that are unique to her (in your experience) that you love?
Villain_S_Fiend posted...
Those seem pretty nebulous. Any qualities that are unique to her (in your experience) that you love?
I guess her independence and artistic/creative nature. Specifically she would be just fine without me or any man in her life. My ex was basically helpless and couldn't do anything for herself and had zero ambition or drive and was a giant hippy and extremely naive. My fiancee doesn't need another person to entertain herself or find pleasure in life if that all makes sense. I knew I really liked her our first date when the waiter brought me my food first (we already ordered drinks) and I said "wow now I look like a giant asshole here and she pushed her drink my way and said "well you'll need this then let's complete the look" that's the wit I'm talking about. My ex would've literally cried.
Cruciferous posted...
You sound like me somewhat.
I would say there's a possibility she is simply trying to communicate her concerns but doesn't know to gently word it, doesn't know what being supportive looks like. If she's saying what you quoted verbatim, then yeah, that's pretty negative and unsupportive. But if you were paraphrasing... maybe she's being supportive in a different way.
Don't gaslight yourself, but maybe you two need to have a talk about this.
Because if this weren't your fiancee, I'd be advising you to leave (internet stranger opinions are important)
That's entirely possible, I'm her first serious relationship so maybe she doesn't know how to do it like you say and I'm overreacting. She didn't disagree when I called her out on it tonight, but damn, she's got me feeling stupid and not even wanting to go through with classes now at this point