I don't know what you're even arguing anymore. You've conceded that most men are pro-choice so you now seem to be trying to frame it in a way that isn't a deferential position by nature?
You should really just pick a better example because abortion rights are probably the single worst one you could've picked as an example of how men don't care what women think is best
He which make friends with scorpion, soon come to find out what a scorpion does - they bite people with its tail --ancient Chinese proverb